Grandparents don’t want to buy car seats for kid visiting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is odd. Are you sure when they told you to make a list, they meant items like that? I would never expect them to buy those.

Seriously! They were probably thinking certain brands of cereal, maybe a pack of diapers and wipes, OP. Not freaking car seats. You are way off base!

My parents have bought 5-6 car seats across their 3 grandkids and never batted an eye. My dad has them installed in his pickup truck. This obviously varies by parents level of education on the issue and probably socioeconomics but plenty of grandparents do more than a pack of diapers and wipes….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You didn't bring carseats? You flew somewhere without knowing there would be carseats on arrival?

One parent stays at the airport with the kids, and the other parent goes to Walmart and comes back. This is a parent responsibility.

This. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my parents ask if they can stock up for anything on a visit, we’re talking whole milk, Goldfish and applesauce, people. We’re not talking car seats.

I would have bought and shipped car seats to them. Point blank period. This is on you, OP.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't bring carseats? You flew somewhere without knowing there would be carseats on arrival?

One parent stays at the airport with the kids, and the other parent goes to Walmart and comes back. This is a parent responsibility.

I’m smarter than you: go to the rental car places at the airport and rent car seats.

You are less smart; the rental carseats are trash.

They really are. I made this mistake once and instead took the rental car to a Walmart to buy the most basic model, which was leagues above the flimsy rental car seat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is odd. Are you sure when they told you to make a list, they meant items like that? I would never expect them to buy those.

They bought a stroller, a crib, crib mattress, baby monitor, high chair. So yes, they meant items like these.

Wow, you are entitled.

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OP, you sound like an entitled brat.

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This doesn’t sound reasonable. Your parents bought a stroller? Why wouldn’t you already have one? I can’t imagine trying to navigate an airport with littles without a stroller.

I would never expect grandparents to buy car seats. They are so expensive and if you are flying to see them, they would not get much use. You bring your own from home or rent them.

This is definitely on you.

What did you do?

[Anonymous]

Op, order some from Walmart and have it ready for pick up or get it delivered via uber.

[Anonymous]

My FIL didn’t want the car seat to make an imprint on his leather. Yes. Really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't bring carseats? You flew somewhere without knowing there would be carseats on arrival?

One parent stays at the airport with the kids, and the other parent goes to Walmart and comes back. This is a parent responsibility.

I’m smarter than you: go to the rental car places at the airport and rent car seats.

DP
You might be smarter than PP, but you're more of an a$$hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn't bring carseats? You flew somewhere without knowing there would be carseats on arrival?

One parent stays at the airport with the kids, and the other parent goes to Walmart and comes back. This is a parent responsibility.

They asked us for a list of things we needed. They bought everything but the car seats (probably because they were the most expensive and they deemed it not necessary. They kept telling us we never used car seats growing up. Lord)

My parents are a bit like this too and justify their stupid parenting choices. I just tell them we want to be better than them and reduce risk "well, you got lucky, didn't you". I also told them right up front 'no carseat means my kids will never ride with you'. I also had to put my foot down with other safety things in their home. And I never left my kids with them. My brother does, but he knows how they are. The moment the door is closed they do whatever they want and feed them whatever and leave all the unguarded stairs and sharp objects for them to find.

Had I been in your shoes at the airport, I would have pulled out my phone and got a rental car, then told my parents 'we'll meet you at the house'. They would get upset and I would tell them I am responsible for my child, not them, and that I thought I was very clear about the carsseat. They will do this with other things OP. They still view you as a kid and don't respect your needs.

[Anonymous]

They said no, they ready bought stuff for you, safety matters, you're the parents, so fix it. Buy, rent, ship them, your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The OP is bananas
Bring the seats yourself, wtf
It’s like #1 parenting safety, right before slicing all grapes

Yep this age sucks because of all the stuff you have to travel with, but it comes with the territory. You have to have a car seat plan before you travel. Also if your plan is to just leave it to someone else, verify before you leave that the bought carseats. Getting to booster age is such a relief. We traveled with the Bubble Bum which was so much easier than lugging the car seat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My FIL didn’t want the car seat to make an imprint on his leather. Yes. Really.

Then you rent a car. Seriously. He has no obligation to be your taxi. If you cannot afford that, then you scale back the visits to what you can afford to add a rental car with carseat. It's simple and likely your FIL will hear some strong words from your MIL when they learn why you cannot visit more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is odd. Are you sure when they told you to make a list, they meant items like that? I would never expect them to buy those.

Seriously! They were probably thinking certain brands of cereal, maybe a pack of diapers and wipes, OP. Not freaking car seats. You are way off base!

My parents have bought 5-6 car seats across their 3 grandkids and never batted an eye. My dad has them installed in his pickup truck. This obviously varies by parents level of education on the issue and probably socioeconomics but plenty of grandparents do more than a pack of diapers and wipes….

+1

My parents bought seats and set up a whole play room, nursery and child bedroom in their home. My mom was so excited to finally have grandkids. They still did not take our safety concerns as seriously as they should have so we didn't let them babysit when they were little. I'm happy to leave my older kids (6+) there though. The kids aren't exactly falling down the stairs at that point or getting into cupboard with poison.