SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?

[Anonymous]

I am very well educated

Indian?

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Anonymous wrote:gotta enable those white men.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you consider taking casual work or volunteering? A nice example of the former is working a few hours a week (usually weekend afternoons) as a sign-spinner. You stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in elaborate, fast-moving ways. This type of marketing is very popular with mattress retailers, as merely one example. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community

I took the trouble of extending this idea and would appreciate a response.

I have always dreamed of being a sign spinner. I am a lawyer, but should I ever need to obtain another job, I shall look no further than sign spinner. Spin sign, spin!

I know a sign spinner and she hated it

Nonsense!

Do ypu know anyone? I did and she Hated it. You dound unstable. Go spin. You don't earn that much, is boring and you breathe car fumes all day. But have fun!

[Anonymous]

I don't care what y'all do but the #1 reason BY FAR that I do not SAHP is because my spouse would even further check out and even further be unappreciative, unthankful, and ungrateful for everything I do running the house, raising the children, managing the sitters, planning sports/vacations/ECs, and bonding with the kids. He literally just tags along and works on his iPhone.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you consider taking casual work or volunteering? A nice example of the former is working a few hours a week (usually weekend afternoons) as a sign-spinner. You stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in elaborate, fast-moving ways. This type of marketing is very popular with mattress retailers, as merely one example. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community

I took the trouble of extending this idea and would appreciate a response.

I have always dreamed of being a sign spinner. I am a lawyer, but should I ever need to obtain another job, I shall look no further than sign spinner. Spin sign, spin!

I know a sign spinner and she hated it

Nonsense!

Do ypu know anyone? I did and she Hated it. You dound unstable. Go spin. You don't earn that much, is boring and you breathe car fumes all day. But have fun!

I used to be in color guard, maybe it'd be fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

I commend anyone devoted to making sure their kids become responsible, principled adults, whether WOH or SAH, so save the sanctimommy.

Hard to promote that while sitting on your ass living on someone else’s dime.

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Anonymous wrote:Would you consider taking casual work or volunteering? A nice example of the former is working a few hours a week (usually weekend afternoons) as a sign-spinner. You stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in elaborate, fast-moving ways. This type of marketing is very popular with mattress retailers, as merely one example. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community

I took the trouble of extending this idea and would appreciate a response.

I'm a SAHM who does not need to work for money. I think in such a case (not needing money), it is better that such jobs are left for people who need to earn money to meet their needs. It could be college students who are putting themselves through school (cause parents are not able to afford their college), or retirees (some people did not earn enough or save enough to retire comfortably), WOH people (cause they need to work), people without insurance who have faced a catastrophic loss monetarily, or even new immigrants to this country.

Would you encourage your daughters to work? If not are you encouraging their education? Serious question.

Honestly, if only those who HAD to work for money did, our society (that you reap the benefits of) would be in a very different place.

I am very well educated, which enabled me to get a high paying job, which enabled me to save a ton of money and which enabled me to also find a spouse who was well-educated and high earner. As a result, I am now a SAHM, I help my kids with their homework and enrichment. My kids (DD and DS) are high achievers. They will also have my support in the college application process and will likely get into a high paying STEM based field at college. I will pay for their education, so they will not have college debt. I will be around to help them with their kids so that their life becomes easier. Being an educated wealthy SAHM allows me to help my kids and grand-kids. So, yes, my DDs will work but, they will work SMART not work HARD.

Considering that you don’t seem to know whether you have daughters or sons, I think you need to work a little HARDER.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:gotta enable those white men.

That's presumptuous, not to mention racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what y'all do but the #1 reason BY FAR that I do not SAHP is because my spouse would even further check out and even further be unappreciative, unthankful, and ungrateful for everything I do running the house, raising the children, managing the sitters, planning sports/vacations/ECs, and bonding with the kids. He literally just tags along and works on his iPhone.

