DH demanding sex

[Anonymous]

Dh told me he expects sex from me because he gives me a comfortable life.

[Anonymous]

ok

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh told me he expects sex from me because he gives me a comfortable life.

Sorry - hit post too soon.

DH and I had a very active sex life before we had kids. That naturally slowed down once we had two kids. DH has gone out of his way to make my life easier - very hands on, hired night and day help, sends me to a spa for a relaxing massage or day out for myself, etc. He has been really irritated with the lack of sex and wants more. He said that’s his only want and ask and it isn’t too much because he gives me a lot in return. I hear him but I don’t like feeling like I owe him sex because he’s a good husband.

[Anonymous]

what is the question

[Anonymous]

So why aren’t you having sex w your husband?
May want to have a convo with him on what the issues are..

[Anonymous]

Can you change your reframing to being close to your life partner who is more than carrying his share of the load and looking out for my well being?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
So why aren’t you having sex w your husband?
May want to have a convo with him on what the issues are..

I’m tired and don’t want nightly sex. I feel the max I can have is twice a week. He wants at least 4 times a week. That’s hard for most women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you change your reframing to being close to your life partner who is more than carrying his share of the load and looking out for my well being?

I value and appreciate him. I don’t want to feel like I’m forcing myself to have sex because he’s wants it.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy being a single mom!

[Anonymous]

Tell him you no longer need nannies, spa days or massages or cleaners. Then you won't have to give it up two more times a week.

[Anonymous]

Withholding it is spousal abuse generally. If you dont want to do it, get a divorce and free him.

[Anonymous]

No one should force you to have sex. Your husband isn’t entitled to your body because he’s nice to you. Parenting his own kids isn’t going above and beyond. He’s a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I'd have no problem with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I'd have no problem with this.

Nightly sex is a lot for me right now. We are having sex twice a week. He wants it daily or at least 4 times a week.

I have a lot of help but it’s still tiring when you’re a mom to two young active kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
So why aren’t you having sex w your husband?
May want to have a convo with him on what the issues are..

I’m tired and don’t want nightly sex. I feel the max I can have is twice a week. He wants at least 4 times a week. That’s hard for most women.

Stop accepting the gifts since you know they come with conditions

Have another convo w him
Compromise or
Plan your divorce