Soon to be 18 Senior refuses to practice driving

[Anonymous]

Heck, I would go so far as to tell my son that he gets a ton of “manliness points” for being able to drive!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ask him what would happen if he gets a summer job not in Boston that required a car? It is hard to get practice hours in once you go to college.

Why on earth would someone without a car take a job that required a car. C'mon people, use some common sense.

I think the point is that he could be offered a job or at least an interview and then have to turn it down. Point being, it will limit his employment opportunities. It’s competitive out there so why would you do that for a stupid reason like not learning to drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heck, I would go so far as to tell my son that he gets a ton of “manliness points” for being able to drive!

When my DH hopped in our rented car in Italy and drove stick without batting an eye after like 20 years of driving an automatic, I will not lie, it suddenly made him more attractive.

[Anonymous]

Stop driving him around. Literally just stop.

Too many parents are being their kids chaffeurs and then bemoaning that their kids dont know how to drive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who’s going to want to date a man child like that? Driving is a basic adult skill in the US.

Depends on what city you live in. Certainly, not in NYC.

Please. Even my die hard NYC friends who grew up in Greenwich Village in the 70s know how to drive. Sometimes one must leave the city.

When you are 50 and your 18 year old needs to get to college in Vermont or whatever, are you planning to Uber there from Brooklyn?

No, Amtrak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inevitably, people who don’t know how to drive leech of those who do.

What if you want to take a trip to Hawaii and visit Volcanoes National park? What if you want to go skiing in Colorado? What if you want to go to a concert at Wolf Trap or Merriweather? Or camping in the Adirondacks?

My son went on a college outing club trip over spring break and they brought along 2 kids who couldn’t drive. They had to drive the van in shifts and they were all secretly annoyed at the 2 non drivers who didn’t pull their weight. Yeah, they all would have liked to sit in the passenger seat and scroll their phones too, but that wasn’t going to get them to Utah.

Why couldn’t they just fly?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop driving him around. Literally just stop.

Too many parents are being their kids chaffeurs and then bemoaning that their kids dont know how to drive.

OP is required to provide a car, then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Might his reluctance be anxiety-related?

This was me but I would not admit it was that. How long is his learner’s permit good for?

Learner permit expires next summer

He can always renew the learner's permit next summer. My son had to do that when his expired about 2 years ago. He had to take the written test again. He still doesn't have a driver's license. Some people are just stubborn and refuse to learn to drive. I have tried everything, but this is something I can't force. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inevitably, people who don’t know how to drive leech of those who do.

What if you want to take a trip to Hawaii and visit Volcanoes National park? What if you want to go skiing in Colorado? What if you want to go to a concert at Wolf Trap or Merriweather? Or camping in the Adirondacks?

My son went on a college outing club trip over spring break and they brought along 2 kids who couldn’t drive. They had to drive the van in shifts and they were all secretly annoyed at the 2 non drivers who didn’t pull their weight. Yeah, they all would have liked to sit in the passenger seat and scroll their phones too, but that wasn’t going to get them to Utah.

That’s freaking weird that they drove to Utah, and it may not be those kids’ faults that they don’t have licenses. They may have disabilities or may not have been taught how to drive. Teach your son not to be a judgemental a**

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who’s going to want to date a man child like that? Driving is a basic adult skill in the US.

Depends on what city you live in. Certainly, not in NYC.

Please. Even my die hard NYC friends who grew up in Greenwich Village in the 70s know how to drive. Sometimes one must leave the city.

When you are 50 and your 18 year old needs to get to college in Vermont or whatever, are you planning to Uber there from Brooklyn?

No, Amtrak.

Amtrak won’t get you to Middlebury or Bowdoin or Dartmouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Heck, I would go so far as to tell my son that he gets a ton of “manliness points” for being able to drive!

When my DH hopped in our rented car in Italy and drove stick without batting an eye after like 20 years of driving an automatic, I will not lie, it suddenly made him more attractive.

Right?! Our sons need to know the truth lol! Not the gender neutral stuff they peddle nowadays /jk

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Inevitably, people who don’t know how to drive leech of those who do.

What if you want to take a trip to Hawaii and visit Volcanoes National park? What if you want to go skiing in Colorado? What if you want to go to a concert at Wolf Trap or Merriweather? Or camping in the Adirondacks?

My son went on a college outing club trip over spring break and they brought along 2 kids who couldn’t drive. They had to drive the van in shifts and they were all secretly annoyed at the 2 non drivers who didn’t pull their weight. Yeah, they all would have liked to sit in the passenger seat and scroll their phones too, but that wasn’t going to get them to Utah.

That’s freaking weird that they drove to Utah, and it may not be those kids’ faults that they don’t have licenses. They may have disabilities or may not have been taught how to drive. Teach your son not to be a judgemental a**

DP but I think a much better lesson is that people do judge however silently and it’s best to be the best you can be!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who’s going to want to date a man child like that? Driving is a basic adult skill in the US.

Depends on what city you live in. Certainly, not in NYC.

Please. Even my die hard NYC friends who grew up in Greenwich Village in the 70s know how to drive. Sometimes one must leave the city.

When you are 50 and your 18 year old needs to get to college in Vermont or whatever, are you planning to Uber there from Brooklyn?

No, Amtrak.

Amtrak won’t get you to Middlebury or Bowdoin or Dartmouth.

Amtrak indeed goes to Bowdoin in Brunswick.

[Anonymous]

Having a drivers license is a necessity in the US. It does not hurt to have one, even if he doesn’t use it. I would push him on this. Get it done, and then if you don’t want to drive we’ll figure that out later.

The only adults I’ve met without a drivers license normally grew up in NYC and their parents didn’t have cars.

It’s a real privilege to even have a car to practice with, and he’s missing an amazing opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Not having a license and not knowing how to drive will only hold him back. Now is the time to learn. All his peers are too. It will only get harder and more embarrassing.