DH demanding sex

[Anonymous]

I'd have a hard time getting past this - doing nice things for your spouse should have NO STRINGS. OP HAS AN INFANT. She owes him NOTHING. I cannot believe anyone is defending him.
Does she "owe" him sex when she gets breast cancer and he gets her food or drives her to chemo?
Does she owe him sex if she gets sick and he has to do some extra around the house?

She carried and birthed his children. She deserves recovery time. She deserves emotional closeness, not simply throwing money at the problem. Because that's all he's doing. She is not getting love or empathy. This is a transaction, not a relationship.

OP - your life is about to get very very long. You should start couples therapy immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh told me he expects sex from me because he gives me a comfortable life.

You should consider yourself lucky. Most women here complain about not getting enough sex from their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh told me he expects sex from me because he gives me a comfortable life.

You should consider yourself lucky. Most women here complain about not getting enough sex from their husbands.

Not at 3 months post partum, they don't.

[Anonymous]

I got nothing for about a year, when the kids were babies. Very active sex life before. Now, it has normalized again to almost every day.

Could you tell him to adjust his expectations? If he loves you, he will for sure.

[Anonymous]

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I don’t withhold because he asks for sex. I just don’t have sex every time he asks because I don’t want it. We are still having sex twice a week and usually one more that includes service for just him. I think that’s reasonable when you have a 3.5 month old and an almost 2 year old.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got nothing for about a year, when the kids were babies. Very active sex life before. Now, it has normalized again to almost every day.

Could you tell him to adjust his expectations? If he loves you, he will for sure.

+1 it's not reasonable to expect that much sex when you are still < 1 year post partum. My hormones were still out of whack for almost a year after giving birth. I was always so tired. I was also working.

After almost 4 years from when the youngest was born, we made some changes in our lives and reduced the stress waay down. My body was fully recovered from kids, and our sex life came roaring back.

I know DH was upset about the lack of sex, too. But we both soldiered through stressful times and came out for the better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recoil viscerally when I think of a man demanding sex from a women he feels entitled to get it from.

Might be the biggest turn off of all time.

Major turn off.

[Anonymous]

3 holes - use one.