SAHM with kids in school? Dealing with judgement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

Why? Who gets to decide what is acceptable or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

LOL. Sure. Whatever you say!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

Not OP, but why? To whom? What if I’m not sitting around, but working out, taking care of pets, house, kids, and maybe other relatives and friends? Why is that unacceptable to you? If I had an office job that was not saving the world, or even my old job—helping defend big corporations against fraud charges (!) would that be acceptable? Is that actually better? Feeling like you are the arbiter of acceptability must be amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

Not OP, but why? To whom? What if I’m not sitting around, but working out, taking care of pets, house, kids, and maybe other relatives and friends? Why is that unacceptable to you? If I had an office job that was not saving the world, or even my old job—helping defend big corporations against fraud charges (!) would that be acceptable? Is that actually better? Feeling like you are the arbiter of acceptability must be amazing.

PP thinks very highly of herself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

hahah! You have to be a troll, there really can't be people like you!

You'll love this. Early on in my marriage before kids I was a SAH to my toy poodle! Great times. Went to the pool, got certified in scuba to dive the John Pennekamp reef among others. We traveled and lived over seas for a time.

Now I sit on my butt, and am a contributing viewer to various tv shows. It's enjoyable and acceptable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

Why? Who gets to decide what is acceptable or not?

I'm pretty happy, watching The Real right now. Where's my Bonbons!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you're volunteering or otherwise doing something to contribute positively to the world.

If you don't want/need to work, that's fine, but to sit on your butt all day and do nothing is pretty unacceptable.

I commend anyone devoted to making sure their kids become responsible, principled adults, whether WOH or SAH, so save the sanctimommy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What woman who doesn’t need money would want to work as a sign spinner? Seriously? I don’t think people who desperately need money want to work that job.

But to answer the question, no, it wouldn’t work for me. Chances are, they would want me to work hours that would require me to find childcare. It’s easy to think you can tell a place “I can only work 8-3 and never on weekends or holidays”, but so does everyone else. Just because I have kids doesn’t make me special. Someone has to work 3-dusk, why shouldn’t it be me? And I’m not working minimum wage just so I can say I have a job to please you, when it means the money I make will go to a daycare or sitter? What’s the point?

May I ask, are you too "good" to be a sign-spinner? (or other type of sign-based outdoor active-marketing?) To explain, you stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in creative & exciting ways. It is a VERY popular form of marketing for mattress AND electronics after-market retailers, among others. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community on an honest, visual basis. OK?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What woman who doesn’t need money would want to work as a sign spinner? Seriously? I don’t think people who desperately need money want to work that job.

But to answer the question, no, it wouldn’t work for me. Chances are, they would want me to work hours that would require me to find childcare. It’s easy to think you can tell a place “I can only work 8-3 and never on weekends or holidays”, but so does everyone else. Just because I have kids doesn’t make me special. Someone has to work 3-dusk, why shouldn’t it be me? And I’m not working minimum wage just so I can say I have a job to please you, when it means the money I make will go to a daycare or sitter? What’s the point?

May I ask, are you too "good" to be a sign-spinner? (or other type of sign-based outdoor active-marketing?) To explain, you stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in creative & exciting ways. It is a VERY popular form of marketing for mattress AND electronics after-market retailers, among others. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community on an honest, visual basis. OK?

Lady, everyone knows what sign spinning is.

[Anonymous]

Where I live this (SAH even after youngest starts school) is fairly common so I can’t say I’ve gotten any comments about it. Literally the only one I can think of is from my WOH SIL (what DO you do ALL day?)

Maybe it’s your area Op? Or your circle of friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What woman who doesn’t need money would want to work as a sign spinner? Seriously? I don’t think people who desperately need money want to work that job.

But to answer the question, no, it wouldn’t work for me. Chances are, they would want me to work hours that would require me to find childcare. It’s easy to think you can tell a place “I can only work 8-3 and never on weekends or holidays”, but so does everyone else. Just because I have kids doesn’t make me special. Someone has to work 3-dusk, why shouldn’t it be me? And I’m not working minimum wage just so I can say I have a job to please you, when it means the money I make will go to a daycare or sitter? What’s the point?

