I am taking the private school magnet decal off my suv because…

[Anonymous]

....or it could have come from an innocent place. Maybe she wishes she could be like you or be like how she perceives you. You don't know.

Be a mensch, drop it and don't let it tarnish your relationship with this person if it's otherwise cordial.

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Anonymous wrote:Next time say, “I prioritize education over travel.”

THIS. This is a precisely the basis of my private school decision. Paying tuition is why I cannot afford anymore luxurious vacations and that’s just fine with me! What can be spent is going to education (not that it, or anything else about my life, is the business of my coworkers!!). She is rude, envious and immature IMO to make such a comment. She would swiftly be added to my list of ignored coworkers.

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Anonymous wrote:
1. I do not find that comment too rude. It's intrusive, certainly, and not something I'd say, but I wouldn't mind if someone said it to me.

2. This is why people don't have stickers on their car - others make too many assumptions. (Also, unless it's magnetic, it looks bad when it weathers and you try to take it off.)

3. If your public school is really bad and moving is out of the question, then I suppose private might make sense. But otherwise it's way too ruinous for what it is, and it does not confer a college admissions advantage. And before someone says special needs, actually my son with complex needs has been better served in public. Now he's going to a good university.

4. But it's wrong to make assumptions, of course. Maybe you have a different, special, situation.

Responding to you #3...there are a variety of reasons someone might choose private over public. Many "good public schools" aren't great for every kids. It's awesome it was great for yours, but don't assume that it would be just because your kid is better served in public. It drives me crazy when people get preachy about school choice. Someone else's decision of where they send their kid doesn't need to mean anything to you or your choices for your own kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your coworker was rude.

I dont put the decals on bc I'm worried about lunatics with guns.

Same. Especially since we are POC. The last thing I want is some crazy racist getting all mad about where my kid goes to school!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
1. I do not find that comment too rude. It's intrusive, certainly, and not something I'd say, but I wouldn't mind if someone said it to me.

2. This is why people don't have stickers on their car - others make too many assumptions. (Also, unless it's magnetic, it looks bad when it weathers and you try to take it off.)

3. If your public school is really bad and moving is out of the question, then I suppose private might make sense. But otherwise it's way too ruinous for what it is, and it does not confer a college admissions advantage. And before someone says special needs, actually my son with complex needs has been better served in public. Now he's going to a good university.

4. But it's wrong to make assumptions, of course. Maybe you have a different, special, situation.

Responding to you #3...there are a variety of reasons someone might choose private over public. Many "good public schools" aren't great for every kids. It's awesome it was great for yours, but don't assume that it would be just because your kid is better served in public. It drives me crazy when people get preachy about school choice. Someone else's decision of where they send their kid doesn't need to mean anything to you or your choices for your own kid.

PP you replied to. I know, and I would never be so rude as to make in-person comments. However, here I feel I do have to warn parents of special needs kids, and perhaps others: having tried private and public schools for my kids, and gone through the college admissions process this past school year for one of them (who has special needs), and compared notes with all my friends whose kids in privates and publics in this area...

... I really feel that privates *usually* only make sense for those rich enough that they don't notice. I acknowledge there are exceptions! Which is why I would never presume to judge a particular family's choices. But in general? Yeah, just do your due diligence as a parent and skip private school tuition. Public school with services, accommodations, tutoring and tailored therapies and activities will be cheaper and a better fit.

[Anonymous]

Although we don't have a magnet on our car, the kids get really excited when we see one from our school.

OP, I agree with the above poster to be a mensch and just let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your coworker was rude.

I dont put the decals on bc I'm worried about lunatics with guns.

Same. Especially since we are POC. The last thing I want is some crazy racist getting all mad about where my kid goes to school!

I think racists would assume the kid attends for free.

[Anonymous]

Yeeeeaaa....I'm not big fan of those decals. Just feel like it's an unnecessary amount of personal information on display. In terms of the co-worker, it was a bad look for her and you'll probably never be BFF's...oh well!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your coworker was rude.

I dont put the decals on bc I'm worried about lunatics with guns.

Same. Especially since we are POC. The last thing I want is some crazy racist getting all mad about where my kid goes to school!

I think racists would assume the kid attends for free.

I don’t think any students at the Big 3 attend for free. All of those schools require that parents pay some of the tuition.

[Anonymous]

Im confused and don’t know why it’s rude. She was expressing her opinion on something. You could’ve laughed and said: yes and tuition is exactly why I can’t afford nice vacations.

[Anonymous]

Slightly puzzled look, pause, "thats why they make chocolate and vanilla! Let me get back to work now" Big Smile.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My coworker mentioned going to vacation with her family this summer and I said thats nice and I mentioned some staycations for my family this year. (I am a single parent which may or may not mean anything). She had the nerve to say “if i could afford to send my child to a $40k school i would go on more expensive trips”. I told her let me get back to my office and walked away. I never told this coworker or anyone at work that my child goes to private. The only way she would know is from my vehicle. Just venting. She caught me off guard.

How will it affect your child if you take it off? Most parents put it on because it helps their child feel connected and like they belong. Maybe for your DC too?

Really? I have never put the magnet on my car and am 100% sure that my kids don't care. I don't think they would even notice. I think it's kitsch and is there for bragging rights. I assume other people would judge me similarly if I did put it on my car.

[Anonymous]

Don't put decals on your car or the dumb signs on your lawn. It's gauche.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:....or it could have come from an innocent place. Maybe she wishes she could be like you or be like how she perceives you. You don't know.

Be a mensch, drop it and don't let it tarnish your relationship with this person if it's otherwise cordial.

+1. We all put our foot in our mouths at some point. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Why assume the comment was made in a negative way? People are so sensitive. Isn't it apparent that if you prioritize private education you may not have money left to go on expensive trips? This was certainly true for my family growing up. Middle class child of immigrants who went to a NE boarding school. My own two kids are going through publics all the way simply because we could not make the same sacrifice my parents made for me.