Dating after divorce and finances

[Anonymous]

If dating after divorce in your late 40s/50s, would you screen for money? Like restrict yourself to people with a certain income/asset level?

Last night learned of some divorce/remarriages in my extended circle and realized the women (who are all highly educated professionals themselves) all remarried money. Feeling insecure about my dating life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If dating after divorce in your late 40s/50s, would you screen for money? Like restrict yourself to people with a certain income/asset level?

Last night learned of some divorce/remarriages in my extended circle and realized the women (who are all highly educated professionals themselves) all remarried money. Feeling insecure about my dating life.

I just left a relationship for a variety of reasons but finances were a big one. He is mid 50s and hadn’t saved for retirement. Buys all kinds of toys and goes on trips but can’t manage to sock money away for the future. I don’t need anyone else’s money and won’t actively seek out a monied partner - I’ve saved diligently and will be fine, but his inability to make smart financial decisions was a huge turn off.

[Anonymous]

I’m sure women can screen guys for money and expect a dividend. But guys at this age not so much. Guys would have to have a big draw card to marry up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s no wonder you’re divorced.

It’s no wonder you’re not wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Wealthy? Poor? Which would an intelligent, professional woman choose?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s no wonder you’re divorced.

It’s no wonder you’re not wealthy.

Except that I am, so too bad for your fail. Try again, honey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s no wonder you’re divorced.

It’s no wonder you’re not wealthy.

It's no wonder you're a leech.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s no wonder you’re divorced.

It’s no wonder you’re not wealthy.

You have to be to get a date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s no wonder you’re divorced.

It’s no wonder you’re not wealthy.

It's no wonder you're a leech.

You wish.

[Anonymous]

To be clear, I am financially stable, working FT with a NW of about $4M including paid off home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be clear, I am financially stable, working FT with a NW of about $4M including paid off home.

So.

[Anonymous]

I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't ask their salaries but I do pre-screen for their lifestyle and similarities of interests early on. It could be that the person is super cheap and then we won't be able to travel at a comfort level I'm used to, even if splitting expenses. Or, they could be wealthy but we have little in common: I like jazz concerts and site seeing and they only travel to ski in Aspen and have no interest in international destinations, and so on

Stay single.

I am happily single. It will take someone really worldly, interesting and open minded to get me enter a relationship. I've dated for couple years post divorce: regretfully most men out there are just a deadweight for an energetic, economically independent and active woman. I want to do things, see the world, work on my career and not constantly yield to someone with limited interests and resources

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wealthy? Poor? Which would an intelligent, professional woman choose?

I wouldn’t date poor. But wondering if I’d be foolish not to date equal or higher. They are harder to find.