Dating after divorce and finances

[Anonymous]

I am 47. I have been divorced for 5 years. I will never ever remarry so I don't care about income. I also date men 10-20 years younger when I do date. They don't have money usually. Not currently dating and not sure I wiil again. I don't see the point.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

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If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s.

You may need to come back to earth for a minute. No doubt you have achieved incredible success. You are clearly wealthy. I don't care how hard you worked but keep in mind that you are also lucky. You are passing on a lot of great men whose only fault is that they are not well traveled and it's honestly a shame.

[Anonymous]

I am 50 and only date men who are my financial equals or close to it. They need to be financially stable and good with their money. I have zero interest in financially subsidizing anyone and I want us to be able to travel and do activities together together. I also do not want them to be too wealthy as that gives power and they think they need to take care of you and I like to pay my own way.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s.

You may need to come back to earth for a minute. No doubt you have achieved incredible success. You are clearly wealthy. I don't care how hard you worked but keep in mind that you are also lucky. You are passing on a lot of great men whose only fault is that they are not well traveled and it's honestly a shame.

You incels whining about hypergamy never fail to miss the point. WE ARE ALL HAPPIER SINGLE THAN BEING PARTNERED WITH A LOW QUALITY MAN. You’re pathetically trying to threaten us that we need to lower our standards or else we’ll be single forever, and we’re trying to tell you that’s not a threat. Again, WE ARE HAPPY SINGLE. That really freaks you losers out for god knows what reason, but you need to get it through your thick skulls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 and only date men who are my financial equals or close to it. They need to be financially stable and good with their money. I have zero interest in financially subsidizing anyone and I want us to be able to travel and do activities together together. I also do not want them to be too wealthy as that gives power and they think they need to take care of you and I like to pay my own way.

I wish men had the same mindset.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s.

You may need to come back to earth for a minute. No doubt you have achieved incredible success. You are clearly wealthy. I don't care how hard you worked but keep in mind that you are also lucky. You are passing on a lot of great men whose only fault is that they are not well traveled and it's honestly a shame.

They don't want to travel - do not not see what I'm saying? They would still stay back in hotel when I'm visiting museums and that would be on my expense. Who wants that as they approach retirement? I am retiring at 51, and need to meet someone who wants to spend retirement doing similar things. There are many extremely unhappy married women there who are forced to spend all their holidays grilling burgers in their backyard. Or their husbands want to have one summer cabin and spend all vacations there. I don't want to be resentful and miserable, particular when I can afford a great life for myself and my kids. I do travel a lot with my family: shall I always leave my BF back in the US?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

Nope. Don't need to marry up because I am financially comfortable. I have no interest in supporting another adult, however.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 and only date men who are my financial equals or close to it. They need to be financially stable and good with their money. I have zero interest in financially subsidizing anyone and I want us to be able to travel and do activities together together. I also do not want them to be too wealthy as that gives power and they think they need to take care of you and I like to pay my own way.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

Nope. Don't need to marry up because I am financially comfortable. I have no interest in supporting another adult, however.

I'm the same as you, PP. I avoid extremely wealthy (10mm+) men. They like to control you with money, I would always need to adjust to his needs just in a different way (play a role of his secretary, sex toy, planner etc.). Plus these types tend to be complete takers , with narcissism starting somewhere post age 55 when they start declining mentally and physically.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s.

You may need to come back to earth for a minute. No doubt you have achieved incredible success. You are clearly wealthy. I don't care how hard you worked but keep in mind that you are also lucky. You are passing on a lot of great men whose only fault is that they are not well traveled and it's honestly a shame.

You incels whining about hypergamy never fail to miss the point. WE ARE ALL HAPPIER SINGLE THAN BEING PARTNERED WITH A LOW QUALITY MAN. You’re pathetically trying to threaten us that we need to lower our standards or else we’ll be single forever, and we’re trying to tell you that’s not a threat. Again, WE ARE HAPPY SINGLE. That really freaks you losers out for god knows what reason, but you need to get it through your thick skulls.

As a woman, I find so much joy and freedom in being single! And this is coming from someone who thought I would be married forever and truly mourned the breakup of 18 years long marriage. There is nothing else like freedom to just go a live at any city where you always wanted to live; learn a new jazz piece when nobody is bugging you to serve dinner; freedom to visit my family and not his scolding in-laws - I can keep going.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s.

You may need to come back to earth for a minute. No doubt you have achieved incredible success. You are clearly wealthy. I don't care how hard you worked but keep in mind that you are also lucky. You are passing on a lot of great men whose only fault is that they are not well traveled and it's honestly a shame.

You incels whining about hypergamy never fail to miss the point. WE ARE ALL HAPPIER SINGLE THAN BEING PARTNERED WITH A LOW QUALITY MAN. You’re pathetically trying to threaten us that we need to lower our standards or else we’ll be single forever, and we’re trying to tell you that’s not a threat. Again, WE ARE HAPPY SINGLE. That really freaks you losers out for god knows what reason, but you need to get it through your thick skulls.

As a woman, I find so much joy and freedom in being single! And this is coming from someone who thought I would be married forever and truly mourned the breakup of 18 years long marriage. There is nothing else like freedom to just go a live at any city where you always wanted to live; learn a new jazz piece when nobody is bugging you to serve dinner; freedom to visit my family and not his scolding in-laws - I can keep going.

I am a man and I agree with you. I am a divorced man and I think men in bad marriages is not talked about..women to their credit effectively articulate their deceptions with marriages that failed. But there are also men who are equally disappointed. I honestly think it goes both ways. Men and women are better off single.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

+1

If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men.

No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s.

You may need to come back to earth for a minute. No doubt you have achieved incredible success. You are clearly wealthy. I don't care how hard you worked but keep in mind that you are also lucky. You are passing on a lot of great men whose only fault is that they are not well traveled and it's honestly a shame.

You incels whining about hypergamy never fail to miss the point. WE ARE ALL HAPPIER SINGLE THAN BEING PARTNERED WITH A LOW QUALITY MAN. You’re pathetically trying to threaten us that we need to lower our standards or else we’ll be single forever, and we’re trying to tell you that’s not a threat. Again, WE ARE HAPPY SINGLE. That really freaks you losers out for god knows what reason, but you need to get it through your thick skulls.

Karen go.back to your bottle of wine. The liquor stores are probably closed now in case you need a third bottle. Just wait till tomorrow and you can get more wine.

[Anonymous]

I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.