May I ask, are you too "good" to be a sign-spinner? (or other type of sign-based outdoor active-marketing?) To explain, you stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in creative & exciting ways. It is a VERY popular form of marketing for mattress AND electronics after-market retailers, among others. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community on an honest, visual basis. OK?

Then go DO IT already! Nothing is stopping you from achieving your dreams.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What woman who doesn’t need money would want to work as a sign spinner? Seriously? I don’t think people who desperately need money want to work that job.

But to answer the question, no, it wouldn’t work for me. Chances are, they would want me to work hours that would require me to find childcare. It’s easy to think you can tell a place “I can only work 8-3 and never on weekends or holidays”, but so does everyone else. Just because I have kids doesn’t make me special. Someone has to work 3-dusk, why shouldn’t it be me? And I’m not working minimum wage just so I can say I have a job to please you, when it means the money I make will go to a daycare or sitter? What’s the point?

May I ask, are you too "good" to be a sign-spinner? (or other type of sign-based outdoor active-marketing?) To explain, you stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in creative & exciting ways. It is a VERY popular form of marketing for mattress AND electronics after-market retailers, among others. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community on an honest, visual basis. OK?

Lady, everyone knows what sign spinning is.

Are you aware this is no charge to do it and, in fact, you can be paid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What woman who doesn’t need money would want to work as a sign spinner? Seriously? I don’t think people who desperately need money want to work that job.

But to answer the question, no, it wouldn’t work for me. Chances are, they would want me to work hours that would require me to find childcare. It’s easy to think you can tell a place “I can only work 8-3 and never on weekends or holidays”, but so does everyone else. Just because I have kids doesn’t make me special. Someone has to work 3-dusk, why shouldn’t it be me? And I’m not working minimum wage just so I can say I have a job to please you, when it means the money I make will go to a daycare or sitter? What’s the point?

May I ask, are you too "good" to be a sign-spinner? (or other type of sign-based outdoor active-marketing?) To explain, you stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in creative & exciting ways. It is a VERY popular form of marketing for mattress AND electronics after-market retailers, among others. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community on an honest, visual basis. OK?

Lady, everyone knows what sign spinning is.

Are you aware this is no charge to do it and, in fact, you can be paid?

Omg! You mean I do not have to pay to stand on a corner and spin a giant sing around? Alleluia.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Would you consider taking casual work or volunteering? A nice example of the former is working a few hours a week (usually weekend afternoons) as a sign-spinner. You stand in front of a retail location, normally on a busy thoroughfare and spin a large rectangular sign in elaborate, fast-moving ways. This type of marketing is very popular with mattress retailers, as merely one example. It's also a great workout and fun way to interact with the community

I took the trouble of extending this idea and would appreciate a response.

I'm a SAHM who does not need to work for money. I think in such a case (not needing money), it is better that such jobs are left for people who need to earn money to meet their needs. It could be college students who are putting themselves through school (cause parents are not able to afford their college), or retirees (some people did not earn enough or save enough to retire comfortably), WOH people (cause they need to work), people without insurance who have faced a catastrophic loss monetarily, or even new immigrants to this country.

Would you encourage your daughters to work? If not are you encouraging their education? Serious question.

Honestly, if only those who HAD to work for money did, our society (that you reap the benefits of) would be in a very different place.

I am very well educated, which enabled me to get a high paying job, which enabled me to save a ton of money and which enabled me to also find a spouse who was well-educated and high earner. As a result, I am now a SAHM, I help my kids with their homework and enrichment. My kids (DD and DS) are high achievers. They will also have my support in the college application process and will likely get into a high paying STEM based field at college. I will pay for their education, so they will not have college debt. I will be around to help them with their kids so that their life becomes easier. Being an educated wealthy SAHM allows me to help my kids and grand-kids. So, yes, my DDs will work but, they will work SMART not work HARD.

[Anonymous]

gotta enable those white men.