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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on[/quote]
Stay single. [/quote]

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully [b]most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. [/b]I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources 
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If he doesn't bring something significant to the table at least equal to what I do, then it's not worth it to me.[/quote]

Of course it's not. You are a woman and woman practice hypergamy. They don't want to admit it on this forum but in the real world is true. Women want ready made men. 
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No, I actually dated men who were making less than myself, but only when I saw they had a realistic ability to grow with me. If he wanted to invent new trading technologies at night as a main source of income and never traveled to Europe (even at airbnbs) that's not my person. OLD is full of these types. I am NOT this type: have $5mm NW to my name, a good education, profession, already worked in several countries in investment banking in my 20s. [/quote]

You may need to come back to earth for a minute. No doubt you have achieved incredible success. You are clearly wealthy. I don't care how hard you worked but keep in mind that you are also lucky. You are passing on a lot of great men whose only fault is that they are not well traveled and it's honestly a shame.

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They don't want to travel - do not not see what I'm saying? They would still stay back in hotel when I'm visiting museums and that would be on my expense. Who wants that as they approach retirement? I am retiring at 51, and need to meet someone who wants to spend retirement doing similar things. There are many extremely unhappy married women there who are forced to spend all their holidays grilling burgers in their backyard. Or their husbands want to have one summer cabin and spend all vacations there. I don't want to be resentful and miserable, particular when I can afford a great life for myself and my kids. I do travel a lot with my family: shall I always leave my BF back in the US? [/quote]

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