Is DH being a jerk? I’m locked out of our house

[Anonymous]

OP so tell us how your marriage is otherwise. This key can't be the only issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I got the keys and I am finally home. I got ramen and spent $25 that I didn’t need to. He can’t walk out of the ward but what he could have done was give the keys to security to hand to me. Apparently this is a personal issue for him because it makes him look forgetful and he doesn’t want to look like he’s on his phone. My keys have always been separate because the car keys stay at the bottom of my bag as my car is touch start/open and makes my house keys lighter.

You sound ungrateful and way too high strung. I wouldn't want to ask security to pass my spouse keys so they didn't have a wait a couple of hours either. Why ask a relative stranger for a favor when you can ask your life partner to just chill for a couple of hours? Save your favors for true emergencies, and trust that your adult partner can handle themselves like an adult through a couple of hours of minor inconvenience.

You have $25 for ramen. Did you even bother to taste it? Maybe you should've used this opportunity to practice being present and grateful for what you have instead of such an insufferable tw@ about what you don't.

[Anonymous]

If you don't have a trusted friend or neighbor who has a copy of your key, put a spare key in a combo'd lockbox, and put the lockbox in a yard bin or your shed with a combo lock on it. Not having a backup way to get into your own home is a skill issue on your part.

You were mildly inconvenienced for 2ish hours. I'm sure you'll survive, princess.

[Anonymous]

This cannot be real. How do people like OP stay married??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I got the keys and I am finally home. I got ramen and spent $25 that I didn’t need to. He can’t walk out of the ward but what he could have done was give the keys to security to hand to me. Apparently this is a personal issue for him because it makes him look forgetful and he doesn’t want to look like he’s on his phone. My keys have always been separate because the car keys stay at the bottom of my bag as my car is touch start/open and makes my house keys lighter.

You sound ungrateful and way too high strung. I wouldn't want to ask security to pass my spouse keys so they didn't have a wait a couple of hours either. Why ask a relative stranger for a favor when you can ask your life partner to just chill for a couple of hours? Save your favors for true emergencies, and trust that your adult partner can handle themselves like an adult through a couple of hours of minor inconvenience.

You have $25 for ramen. Did you even bother to taste it? Maybe you should've used this opportunity to practice being present and grateful for what you have instead of such an insufferable tw@ about what you don't.

You'd really leave your family member locked out for hours rather than just hand security the keys? I wouldn't hesitate to give security a key for a family member eve if it was entirely their fault.

Do you guys just not like your families?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DHs car is in the shop so I took him to work(hospital). He ended up having both our house keys on him. He texts me that he has it and now I’m locked out of our house. DH tells me to wait for his break (7:30 pm) and if not just hang out in the car (he gets out of work at 1am). He refuses to answer his phone or give the keys to someone else so I can get them.

Mistakes happen. If he's a surgeon or ER doctor, just give the keys to the front desk and you can pick them up there.

If that's not happening, you have bigger problems.

[Anonymous]

Nurse here. He can absolutely leave a locked unit! We step off locked units all the time if we have a second and ask a coworker to cover us. Sometimes we forget things in our car. Sometimes we run downstairs for a coffee. Sometimes we run to another unit to say hi to another coworker. Sometimes we get door dash and have to run down to get it.

In an instance like this, if I was too busy to run down and give them to OP, I would have asked the lobby attendant (at my hospital it is staffed until 7pm) if she could hold them and that my spouse would be there shortly to grab them.

You both seem uptight and inflexible

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of the time my wife refused to pick up a dryer sheet she dropped on the master bedroom floor while doing laundry. All because I asked her too. So, there it sat, I shit you not, for over a year.

So I threw away her favorite glasses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reminds me of the time my wife refused to pick up a dryer sheet she dropped on the master bedroom floor while doing laundry. All because I asked her too. So, there it sat, I shit you not, for over a year.

So I threw away her favorite glasses.

You two are perfect for each other!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reminds me of the time my wife refused to pick up a dryer sheet she dropped on the master bedroom floor while doing laundry. All because I asked her too. So, there it sat, I shit you not, for over a year.

So I threw away her favorite glasses.

I read it twice because I expected it to say ex-wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reminds me of the time my wife refused to pick up a dryer sheet she dropped on the master bedroom floor while doing laundry. All because I asked her too. So, there it sat, I shit you not, for over a year.

So I threw away her favorite glasses.

I read it twice because I expected it to say ex-wife.

Yeah, healthy people don't play chicken like that. That is totally nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. My mom was an ER nurse. It depends on how busy he is. If he literally cannot walk to the front desk and drop off the keys because he’s taking care of patients, I’d be annoyed at the situation, but forgive him. If he “can’t” because he’s uncomfortable leaving the keys with someone, I’d be very annoyed.

I'm not a nurse but aren't they walking past a desk multiple times during a shift? Sure, not the desk on the first floor, but a desk with someone sitting there. Unless he's in some sort of Hot Zone ward at USAMRIID I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nurse here. He can absolutely leave a locked unit! We step off locked units all the time if we have a second and ask a coworker to cover us. Sometimes we forget things in our car. Sometimes we run downstairs for a coffee. Sometimes we run to another unit to say hi to another coworker. Sometimes we get door dash and have to run down to get it.

In an instance like this, if I was too busy to run down and give them to OP, I would have asked the lobby attendant (at my hospital it is staffed until 7pm) if she could hold them and that my spouse would be there shortly to grab them.

You both seem uptight and inflexible

Not all of us work on u it's as poorly run as yours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who doesn’t have a house key on their car key chain?

And I don’t understand why you can’t just pick them up from him. It’s a one minute distraction for him…seems like a big red flag if he is making an excuse to keep you away.

One of our cars is electric and the "key" is on our phones (there are also physical keys but we never use them unless we need to valet). So our house key is separate from our car key and I have left the house before when people were home (so I didn't lock the back door on my way out) without my house key.

Anyway, OP's husband is being a jerk.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like it was largely your fault.
2 hours isn't that bad, you don't have kids in the car

And please don't have kids you absolute child!