Before I overreact, am I right to be mad at the school?

[Anonymous]

Apparently, the other day my son told boy A that boy B “sucks at basketball”. Boy A went to boy B and told him what my son said, and at school today boy B got in my son’s face and confronted him. A teacher saw the confrontation and immediately separated them and got stories. My son called me during his lunch hour and told me about it, and how the guidance counselor is blaming HIM for the whole thing (since he badmouthed B) but B isn’t in trouble at all for confronting my son in what I am sure would have been a fight if the teacher hadn’t intervened. Of course, this is all second hand information, but if it’s true, so I have the right to be upset with the school for the way they are handling this? I’m too upset to think rationally, so help me out.

[Anonymous]

You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

[Anonymous]

Teach your son not to badmouth people behind their backs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

Agreed. Also, you are getting this info from your son so many many grains of salt need to be included.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

[Anonymous]

What does it mean they are blaming him? Is he actually being disciplined? And how do you know the other boy is not?

I do think getting in someone's face is a much worse trait than sharing a mean opinion which someone's back, but I would let it go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

Agreed. Also, you are getting this info from your son so many many grains of salt need to be included.

+1 The counselor very easily may have talked to your kid about his behavior and separately talked to the other kid about his behavior.

Also, is your kid getting a consequence at school or just a talking to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

[Anonymous]

OP, you have no real information you can act on here.

1) You don't know what happened to that other kid or not, and the school cannot and will not legally tell you. Ignore the other kid.

2) What exactly was the punishment to your son? He got talked to? Big deal - that's exactly what should happen.

3) This also could be a situation of bullying. Perhaps your kid has said cruel things about this boy before and the school is trying to step in to stop it. Again, you don't know because you are getting info from an unreliable source.

4) Let the school do its thing. Your kid is fine. Move on.

[Anonymous]

It depends on what getting in the face entailed. If boy B touched your son, then be furious at the school. If not, then your son learned about consequences

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does it mean they are blaming him? Is he actually being disciplined? And how do you know the other boy is not?

I do think getting in someone's face is a much worse trait than sharing a mean opinion which someone's back, but I would let it go.

Basically what everyone here is saying. My son told me they are telling him he had it coming when he gossiped about his friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on what getting in the face entailed. If boy B touched your son, then be furious at the school. If not, then your son learned about consequences

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are out of line. Your kid talked trash and paid the price. School handled fine.

You think it’s OK for another boy to start a fight in the school halls and not be reprimanded? I don’t. I also don’t think what my son did was acceptable, but we will be handling that at home.

You said he confronted him. Did a fight break out?

In the OP I literally said a fight was about to break out before a teacher separated them. Yes.

"about to break out" is a whole lot different than "the other kid punched my kid".

But what if the boy hadn’t been there. That’s like saying drunk driving is ok as long as you didn’t hit the car.