Before I overreact, am I right to be mad at the school?

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Anonymous wrote:At least the other kid had the b@//s to confront your kid instead of talking behind his back. Be glad that the kid didn't punch your son.

+1 If my kid were boy B, I would have been proud of how he handled it. He didn't lay hands on Boy A and he didn't talk crap behind his back. Confronting him was the better option. Ignoring it would have been even better, but I'd be fine with how it was handled.

[Anonymous]

I’m upset because the school has no proof my son said anything (he claims he didn’t and he’s being thrown under the bus, but of course, grain of salt) but they are treating that as a greater offense than having a close and escalating verbal altercation in the hallway that had to be broken up by an adult. (The boy is still in class as we speak. My son thinks he will try to fight him after school now but is afraid to tell anyone because they aren’t on “his side”.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You literally have no idea what the school is doing about Student B. And there was no actual fight. You need to drop this.

Instead, explain to your kid what “F around and find out” means. He needs to stop talking trash.

I said the same thing to my sixth grade daughter who repeated something she heard about another girl being snobby. She should not have been surprised at all when this backfired on her. She learned a lesson.

+1 The 90s version of that phrase would be "don't let your mouth write a check your a** can't cash"

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Is there a reason you have not called and spoken to the guidance counselor?

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Did you discipline your kid?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m upset because the school has no proof my son said anything (he claims he didn’t and he’s being thrown under the bus, but of course, grain of salt) but they are treating that as a greater offense than having a close and escalating verbal altercation in the hallway that had to be broken up by an adult. (The boy is still in class as we speak. My son thinks he will try to fight him after school now but is afraid to tell anyone because they aren’t on “his side”.)

How does your son know that the he is being "punished" more than the other kid? Was your kid punished? Tell your son not to trash talk people unless he is willing to reap the consequences. Otherwise you are going to raise a titty baby.

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Meh.

School handled it just fine. Was probably not a huge deal to them however- they see so much worse.

Tell your son to work on his social skills. Clearly poor judgment on his part here.

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

But what if the boy hadn’t been there. That’s like saying drunk driving is ok as long as you didn’t hit the car.

*teacher not the boy

How do you know it would have been a fight and that the other boy doesn’t have more self control than yours?

Because boys with self control get in the faces of others when someone talks about them. Self control would be ignoring it.

I’m assuming you are OP still taking what your kid said as fact. Did he literally get in his face? Or just confront him? Also more self control. Not total. Your kid was wrong and you already overreacted by posting here. Time to move on.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m upset because the school has no proof my son said anything (he claims he didn’t and he’s being thrown under the bus, but of course, grain of salt) but they are treating that as a greater offense than having a close and escalating verbal altercation in the hallway that had to be broken up by an adult. (The boy is still in class as we speak. My son thinks he will try to fight him after school now but is afraid to tell anyone because they aren’t on “his side”.)

How does your son know that the he is being "punished" more than the other kid? Was your kid punished? Tell your son not to trash talk people unless he is willing to reap the consequences. Otherwise you are going to raise a titty baby.

Nobody is being punished, that’s the thing. I will absolutely be punishing my son for his mouth, but in the mean time, he’s worried this boy will confront him after school.

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In your initial post, you said your son badmouthed the other player. Wait until the coach is alerted. Your kid should be benched.

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently, the other day my son told boy A that boy B “sucks at basketball”. Boy A went to boy B and told him what my son said, and at school today boy B got in my son’s face and confronted him. A teacher saw the confrontation and immediately separated them and got stories. My son called me during his lunch hour and told me about it, and how the guidance counselor is blaming HIM for the whole thing (since he badmouthed B) but B isn’t in trouble at all for confronting my son in what I am sure would have been a fight if the teacher hadn’t intervened. Of course, this is all second hand information, but if it’s true, so I have the right to be upset with the school for the way they are handling this? I’m too upset to think rationally, so help me out.

So you, a person who was not there, were "sure" it would have been a fight, and you believe that other kid should be punished for this fight that did not occur?

Also, you say your kid is "being blamed" and the other kid "isn't in trouble at all." What exactly does that mean?

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Mad at the school? OP, discipline your kid.

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Your kid is the AH.

Keep your own kids in line before demanding punishment for others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m upset because the school has no proof my son said anything (he claims he didn’t and he’s being thrown under the bus, but of course, grain of salt) but they are treating that as a greater offense than having a close and escalating verbal altercation in the hallway that had to be broken up by an adult. (The boy is still in class as we speak. My son thinks he will try to fight him after school now but is afraid to tell anyone because they aren’t on “his side”.)

Don't talk s$%t that you can't back up. Maybe your kid will learn that lesson after school

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

Has he learned to keep his mouth shut yet?