Is DH being a jerk? I’m locked out of our house

[Anonymous]

There are many times where a nurse has to be with a patient and the patient can't be left alone or the nurses are running and trying to stay on top of everything. Depnding on how busy the unit is and how well staffed they are, it is pretty common to be in a situation that there aren't 'free' nurses with nothing to do who can take over your patient(s) for you at any given moment.

Either go to the unit yourself and get them from him or wait two hours until his break.

People saying that nurses can leave the units they work on and their patients any time and go do whatever errands their wives need at whatever time their wives need them to do it - have never worked as nurses. You have a duty of care and you can't abandon your patients and just leave the unit and leave your patients whenever you want for whatever personal errand you need to run. And yes of course there are some nurses who work in non acute locations where they can leave whever they want for however long they want but those are not likely to be acute care nurses in hospitals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless he's in surgery, he's a jerk.

You think a nurse can just leave a shift?

It is not that hard to have her go to floor where DH is working and get the keys. Her DH is being a pain.

How is he being a pain? She is the one who doesn't want to go up to the unit. She wants him to find someone to give them to (aka security) who can bring the keys down to her. He doesn't want to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless he's in surgery, he's a jerk.

You think a nurse can just leave a shift?

To walk to reception where he can hand keys to his spouse? Yes, I do think a nurse can do that.

Actually, they don’t even need to do that. I used to work in a hospital. He could leave the keys at the nursing station on his own floor. OP could pick it up anytime.

He’s being very shady

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he taking an Uber home at 1 AM?

+ a zillion, never drive him again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is his job there? Is he able to run out at any time or not? Not all hospital positions would allow you to take a random break.

Nurse but he also won’t give them to security so I can get them.

Yes, he's being a jerk unless there is some explanation we are really missing here.

[Anonymous]

So I would be showing up to his floor straight up. Hes a jerk.
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[Anonymous]

Are you sure he has a shift? Maybe he’s with a mistress. Otherwise, his behavior is rude and inflexible. If he wanted to prioritize fixing this, he could, and in a way that doesn’t affect his job.

Does it usually ignore you? Is he usually dismissive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can’t you go to his department and just get them? Why does he need to run them to you?

yeah that's weird...why doesn't he want her to come in except for a certain time/place?

Because his girlfriend is there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless he's in surgery, he's a jerk.

You think a nurse can just leave a shift?

+1

[Anonymous]

Getting Nurse Jackie vibes.

[Anonymous]

I don't see any post where OP says DH doesn't want her to come to the unit. Where are you getting that from?

I don't see anywhere OP has suggested going herself to the unit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he taking an Uber home at 1 AM?

+ a zillion, never drive him again.

Never ever drive him AND make him find his own way home. Perhaps he should pay for the locksmith you should call right now

[Anonymous]

You don't carry an emergency key in your purse or wallet?

[Anonymous]

This thread is sad.

OP, sometimes life hands you a lovely opportunity disguised as an obstacle.

You should be enjoying this found time that is forcing you out of routine and rut.

Stop wasting any energy here wondering if you husband is a jerk, he’s a hard working professional.

Go have fun for a few hours being in a different zone than your usual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is sad.

OP, sometimes life hands you a lovely opportunity disguised as an obstacle.

You should be enjoying this found time that is forcing you out of routine and rut.

Stop wasting any energy here wondering if you husband is a jerk, he’s a hard working professional.

Go have fun for a few hours being in a different zone than your usual.

If I dropped my husband off at 5:30 after working all day as I suspect is the case, I would be pissed af that I had to go hang out in a cafe instead of relax at home.