Late 40s woman: age-appropriate men look so old

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Anonymous wrote:I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy

I myself think you must be amazing.

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I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

I completely agree. Jesus. A balding man is ... just a man with less hair (see specimen a, a man). I'm less a fan of the fat, but a little extra weight is HARD to shift at this age (please see specimen b and specimen c, the male and female representations of individuals in their 50s who have gained weight and are having trouble losing it).

Wrinkles? As a mid-50s white woman it really comes with the territory. I'm a normal weight (not small, not large, just average size 8). I wear sunscreen, I moisturize, blah blah blah, but crows feet are real. Laugh lines - mine are deeper every year. That little vertical line above the bridge of my nose is looking for a friend across the bridge. If you use your face - wrinkles. And that hideous little bit of saggy skin on my jawline. Let me say I'm not a fan. (please review specimen d, the one sitting here at my desk).

But it's only fair. The (socially constructed) advantage of being white is offset by the physical degradation we suffer. LOL. My black and asian friends all look amazing -- and not because they are pouring more money into their bodies.

You get what you get.

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Anonymous wrote:They look so old because they don't take care of themselves as we do. I don't want to say how much I spend per year between laser treatments, skin care, hair coloring and cuts, pilates, gym, teeth, clothes, supplements, and clean food. I mean, it's kind of nuts. Of course, men my age will look much older than I do. I p

This is hyper delusional. No one is mis judging your age. Women may tell you that you look younger to flatter you and be a good friend. Men will flatter you for engagement and potential conquest. NO ONE IS ACTUALLY MIS-JUDGING YOUR AGE. I'm in my late 50s, have told dozens of female friends over the years how "young" they look but it has never once been true. I have never yet found out someone's true age afterward and been surprised.

Yes, some people are more well maintained than others. That is not the same as looking a different age. If I have a 50-year-old Ferrari in mint condition, I still do not think it is a brand new Ferrari. No one would.

Asian American here. I didn’t look much different at age 40 from 30. People often thought I was in my twenties and people often were shocked when I said I was 40. Then Covid happened and I’m now almost 50. At age 48, I definitely look forties and older than a short few years ago.

I have friends who are almost 50 who look fantastic. They put a lot of effort into their looks, had mommy makeovers, etc. I think it takes a lot of effort to maintain looking good in your fifties. I have never done Botox or laser therapy and salmon dna or other things some of my friends do.

Black women age beautifully too. I wish white people would stop making broad statements as if what applies to them holds true for all of humanity. White skin ages terribly. Darker skin not so much.

Every single black woman I know over 40 weighs north of 210 pounds. Without exception.

Then you don’t know many black women.

The women in my circles are all within a normal weight regardless of race.

pp is probably fat, too. it's contagious and those are her people.

Yeah, um, how many black women does she actually "know"?

-Signed a fit black women in her 40s, married with two kids that has plenty of other fit black girl friends looking young in their 40s too

Side note: My coworkers keep trying to secretly guess my age. Some people in the building think I'm an intern. Not sure whether to be offended or laugh.

Are you me? 😊
I laugh ..

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I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

I completely agree. Jesus. A balding man is ... just a man with less hair (see specimen a, a man). I'm less a fan of the fat, but a little extra weight is HARD to shift at this age (please see specimen b and specimen c, the male and female representations of individuals in their 50s who have gained weight and are having trouble losing it).

Wrinkles? As a mid-50s white woman it really comes with the territory. I'm a normal weight (not small, not large, just average size 8). I wear sunscreen, I moisturize, blah blah blah, but crows feet are real. Laugh lines - mine are deeper every year. That little vertical line above the bridge of my nose is looking for a friend across the bridge. If you use your face - wrinkles. And that hideous little bit of saggy skin on my jawline. Let me say I'm not a fan. (please review specimen d, the one sitting here at my desk).

But it's only fair. The (socially constructed) advantage of being white is offset by the physical degradation we suffer. LOL. My black and asian friends all look amazing -- and not because they are pouring more money into their bodies.

You get what you get.

At size 8 you are likely overweight. It’s not “average’ European it’s more like average US

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Anonymous wrote:The love of my life is 53, she is the most beautiful woman I have ever met. Miss her......

Ahh I love this.

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Anonymous wrote:Any time I see a white guy with an Asian woman I just assume he is a pedo too.

That's crazy talk, dehumanizing to Asian women and white men. It's amazing to me how comfortable people (usually women) are saying stuff that is so insulting to Asian women and white men.

I agree. We may talk about different ethnicities, but some of these posts are offensive. Yes it is true that many American men have what they call "Yellow Fever." There are many reasons for that attraction. I will break the above rule and talk trash about White American women: American women who are naturally blonde and have large breasts can be incredibly stuck-up. If you're an average American middle-aged man, NOT a professional athlete, NOT fit and trim, and NOT obscenely wealthy, you don't stand a chance. And if you end up marrying one, you are in for a world of trouble. Exhibit A: Joe DiMaggio. No wonder American men look to Asian women.

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Anonymous wrote:You are almost 50, lmao

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Not the OP but what is funny about turning fifty?

We ALL age, it comes after even the best of us.

Some will even say ->> the luckiest of us too.

Getting to age is lucky

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Anonymous wrote:Any time I see a white guy with an Asian woman I just assume he is a pedo too.

That's crazy talk, dehumanizing to Asian women and white men. It's amazing to me how comfortable people (usually women) are saying stuff that is so insulting to Asian women and white men.

