Is DH being a jerk? I’m locked out of our house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DHs car is in the shop so I took him to work(hospital). He ended up having both our house keys on him. He texts me that he has it and now I’m locked out of our house. DH tells me to wait for his break (7:30 pm) and if not just hang out in the car (he gets out of work at 1am). He refuses to answer his phone or give the keys to someone else so I can get them.

You had less than 2 hours to wait. It’s not a big deal. I waited in my car for 2 1/2 hours for an event for my kid and read, watched a show and relaxed. You are drama. Why doesn’t your car keys have your house key?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I got the keys and I am finally home. I got ramen and spent $25 that I didn’t need to. He can’t walk out of the ward but what he could have done was give the keys to security to hand to me. Apparently this is a personal issue for him because it makes him look forgetful and he doesn’t want to look like he’s on his phone. My keys have always been separate because the car keys stay at the bottom of my bag as my car is touch start/open and makes my house keys lighter.

You sound ungrateful and way too high strung. I wouldn't want to ask security to pass my spouse keys so they didn't have a wait a couple of hours either. Why ask a relative stranger for a favor when you can ask your life partner to just chill for a couple of hours? Save your favors for true emergencies, and trust that your adult partner can handle themselves like an adult through a couple of hours of minor inconvenience.

You have $25 for ramen. Did you even bother to taste it? Maybe you should've used this opportunity to practice being present and grateful for what you have instead of such an insufferable tw@ about what you don't.

You'd really leave your family member locked out for hours rather than just hand security the keys? I wouldn't hesitate to give security a key for a family member eve if it was entirely their fault.

Do you guys just not like your families?

Are you crazy? You would actually hand your key to a stranger? Do you have any idea what that security guard could do with your key? Are you really that careless to put your family at risk? You can't be serious.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he was being a jerk. May be having an affair with someone at work. He cares more about what the security guards think of him than his own wife’s comfort! It would have taken very little effort for him to leave the ward for 30 seconds to pass off the keys - it wouldn’t even make him look bad. He could have just said you’re doing a car swap because one is in the shop and left it at that. Or no explanation at all, just asked them to hold the keys for you.

Ultimately it wasn’t a huge deal for you to have to wait for 2 hours and go out to eat, but it was more of a pain for you than it would have been for him!

[Anonymous]

Don't take him to pick up his car when it's ready

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's weird. Do his coworkers not know he's married?

This is exactly what I thought

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is his job there? Is he able to run out at any time or not? Not all hospital positions would allow you to take a random break.

Nurse but he also won’t give them to security so I can get them.

Why not? Is this some kind of power struggle you two typically engage in?

He does t want to be known as problematic at work. I don’t get it. This is the first time this has happened.

Does he have a girlfriend at work? Is he really at work ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I got the keys and I am finally home. I got ramen and spent $25 that I didn’t need to. He can’t walk out of the ward but what he could have done was give the keys to security to hand to me. Apparently this is a personal issue for him because it makes him look forgetful and he doesn’t want to look like he’s on his phone. My keys have always been separate because the car keys stay at the bottom of my bag as my car is touch start/open and makes my house keys lighter.

You sound ungrateful and way too high strung. I wouldn't want to ask security to pass my spouse keys so they didn't have a wait a couple of hours either. Why ask a relative stranger for a favor when you can ask your life partner to just chill for a couple of hours? Save your favors for true emergencies, and trust that your adult partner can handle themselves like an adult through a couple of hours of minor inconvenience.

You have $25 for ramen. Did you even bother to taste it? Maybe you should've used this opportunity to practice being present and grateful for what you have instead of such an insufferable tw@ about what you don't.

You'd really leave your family member locked out for hours rather than just hand security the keys? I wouldn't hesitate to give security a key for a family member eve if it was entirely their fault.

Do you guys just not like your families?

Are you crazy? You would actually hand your key to a stranger? Do you have any idea what that security guard could do with your key? Are you really that careless to put your family at risk? You can't be serious.

What is a hospital security guard going to do with a set of house keys for 5 minutes? Leave his posting and run to Home Depot to get them copied? Try them on every house in a 20 mile radius?