DH demanding sex

[Anonymous]

When he stops asking you for it, and/or seems satisfied with the twice weekly pity sex, that's when you need to worry. You are heading that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he stops asking you for it, and/or seems satisfied with the twice weekly pity sex, that's when you need to worry. You are heading that way.

Now that OP is aware of his preference, I think this is probably true. She can do what she wants, but so can he.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When he stops asking you for it, and/or seems satisfied with the twice weekly pity sex, that's when you need to worry. You are heading that way.

Now that OP is aware of his preference, I think this is probably true. She can do what she wants, but so can he.

Agree

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I'd have no problem with this.

Nightly sex is a lot for me right now. We are having sex twice a week. He wants it daily or at least 4 times a week.

I have a lot of help but it’s still tiring when you’re a mom to two young active kids.

Why is sex so tiring? It's not like you're being asked to run a 5k or work out. It's 6 minutes of light physical activity on average. Why are you making it sound like such a big deal.

Op here. Your man may be a a minute man but mine isn’t. My husband loves foreplay and lasts a while. He doesn’t want a starfish. He wants multiple positions and enthusiasm. Sex usually lasts 20-30 minutes for quick sessions. Doing that at least 4 times a week when you’re tired isn’t easy.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I'd have no problem with this.

Nightly sex is a lot for me right now. We are having sex twice a week. He wants it daily or at least 4 times a week.

I have a lot of help but it’s still tiring when you’re a mom to two young active kids.

Why is sex so tiring? It's not like you're being asked to run a 5k or work out. It's 6 minutes of light physical activity on average. Why are you making it sound like such a big deal.

Op here. Your man may be a a minute man but mine isn’t. My husband loves foreplay and lasts a while. He doesn’t want a starfish. He wants multiple positions and enthusiasm. Sex usually lasts 20-30 minutes for quick sessions. Doing that at least 4 times a week when you’re tired isn’t easy.

I also give him full oral ( 20+ minutes of pleasure) once a week. That’s in top or the 10 minutes of oral he gets during foreplay.

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So why aren’t you having sex w your husband?
May want to have a convo with him on what the issues are..

I’m tired and don’t want nightly sex. I feel the max I can have is twice a week. He wants at least 4 times a week. That’s hard for most women.

Most women don't have 24/7 childcare help and spa days

Your kids are young but tha'ts suspicious as you only mentioned it when people were laying into you. Final verdict: troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Withholding it is spousal abuse generally. If you dont want to do it, get a divorce and free him.

np I don't think of it as 'withholding sex' as spousal abuse but, the husband putting pressure on his wife to have sex is. It feels icky since he is saying that you must have sex because he is doing x, y and z. That expectation is a turn off. Why can't the husband make it more positive? He should be doing the chores without any expectation!

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Anonymous wrote:Dh told me he expects sex from me because he gives me a comfortable life.

Sounds reasonable. What’s the problem?

dp It is not reasonable. Often times when people feel pressured to do something they want to do the opposite thing. Just because he is working and taking care of her does not mean she is her sexual slave. Honestly, this would make me want to get at least a part time job so I could provide for myself

[Anonymous]

He helped you a lot. It’s time for you to help him as well. Hire a hooker and pay her to have sex with your husband twice a week. This will save your marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:
So why aren’t you having sex w your husband?
May want to have a convo with him on what the issues are..

I’m tired and don’t want nightly sex. I feel the max I can have is twice a week. He wants at least 4 times a week. That’s hard for most women.

It is? Why? serious question. What is so hard about having sex for most women? I get that you don't want it but for women who do, and enjoy the same frequency as their man, is there something hard about having sex for women?

NP here. I love sex but assuming my partner is at least average size and lasts more than 2 mins, I get sore. Every other day is great. 2 days in a row or 2x a day is fun once in a while, but yes - too much can be hard… and just not that enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
So why aren’t you having sex w your husband?
May want to have a convo with him on what the issues are..

I’m tired and don’t want nightly sex. I feel the max I can have is twice a week. He wants at least 4 times a week. That’s hard for most women.

Most women don't have 24/7 childcare help and spa days

Your kids are young but tha'ts suspicious as you only mentioned it when people were laying into you. Final verdict: troll

She also didn’t answer the question on how he is “demanding.”

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I'd have no problem with this.

Nightly sex is a lot for me right now. We are having sex twice a week. He wants it daily or at least 4 times a week.

I have a lot of help but it’s still tiring when you’re a mom to two young active kids.

It’s really not. But enjoy your comfortable life because he will start to resent you and have an affair.

Because he is going to fill his needs with or without you.

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Anonymous wrote:
So why aren’t you having sex w your husband?
May want to have a convo with him on what the issues are..

I’m tired and don’t want nightly sex. I feel the max I can have is twice a week. He wants at least 4 times a week. That’s hard for most women.

Most women don't have 24/7 childcare help and spa days

Your kids are young but tha'ts suspicious as you only mentioned it when people were laying into you. Final verdict: troll

I don’t have 24/7 childcare. We had a night nanny 3x a week during the first 3 months. We have a par time nanny come 3x a week for 5 hours a day to help with older child.

The spa day isn’t always. He bought me two spa days so far.

I didn’t think age of kids was super relevant.

[Anonymous]

For all you people saying OP should just suck it up...how? You can suck it up and physically engage in intercourse, but being an active, enthusiastic, involved partner is pretty much impossible to fake.

[Anonymous]

Love the jerks blaming OP for if her moron DH cheats. He has sex twice a week and gets a BJ once a week. He’s fine.

And no not getting more is not a reason to cheat

He’s bullying his wife into sex 4xs a week. Pretty soon it will be it’s not enthusiastic enough or some other reason. He is not entitled to as much sex as he demands. Under any circumstances. He just isn’t