Dating after divorce and finances

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Anonymous wrote:I am 47 divorced 2 years. I am very attractive good hobbies great job that I love and most importantly 2 beautiful.kids that I love so much.

However I am broke and this has honestly kept me from dating. Between child support, saving for college, emergency fund and retirement while I am not paycheck to paycheck for most women in the DMV I am sure they won't come anywhere near me. Women dl often say they have their own and don't need yours and I believe them. However it doesn't mean they are open to date a man who is barely making it.

I could be wrong. But I don't even want the discussion to come up so for now I just won't date.

I'm 45f, divorced a year and working to become financially independent (was a trailing SAH spouse supporting my ex's career) by the time my 2 kids are off to college and it would be hard to make our situations work financially.

I'm attractive, fit and all that, but I live in a small town in Florida so end up dating older men who have grown kids and partially retired and living on boats or otherwise downsized. It works for now, but feel like in 10 years, I'll be looking for more.

In 10 years, I bet you'll be looking to date my situation now.

Do you live in sarasota? I do, and was just out for dinner with a group of women and many were divorced and describe what you do. Lots of 55 year old women with 75 year old private jet and yacht retirees.

Got to love you they shamelessly seek men of means

Why would they not? Gen X men want you to cook, clean, fulfill all of their sexual needs, deal with any kids they may have, and help pay bills. No thanks.

I'm confused about people posting this. Most of the dcum relationship forum is women complaining about their husbands, but that they can't leave because the women wouldn't be able to financially support their lifestyle. Given the fact that 99% of divorces result in men paying child support and alimony, I don't understand how all these divorced women are complaining that they were financially floating their exes. (side note: you should handle the kids and housework if you're not contributing meaningfully to household finances).

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Where can I buy “Golddigging for Dummies”

So not the point of this thread. OP is just looking for a partner that won't drag her down financially. That is not golddigging.

All broken men call women who think rationally the gold diggers

And the vast majority of those broken men are labor diggers. They want someone to manage their lives for them.

[Anonymous]

I was careful, but it backfired - I got involved with a wealthy guy with a great, steady job and high salary, no debt - and I was well off with savings etc- and he took my money anyway. Left me in poverty. Now I see why he had so many bank accounts that were bursting at the seams! He was unexpectedly greedy and devious, I had no clue or warnings -
Now I don’t trust anyone with my money or my assets

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Anonymous wrote:I was careful, but it backfired - I got involved with a wealthy guy with a great, steady job and high salary, no debt - and I was well off with savings etc- and he took my money anyway. Left me in poverty. Now I see why he had so many bank accounts that were bursting at the seams! He was unexpectedly greedy and devious, I had no clue or warnings -
Now I don’t trust anyone with my money or my assets

We need to hear this story. What happened? How much money are we talking about?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 47 divorced 2 years. I am very attractive good hobbies great job that I love and most importantly 2 beautiful.kids that I love so much.

However I am broke and this has honestly kept me from dating. Between child support, saving for college, emergency fund and retirement while I am not paycheck to paycheck for most women in the DMV I am sure they won't come anywhere near me. Women dl often say they have their own and don't need yours and I believe them. However it doesn't mean they are open to date a man who is barely making it.

I could be wrong. But I don't even want the discussion to come up so for now I just won't date.

I'm 45f, divorced a year and working to become financially independent (was a trailing SAH spouse supporting my ex's career) by the time my 2 kids are off to college and it would be hard to make our situations work financially.

I'm attractive, fit and all that, but I live in a small town in Florida so end up dating older men who have grown kids and partially retired and living on boats or otherwise downsized. It works for now, but feel like in 10 years, I'll be looking for more.

In 10 years, I bet you'll be looking to date my situation now.

Do you live in sarasota? I do, and was just out for dinner with a group of women and many were divorced and describe what you do. Lots of 55 year old women with 75 year old private jet and yacht retirees.

Got to love you they shamelessly seek men of means

Why would they not? Gen X men want you to cook, clean, fulfill all of their sexual needs, deal with any kids they may have, and help pay bills. No thanks.

I'm confused about people posting this. Most of the dcum relationship forum is women complaining about their husbands, but that they can't leave because the women wouldn't be able to financially support their lifestyle. Given the fact that 99% of divorces result in men paying child support and alimony, I don't understand how all these divorced women are complaining that they were financially floating their exes. (side note: you should handle the kids and housework if you're not contributing meaningfully to household finances).

There is a difference between doing all of the housework and childcare because you are not contributing meaningfully to the household finances and not contributing meaningfully to the household finances because you are doing all of the housework and childcare.