Before I overreact, am I right to be mad at the school?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

But what if the boy hadn’t been there. That’s like saying drunk driving is ok as long as you didn’t hit the car.

*teacher not the boy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

OP also just said they were sure it would have been a fight, not that it was about to break out. They also didn’t witness it so they are going by their trash talking kid’s word. Trash talker has a lot of incentive to downplay his part and exaggerate the other kid’s part.

[Anonymous]

Your kid was a jerk and found out. Unless the other kid actually touched your kid, seems everything was handled fine. Hopefuly this will be a learning experience for your son.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

But what if the boy hadn’t been there. That’s like saying drunk driving is ok as long as you didn’t hit the car.

*teacher not the boy

How do you know it would have been a fight and that the other boy doesn’t have more self control than yours?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

But what if the boy hadn’t been there. That’s like saying drunk driving is ok as long as you didn’t hit the car.

If the boy hadn't been here, I'm guessing none of this would have occurred...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

But what if the boy hadn’t been there. That’s like saying drunk driving is ok as long as you didn’t hit the car.

*teacher not the boy

How do you know it would have been a fight and that the other boy doesn’t have more self control than yours?

Because boys with self control get in the faces of others when someone talks about them. Self control would be ignoring it.

[Anonymous]

Honest question: what do you wish the school did differently? You will never find out what they do to the other kid, so leave that out. How should they have handled your kid differently?

The school stopped a fight, found out what was going on, and talked to you kid about not talking sh!t. Seems fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid was a jerk and found out. Unless the other kid actually touched your kid, seems everything was handled fine. Hopefuly this will be a learning experience for your son.

+1. Drop the rope and calm down. It's going to be a long time until graduation for you.

[Anonymous]

OP, calm down.

Your kid is telling you a bunch of stuff. You can either call the school to get more information about what happened, or you can let it go and talk to your son about being cruel. Those are the two rational choices.

Your son hasn't been harmed. The other kid isn't your problem. Getting involved just means that your kid learns that mom will get them out of any jam they get themselves into.

[Anonymous]

At least the other kid had the b@//s to confront your kid instead of talking behind his back. Be glad that the kid didn't punch your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you have no real information you can act on here.

1) You don't know what happened to that other kid or not, and the school cannot and will not legally tell you. Ignore the other kid.

2) What exactly was the punishment to your son? He got talked to? Big deal - that's exactly what should happen.

3) This also could be a situation of bullying. Perhaps your kid has said cruel things about this boy before and the school is trying to step in to stop it. Again, you don't know because you are getting info from an unreliable source.

4) Let the school do its thing. Your kid is fine. Move on.

+1 These points pretty clearly show you that you do not have a right to be mad at the school. You are indeed overreacting.

[Anonymous]

You literally have no idea what the school is doing about Student B. And there was no actual fight. You need to drop this.

Instead, explain to your kid what “F around and find out” means. He needs to stop talking trash.

I said the same thing to my sixth grade daughter who repeated something she heard about another girl being snobby. She should not have been surprised at all when this backfired on her. She learned a lesson.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

+1

[Anonymous]

If I am reading your post correct — your teen admitted to you some degree of nasty talk he did making fun of another boy behind his back. The other boy found out your son was making mean comments behind his back and was angry at your son. The school intervened before the boy your son was nasty to to escalate. And now you are angry your son was verbally reprimanded for being cruel, which he was. I would say the school did a great job at preventing a potential incident from happening and punishing the child who was at fault, your son. The school seems to gave a better handle on parenting then you do at the moment. Talk to your son about not being a jerk and not making fun of his peers behind their backs. And alert him that outside of school corridors, if he does make fun of other children he could end up with consequences from his victims. If your son goes around making fun of peers behind their backs, than your son needs to know the teen he is making fun of could retaliate. Better yet you should teach your child not to make fun of his peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honest question: what do you wish the school did differently? You will never find out what they do to the other kid, so leave that out. How should they have handled your kid differently?

The school stopped a fight, found out what was going on, and talked to you kid about not talking sh!t. Seems fair.

Agree. Sounds like no punches were thrown and no one was suspended. So what is there to be upset about?