Don't you wish your husband was more successful?

[Anonymous]

Or you could have the worst of both worlds -- successful but poorly paid.


Actually, the worst is unsucessful and not an involved and good father and husband.

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Very true!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

No. He makes a reasonable amount, not a lot, but I am proud that he is smart and good at what he does, even if it isn't raking in the big bucks.

[Anonymous]

My husband is an enlisted member of the military. I have made/make 3 or 4 times the amount he makes annually.

If by "success" you mean money, no, I don't give a sh!t. His personal satisfaction in his job is what matters to me the most. If he is happy with it, I am proud of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

How proud you must be. (Sorry, you deserve this snark.) The next time I am at at party, I will "stop" and remark upon your husband.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

How proud you must be. (Sorry, you deserve this snark.) The next time I am at at party, I will "stop" and remark upon your husband.

She directly answered a direct question; I didn't detect a hint of bragging. Your jealousy is pathetic - almost as weak as your un-apology.

[Anonymous]

I don't wish he were "big law" salary more successful. I could not take the hours, etc. But, I do wish he had kept going with his Master's degree in his field to command a slightly higher salary. He could have gotten the degree for "free" (with some payback to employer in service). But didn't.

I make more. Wish I could have more flexibility with that.

Oh well. It could be worse.

[Anonymous]

My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

How proud you must be. (Sorry, you deserve this snark.) The next time I am at at party, I will "stop" and remark upon your husband.
She directly answered a direct question;

I didn't detect a hint of bragging.

Your jealousy is pathetic - almost as weak as your un-apology.

Then you must be pretty dense. I think my husband's job is pretty cool, but I definitely wouldn't phrase it the way that this poster did. Tacky.

[Anonymous]

No way . . . we just went out for great steaks, a bottle of Silver Oak, and an out-of-this-world dessert. Now we're going to bed.

Life is grand and far too short.

Enjoy it an don't sweat the small stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

How proud you must be. (Sorry, you deserve this snark.) The next time I am at at party, I will "stop" and remark upon your husband.

She directly answered a direct question; I didn't detect a hint of bragging. Your jealousy is pathetic - almost as weak as your un-apology.

I agree that her post was annoying. A job that "stops people at parties?" Come on. . .

[Anonymous]

I have been thinking about this question a lot lately.

My husband is in the medical field. He works very hard and makes a good, but not stellar salary. This is not an issue of drive.

I am former Biglaw partner who now works in house. So together we are doing well, but not rich by DC standards.

My husband is home every night before 630, never travels, and works occasionally doing paper work on weekends. He is an absolutely amazing father. he truly loves being with our kids, and isn't distracted by work when he is with them.

Having worked with some pretty high powered men in my 20 year career, I can honestly say that I wouldn't have it any other way. 15 years ago I probably would have said that I wanted some high powered career minded, super successful husband. Now that I have kids, not so much.

As I said, we still make a good income, but are not rich. I will admit I like you have some money, but how much do you really need.

We are incredibly happy. We are also older parents -- maybe that has something to do with it.

Bottom line, having drive and being successful in one's career is different from having no drive. I would not want a husband who is a slacker.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, ok, sort-of-successful men may bring home some bacon AND be great with the kids, but they tend to be very boring.

I would rather be with either a slacker (they tend to be fun, have a great perspective on life, and be generally cooler) or a shark.

[Anonymous]

No-- but I wish he could cook!!

DH and I met a couple years out of college and we were making relatively the same. He's brilliant and I knew he had serious ambition and was the hardest working person I ever met....hence he now has his own consulting business and earns about 3 times my not shabby salary. On that note- the hours are long..but now that we are older and established thankfully he has cut back some so he can asst. coach oldest son's first team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

Michelle? Why are you posting on DCUM? Shouldn't you be checking Sasha and Malia's homework?

[Anonymous]

No. When we graduated law school my husband worked for a big prestigious firm. He loved it. But he changed careers and is now a DCPS teacher. He loves this job even more than practicing law. He makes a real difference. I am so happy for him and so proud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has one of those jobs that stop people at parties - a bit of a dream job for many. He works really hard and is very talented, so I admire him for that, but he's not a huge high earner. But together our salaries mean we do great (I make about the same as he does). So he's successful but doesn't make a ton, which I suppose some people in this area would call not successful.

How proud you must be. (Sorry, you deserve this snark.) The next time I am at at party, I will "stop" and remark upon your husband.

She directly answered a direct question; I didn't detect a hint of bragging. Your jealousy is pathetic - almost as weak as your un-apology.

I agree that her post was annoying. A job that "stops people at parties?" Come on. . .

I think Secret Service would get this response. But I don't know what they make.

It's D.C., people. Folks from other places are impressed when you say you were an intern on the Hill. There's loads of jaw-dropping from newcomers. It's something I've witnessed as a D.C. Native. I think saying you work for Politico would have a lot of cache among some circles. Dunno. Published authors rarely bring in serious money---especially academic authors.

I've held "prestigious" fellowships that would make folks cry if they knew how little it meant in terms of $$$. I think that was PPs main point. There are different sides to being "more successful."