I agree. We may talk about different ethnicities, but some of these posts are offensive. Yes it is true that many American men have what they call "Yellow Fever." There are many reasons for that attraction. I will break the above rule and talk trash about White American women: American women who are naturally blonde and have large breasts can be incredibly stuck-up. If you're an average American middle-aged man, NOT a professional athlete, NOT fit and trim, and NOT obscenely wealthy, you don't stand a chance. And if you end up marrying one, you are in for a world of trouble. Exhibit A: Joe DiMaggio. No wonder American men look to Asian women.

WTF so Asian women are a consolation prize? You people

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

Yawn. Another "the women are fab and the men are so awful" thread. And let me guess? The women have worked on themselves and the men haven't.

[Anonymous]

I'm 47, and recently started dating again after a 24-year relationship. I'm shocked how old men my age look. I myself don't have wrinkles, saggy skin or gray hair. I'm fit and full of energy. But these guys, geeze... I don't want to date them myself!

OP, why are you "dating again" after a 24-year relationship? Based on the level of delusion in your post (e.g., "I don't have any wrinkles or saggy skin"), it is likely that your former partner found a newer, prettier woman to date. Honey, you have both. Saying you don't will not make them go away.

Instead of hating on men, work on yourself. It should be easy since you are fit and full of energy. Maybe start by trolling a nearby Sunrise Senior Living. You should be able to compete for attention there (or at least have a fighting chance).

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WTF so Asian women are a consolation prize? You people

Asian women are much better prizes than the "I look so great no one can tell I am 51" white women here on DCUM. Look, and the truth will be revealed to you.

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I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

I completely agree. Jesus. A balding man is ... just a man with less hair (see specimen a, a man). I'm less a fan of the fat, but a little extra weight is HARD to shift at this age (please see specimen b and specimen c, the male and female representations of individuals in their 50s who have gained weight and are having trouble losing it).

Wrinkles? As a mid-50s white woman it really comes with the territory. I'm a normal weight (not small, not large, just average size 8). I wear sunscreen, I moisturize, blah blah blah, but crows feet are real. Laugh lines - mine are deeper every year. That little vertical line above the bridge of my nose is looking for a friend across the bridge. If you use your face - wrinkles. And that hideous little bit of saggy skin on my jawline. Let me say I'm not a fan. (please review specimen d, the one sitting here at my desk).

But it's only fair. The (socially constructed) advantage of being white is offset by the physical degradation we suffer. LOL. My black and asian friends all look amazing -- and not because they are pouring more money into their bodies.


You get what you get.

Yeah, no. In the real world (not fairy tales), most likely the stuck-up but popular cheerleader in high school continued to be popular, have a better life and age better relative to her peers. Usually people who are hot while young will continue to be hotter relative to people of the same age as time goes on (since they're all aging).

I am not saying there aren't exceptions, and late bloomers, etc., but in general people who are conferred advantages while young (looks, popularity, athletic skill) continue to enjoy the benefits of those advantages over time. Even late bloomers suffer a penalty for blooming late (eg. delayed marriage, delayed kids, delayed career)--they're not any more likely to live longer so it's just a deadweight loss.

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But it's only fair. The (socially constructed) advantage of being white is offset by the physical degradation we suffer. LOL. My black and asian friends all look amazing -- and not because they are pouring more money into their bodies.

You get what you get.

No, by 50, you get the face you deserve if you're white. You seem to not like your race, so it's no surprise you wear your personality on your face.

[Anonymous]

I am turning 53 next week and I look 40 I am seeing a 40 year old man at the moment.

Here is a translation of this post into the truth:

I am turning 53 next week and look every bit of it. Maybe even older.

Some hard up 40-year-man is banging me when he can stand it. We can only do it doggie-style or reverse cowgirl because otherwise, he has to look at my face, which makes it a rough ride.

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I’m a 51 year old woman and don’t understand some of the complaints like baldness or wrinkles. Be attracted to whoever you want but these are normal things.

I completely agree. Jesus. A balding man is ... just a man with less hair (see specimen a, a man). I'm less a fan of the fat, but a little extra weight is HARD to shift at this age (please see specimen b and specimen c, the male and female representations of individuals in their 50s who have gained weight and are having trouble losing it).

Wrinkles? As a mid-50s white woman it really comes with the territory. I'm a normal weight (not small, not large, just average size 8). I wear sunscreen, I moisturize, blah blah blah, but crows feet are real. Laugh lines - mine are deeper every year. That little vertical line above the bridge of my nose is looking for a friend across the bridge. If you use your face - wrinkles. And that hideous little bit of saggy skin on my jawline. Let me say I'm not a fan. (please review specimen d, the one sitting here at my desk).

But it's only fair. The (socially constructed) advantage of being white is offset by the physical degradation we suffer. LOL. My black and asian friends all look amazing -- and not because they are pouring more money into their bodies.


You get what you get.

Yeah, no. In the real world (not fairy tales), most likely the stuck-up but popular cheerleader in high school continued to be popular, have a better life and age better relative to her peers. Usually people who are hot while young will continue to be hotter relative to people of the same age as time goes on (since they're all aging).

I am not saying there aren't exceptions, and late bloomers, etc., but in general people who are conferred advantages while young (looks, popularity, athletic skill) continue to enjoy the benefits of those advantages over time. Even late bloomers suffer a penalty for blooming late (eg. delayed marriage, delayed kids, delayed career)--they're not any more likely to live longer so it's just a deadweight loss.

I’d like to see data on this. I don’t buy that HS popularity translates long term to career success.