Dating after divorce and finances

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

Then those men are not for her, that is what dating is about, finding someone that fits into your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

It's probably the same for most women, so most men and most women will be fine together as water seeks its level. OP will find someone like her or stay single, and we've established that being single is much better than dating down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

You, like many women, grossly overestimate your value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

Everyone I've dated since my divorce has been able to meet this requirement, so no, I don't think it's too much to ask. Of course, many more people may not be able to do this, and that's fine, but they just aren't the person for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 and dating. I only care that the man have enough money to support himself and be able to do fun things with me like travel and be able to pay his way and take the time off work to do so.

You do realize that is a lot to want? Most men I've met off OLD don't really travel and having fun on travel is expensive

Everyone I've dated since my divorce has been able to meet this requirement, so no, I don't think it's too much to ask. Of course, many more people may not be able to do this, and that's fine, but they just aren't the person for me.

It's a YOU issue. I am well traveled and so are many men that I know. Judging from the way you communicate I don't think well traveled men want to join you on a trip. Oh wait you probably gonna back and say you have had to say no to so many well traveled men who wanted to travel.with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

You, like many women, grossly overestimate your value.

How so? Look again -- she's not saying she's a "10" and is worth XYZ. She just saying what she would need to make dating worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

You, like many women, grossly overestimate your value.

I don’t care what my value is. I only know I’m comfortable where I am and it will take a lot of sacrifices to be with someone who is not there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

You, like many women, grossly overestimate your value.

NP. You’ve completely missed the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I just left a relationship for a variety of reasons but finances were a big one. He is mid 50s and hadn’t saved for retirement. Buys all kinds of toys and goes on trips but can’t manage to sock money away for the future. I don’t need anyone else’s money and won’t actively seek out a monied partner - I’ve saved diligently and will be fine, but his inability to make smart financial decisions was a huge turn off.

It is this right here. I am a professional woman and quite capable of taking care of myself. Not looking for money, just looking for a responsible adult. Have yet to find it. 3 dudes right in a row with no retirement in their 50s. I don't understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I just left a relationship for a variety of reasons but finances were a big one. He is mid 50s and hadn’t saved for retirement. Buys all kinds of toys and goes on trips but can’t manage to sock money away for the future. I don’t need anyone else’s money and won’t actively seek out a monied partner - I’ve saved diligently and will be fine, but his inability to make smart financial decisions was a huge turn off.

It is this right here. I am a professional woman and quite capable of taking care of myself. Not looking for money, just looking for a responsible adult. Have yet to find it. 3 dudes right in a row with no retirement in their 50s. I don't understand.

Yea, that’s very typical for OLD. Don’t know where the PP found myriads of well travelled men there.

[Anonymous]

I just want to date someone who knows how to fix stuff and is good in bed.
I can make my own money.

[Anonymous]

Shorter thread:

Where can I buy “Golddigging for Dummies”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shorter thread:

Where can I buy “Golddigging for Dummies”

So not the point of this thread. OP is just looking for a partner that won't drag her down financially. That is not golddigging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shorter thread:

Where can I buy “Golddigging for Dummies”

So not the point of this thread. OP is just looking for a partner that won't drag her down financially. That is not golddigging.

All broken men call women who think rationally the gold diggers