Should I ask my husband about chat saved from a female asking him out

[Anonymous]

I noticed my husband saved a chat (Archived) on WhatsApp from a woman who comes to the gym asking him out for a couples game. We are married with 2 kids. He just said he had plans that weekend but failed to mention he was married etc... I am not sure why he saved the chat - my thoughts running like does he want to ask her out in future etc.... should I ask him about it or ignore. I did not notice anything different in his behavior towards me.

[Anonymous]

How did you find this? What prompted you to snoop if you havent noticed any difference in behaviour?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

[Anonymous]

You should absolutely ask him about it.

[Anonymous]

Man here. I would've saved it just to show my buddies like "look, someone hit on me at the gym" and all have a good laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. I would've saved it just to show my buddies like "look, someone hit on me at the gym" and all have a good laugh.

Would you have told your wife so if she came across it she wouldn't worry you were cheating?

[Anonymous]

What sort of a couples game?
I think you should tell your husband that his behavior makes you uncomfortable, specifically, not telling this woman he was married. It's perfectly fine to have friends of the opposite sex, and do activities with them without your spouse in tow, but everyone needs to be on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he wanted to delete it and archived it instead. It has happened to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should absolutely ask him about it.

+1. It could be a worrying reason for saved. It could be as simple as having proof that in the daily struggle of middle age life, someone finds you attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

Absolutely not. That's a violation of trust. No one should be snooping into anyone's phone behind their back. My DH would never do this, nor would I.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

Absolutely not. That's a violation of trust. No one should be snooping into anyone's phone behind their back. My DH would never do this, nor would I.

It’s not snooping if you are married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, that's a huge problem, that his response was simply that he had plans (and it didn't mention those plans were with his freaking wife and kids).

But you looking at his phone is a huge problem too.

But you know all of this, right?

It's really not. they are married, it's ok to look at spouse's phone.

Keep your wide eyes open and you should ask him why he didn't mention you to the woman who asked him out.

Absolutely not. That's a violation of trust. No one should be snooping into anyone's phone behind their back. My DH would never do this, nor would I.

what makes you think it was behind his back? Sometimes people ask someone to do something on their phone, like I might ask my husband or kid to send a text for me if I’m driving.

[Anonymous]

I would just keep my eyes open.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should absolutely ask him about it.

+1 my dh has nothing to hide from me. I know his passcodes to his phone and laptop and he knows mine.