Should I ask my husband about chat saved from a female asking him out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

Absolutely not. That's a violation of trust. No one should be snooping into anyone's phone behind their back. My DH would never do this, nor would I.

It’s not snooping if you are married.

Psyyyychoooopath… you are a walking red flag.

What do you people do on your phones that you are so terrified of your spouse discovering?

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned. Using the WhatsApp archive option means alerts don’t pop up on the phone, which sounds intentional. Also that they used WhatsApp. Also that she had his number.

[Anonymous]

If your DH goes to the gym on a regular schedule, I would go with him. And, wear your wedding rings.

[Anonymous]

I did not read through this thread and only the original OP. But my exh had inappropriate conversations with his coworker. We were on his speaker phone chatting with my then mil. Coworker texted something and it showed up in the banner of his phone. Cool as a fan I continued the convo with mil but I recognized his discomfort so I knew something was up. He tried to extend the conversation with mundane questions to his mother. So I just started to stare at him. You know the stare. I let him have it after we got off the phone. We got past that, and as far as I can tell the inappropriate conversations with her ceased. Her. But little did I know he was banging two other coworkers! The joke was on me. Based on my personal experience, my advice to you OP is keep your eyes and ears open. Say nothing until you feel comfortable this isn’t his thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not read through this thread and only the original OP. But my exh had inappropriate conversations with his coworker. We were on his speaker phone chatting with my then mil. Coworker texted something and it showed up in the banner of his phone. Cool as a fan I continued the convo with mil but I recognized his discomfort so I knew something was up. He tried to extend the conversation with mundane questions to his mother. So I just started to stare at him. You know the stare. I let him have it after we got off the phone. We got past that, and as far as I can tell the inappropriate conversations with her ceased. Her. But little did I know he was banging two other coworkers! The joke was on me. Based on my personal experience, my advice to you OP is keep your eyes and ears open. Say nothing until you feel comfortable this isn’t his thing.

Are you still together?

[Anonymous]

I’m not a WhatsApp expert and have archived chats I thought i was deleting. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Are you sure she wasn’t inviting both of you as a couple? It would be pretty weird to ask a stranger to a couples game night with friends.

[Anonymous]

I archive group chats that are too annoying (like some parent groups) so that I can’t check them later. I’ve also archived friends who are super chatty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I archive group chats that are too annoying (like some parent groups) so that I can’t check them later. I’ve also archived friends who are super chatty.

So that i *can* check them later, at a time of my choosing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

Absolutely not. That's a violation of trust. No one should be snooping into anyone's phone behind their back. My DH would never do this, nor would I.

It’s not snooping if you are married.

Psyyyychoooopath… you are a walking red flag.

What do you people do on your phones that you are so terrified of your spouse discovering?

WTF is wrong with you people? I have zero to hide from my DH of 20 years nor does he. I could probably guess his cell and computer pw but in 20 years of marriage it has never once occurred ti me to look ( or snoop) at his phone. I can’t even imagine living like that. Those that feel the need to search or have full access to a spouse’a phone sound incredibly entitled, insecure and bizarre. And to the prior “gay” marriage PP( as if that mattered at all to the point of your post) - it’s couples like you who have zero sense of privacy or boundaries or trust in your partner that are more likely to get divorced. You all sound like a bunch of insecure and immature teenagers. Pathetic. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did not read through this thread and only the original OP. But my exh had inappropriate conversations with his coworker. We were on his speaker phone chatting with my then mil. Coworker texted something and it showed up in the banner of his phone. Cool as a fan I continued the convo with mil but I recognized his discomfort so I knew something was up. He tried to extend the conversation with mundane questions to his mother. So I just started to stare at him. You know the stare. I let him have it after we got off the phone. We got past that, and as far as I can tell the inappropriate conversations with her ceased. Her. But little did I know he was banging two other coworkers! The joke was on me. Based on my personal experience, my advice to you OP is keep your eyes and ears open. Say nothing until you feel comfortable this isn’t his thing.

Are you still together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

Absolutely not. That's a violation of trust. No one should be snooping into anyone's phone behind their back. My DH would never do this, nor would I.

It’s not snooping if you are married.

Psyyyychoooopath… you are a walking red flag.

What do you people do on your phones that you are so terrified of your spouse discovering?

WTF is wrong with you people? I have zero to hide from my DH of 20 years nor does he. I could probably guess his cell and computer pw but in 20 years of marriage it has never once occurred ti me to look ( or snoop) at his phone. I can’t even imagine living like that. Those that feel the need to search or have full access to a spouse’a phone sound incredibly entitled, insecure and bizarre. And to the prior “gay” marriage PP( as if that mattered at all to the point of your post) - it’s couples like you who have zero sense of privacy or boundaries or trust in your partner that are more likely to get divorced. You all sound like a bunch of insecure and immature teenagers. Pathetic. Grow up.

Wow. Touched a nerve, huh?

[Anonymous]

I would have screen shotted it and asked him immediately bc I’m nuts like that. I can’t take the stress of wondering, I am very transparent and upfront. My DH is always welcome to look through my phone, I got nothing to hide, plus he knew who he married.

Ask him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

Absolutely not. That's a violation of trust. No one should be snooping into anyone's phone behind their back. My DH would never do this, nor would I.

It’s not snooping if you are married.

Psyyyychoooopath… you are a walking red flag.

What do you people do on your phones that you are so terrified of your spouse discovering?

WTF is wrong with you people? I have zero to hide from my DH of 20 years nor does he. I could probably guess his cell and computer pw but in 20 years of marriage it has never once occurred ti me to look ( or snoop) at his phone. I can’t even imagine living like that. Those that feel the need to search or have full access to a spouse’a phone sound incredibly entitled, insecure and bizarre. And to the prior “gay” marriage PP( as if that mattered at all to the point of your post) - it’s couples like you who have zero sense of privacy or boundaries or trust in your partner that are more likely to get divorced. You all sound like a bunch of insecure and immature teenagers. Pathetic. Grow up.

You do protest too much. What are you hiding?

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman who would never cheat and I probably would have saved it for the ego boost.