If a guy wants daily sex it's also on him to not do things that leave you sore. Guy can't be jackhammering and asking for.sex every day. |
Thats not how things work |
People who demand sex from unenthusiastic partners. It's treating their spouse like a blow up doll. Especially the "you owe me" aspect. It's transactional and there's a word for that. |
Sounds reasonable. What’s the problem? |
You can help him find an AP. |
This guy clearly has needs that need to be met by someone. Better to be his wife. |
That's an excessive amount of sex. He's not doing his part managing his libido. Tell him to work out more instead |
That sounds like my FIL. He was born into wealth, he gave MIL a comfortable life and he expected sex on the regular. He was passed over for leadership in the family company. He was childish, would pout if he didn't get his way, I believe he hit her once or twice. He sat on his expanding arse most of the time. This man was loathe to get up on his feet. He would put her down regularly to feel good about himself. I don't know when MIL realized she married a petulant child but she put up with and and regularly put out for him. I have wondered if FIL stayed in his comfortable coccoon because he thought everything was OK in his marriage - because his wife was still having sex with him. As long as she was having sex with him, he didn't need to try to be a partner besides throw money at the marriage. But I know for her it was a chore. Did he really believe she enjoyed it or felt compelled in this marital transaction? At some point, he probably stopped caring what she thought which is probably around the same time he started calling her dum-dum and dinglehead in mixed company. It was probably the same time he stopped caring about much of anything beyond his own self-indulgences. She felt a lot of conflict, but also loyalty. He entirely took advantage of her loyalty. Although he loved her like a spoilt child would, she pitied him. Is this the stuff of true partnership? I don't know. |
Exactly!!! You know what kills my sex drive? Expectations. Particularly around my body and access to it. Fun fact, I'm kinkier than the average hen. But my ex husband never got a lick of that. He was a demeaning and demanding jerk. Now I spend my child-free weekends on all of the BDSM scenes that my heart desires. |
Serious question for you to consider, op, after you re-read the part in bold: Why do you think he owes it to you at all to stay married to you, when you won’t have sex with or “don’t like feeling” like having sex with him? To put it bluntly: what’s in it for him to stay in an increasingly-sexless marriage? You can stick to your feelings op. That’s fine. Don’t expect him to abandon his feelings though. And do the surprised when he divorces you for someone affectionate. |
You nasty! |
I have a 3.5 month old and an almost 2 year old. We have sex twice a week and I give him full oral completion once a week. I don’t call that sexless. |
When I was 3.5 months PP, I still had a lot of pain during sex dye to pelvic floor weakness as a complication of labor and then our kid went through a sleep regression and was up every hour. I can't imagine someone demanding sex 4 times a week from someone with a 3.5 month old. |
Why is sex so tiring? It's not like you're being asked to run a 5k or work out. It's 6 minutes of light physical activity on average. Why are you making it sound like such a big deal. |
It is? Why? serious question. What is so hard about having sex for most women? I get that you don't want it but for women who do, and enjoy the same frequency as their man, is there something hard about having sex for women? |