Interesting. This is my situation too except it’s a big part of why I continue to stay home. If I have to do everything anyway, I don’t also want a job too. How do you feel like your having a job makes your DH better?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care what y'all do but the #1 reason BY FAR that I do not SAHP is because my spouse would even further check out and even further be unappreciative, unthankful, and ungrateful for everything I do running the house, raising the children, managing the sitters, planning sports/vacations/ECs, and bonding with the kids. He literally just tags along and works on his iPhone.

Interesting. This is my situation too except it’s a big part of why I continue to stay home. If I have to do everything anyway, I don’t also want a job too. How do you feel like your having a job makes your DH better?

how do you live like this? Sounds awful. And you depend on him financially too?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care what y'all do but the #1 reason BY FAR that I do not SAHP is because my spouse would even further check out and even further be unappreciative, unthankful, and ungrateful for everything I do running the house, raising the children, managing the sitters, planning sports/vacations/ECs, and bonding with the kids. He literally just tags along and works on his iPhone.

Interesting. This is my situation too except it’s a big part of why I continue to stay home. If I have to do everything anyway, I don’t also want a job too. How do you feel like your having a job makes your DH better?

how do you live like this? Sounds awful. And you depend on him financially too?

Yes. It didn’t start out this way. He had a less demanding job and was more hands on when the kids were toddlers/preschoolers. He has done progressively less and less around the house and now I just feel frustrated. I can’t make an informed choice about if I could go back to work or not because I have no idea what if anything he’d do to help me. He says he’d help but I have a hard time believing him.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

I commend anyone devoted to making sure their kids become responsible, principled adults, whether WOH or SAH, so save the sanctimommy.

Hard to promote that while sitting on your ass living on someone else’s dime.

Ugh, no, not in this case. We purchased our first home together because of the equity I earned from my first home. I am the ONE who singled handedly purchased every home we have lived in increasing our investment in each house in ridiculous amounts, thereby causing the majority of our wealth. I found those sites, I had the vision for those neighborhoods and I purchased what I thought would be the best investment. We then took those profits and invested in stocks and such, and there you have OUR wealth. I was a realtor in my former life (HATED IT!) but was good at it, so I am grateful he was a good boy and just stood back and shut up while I rolled the dice. That is MY MONEY, not just his and I have never sat on my ass spending anyone's else's money. But I get, you are a little green with envy. So do not care.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care what y'all do but the #1 reason BY FAR that I do not SAHP is because my spouse would even further check out and even further be unappreciative, unthankful, and ungrateful for everything I do running the house, raising the children, managing the sitters, planning sports/vacations/ECs, and bonding with the kids. He literally just tags along and works on his iPhone.

Interesting. This is my situation too except it’s a big part of why I continue to stay home. If I have to do everything anyway, I don’t also want a job too. How do you feel like your having a job makes your DH better?

Nothing makes my DH better, he is chronically stressed out from his workaholic job and is a total zombie at home.

That wouldn't change if I canned my $300k/ year job and stayed home pampering everyone and myself. Once I identified that he can't be bothered, that was liberating. I suppose I shop more and throw money at things (handyman, kid stuff, housekeeper) just like he does. He thinks *anything* can be outsourced.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

I commend anyone devoted to making sure their kids become responsible, principled adults, whether WOH or SAH, so save the sanctimommy.

Hard to promote that while sitting on your ass living on someone else’s dime.

Nasty

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

I commend anyone devoted to making sure their kids become responsible, principled adults, whether WOH or SAH, so save the sanctimommy.

Hard to promote that while sitting on your ass living on someone else’s dime.

Ugh, no, not in this case. We purchased our first home together because of the equity I earned from my first home. I am the ONE who singled handedly purchased every home we have lived in increasing our investment in each house in ridiculous amounts, thereby causing the majority of our wealth. I found those sites, I had the vision for those neighborhoods and I purchased what I thought would be the best investment. We then took those profits and invested in stocks and such, and there you have OUR wealth. I was a realtor in my former life (HATED IT!) but was good at it, so I am grateful he was a good boy and just stood back and shut up while I rolled the dice. That is MY MONEY, not just his and I have never sat on my ass spending anyone's else's money. But I get, you are a little green with envy. So do not care.

I have a gorgeous home i own outright, so not sure who you’re talking to.