An explanation and request from a mom of a kid with autism

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP and SN teacher, you both deserve a nice cold beer today for everything you do in life.

I have a feeling they have "both" had several cold beers before posting.

yeah well Jeff proved your hateful little theory wrong so you can give it a rest and just go enjoy your perfect, superior life.

Jeff proved that you are sober? Wow - he is good!

Jeff proved that the OP is not sockpuppeting as the therapist.

Jeff can only prove that the two are not coming from the same address - he cannot prove the are two separate people.

jfc give it a rest. you are something else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please, stop, OP. You are embarrassing yourself and hurting your child. Please stop posting.

Why is standing up for herself and her child harmful and embarassing? Do you think only cute or inspiring disabled people deserve to be part of society? Truly, you are the one embarassing yourself, but I don't expect you to understand thay.

This one is OP sock puppeting, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please, stop, OP. You are embarrassing yourself and hurting your child. Please stop posting.

Why is standing up for herself and her child harmful and embarassing? Do you think only cute or inspiring disabled people deserve to be part of society? Truly, you are the one embarassing yourself, but I don't expect you to understand thay.

Stop, OP. Seriously. You are making it harder for people to give your son what you want by being such a jerk. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Please, stop, OP. You are embarrassing yourself and hurting your child. Please stop posting.

Why is standing up for herself and her child harmful and embarassing? Do you think only cute or inspiring disabled people deserve to be part of society? Truly, you are the one embarassing yourself, but I don't expect you to understand thay.

This one is OP sock puppeting, right?

sorry to burst your bubble but OP, the SN teacher, and I are all different posters. You can ask Jeff.

do you really find it so hard to conceive that there are parents and people with different experiences than you, and that you might be in the wrong? you are so sure you're right that every contrary view is fraudulent sockpuppeting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Please, stop, OP. You are embarrassing yourself and hurting your child. Please stop posting.

Why is standing up for herself and her child harmful and embarassing? Do you think only cute or inspiring disabled people deserve to be part of society? Truly, you are the one embarassing yourself, but I don't expect you to understand thay.

Stop, OP. Seriously. You are making it harder for people to give your son what you want by being such a jerk. Let it go.

that comment was not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please, stop, OP. You are embarrassing yourself and hurting your child. Please stop posting.

Why is standing up for herself and her child harmful and embarassing? Do you think only cute or inspiring disabled people deserve to be part of society? Truly, you are the one embarassing yourself, but I don't expect you to understand thay.

This one is OP sock puppeting, right?

sorry to burst your bubble but OP, the SN teacher, and I are all different posters. You can ask Jeff.

do you really find it so hard to conceive that there are parents and people with different experiences than you, and that you might be in the wrong? you are so sure you're right that every contrary view is fraudulent sockpuppeting?

Different IP addresses don't mean different posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please, stop, OP. You are embarrassing yourself and hurting your child. Please stop posting.

Why is standing up for herself and her child harmful and embarassing? Do you think only cute or inspiring disabled people deserve to be part of society? Truly, you are the one embarassing yourself, but I don't expect you to understand thay.

This one is OP sock puppeting, right?

sorry to burst your bubble but OP, the SN teacher, and I are all different posters. You can ask Jeff.

do you really find it so hard to conceive that there are parents and people with different experiences than you, and that you might be in the wrong? you are so sure you're right that every contrary view is fraudulent sockpuppeting?

Different IP addresses don't mean different posters.

ok, you're right. we're all the same people, and disabled children never face any prejudice, and moms of SN kids must alway be sunshine and roses and grovel with thankfulness for being allowed to exist.

[Anonymous]

If you don't tell people he has special needs, of course they will react more harshly. A NT 5 yo should be severely punished for spitting and I would be appalled if a child spit on my child. So, you can either disclose the special. Reds and get cut some slack or not and have everyone hold your child to a NT standard. Your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you don't tell people he has special needs, of course they will react more harshly. A NT 5 yo should be severely punished for spitting and I would be appalled if a child spit on my child. So, you can either disclose the special. Reds and get cut some slack or not and have everyone hold your child to a NT standard. Your choice.

So you won't be happy unless the child is spanked or screamed at? Are you aware that most evidence-based advice for dealing with behavioral issues eschews harsh punishment? do what you need to do with your child, but never assume you know better how to discipline a child than their own parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you don't tell people he has special needs, of course they will react more harshly. A NT 5 yo should be severely punished for spitting and I would be appalled if a child spit on my child. So, you can either disclose the special. Reds and get cut some slack or not and have everyone hold your child to a NT standard. Your choice.

So you won't be happy unless the child is spanked or screamed at? Are you aware that most evidence-based advice for dealing with behavioral issues eschews harsh punishment? do what you need to do with your child, but never assume you know better how to discipline a child than their own parent.

Wtf? I said nothing about spanking or screaming. But if you want me not to get upset about a 5 yo spitting, you need to disclose that he has special needs. Then I will totally cut you and him slack because I have no idea the best way to handle your particular child. Otherwise I will think the kid is out of control because NT children should not be spitting and their parents should have a pretty severe consequence if the child does do that .

[Anonymous]

Everyone please - stop posting. OP is nuts or drunk and just wants to fight.

[Anonymous]

I haven't been on here in hours. This is op. You people are so vengeful and nasty it's insane. You're just insulting each other. And you've proven my point a hundred times over.

[Anonymous]

Oh and people - it would be embarrassing if I didn't call you out when you're being hateful and unkind to my innocent disabled child for being odd. That's what would be embarrassing. You are all so determined to be able to correct and judge others that you can't bear the idea of extenuating circumstances and you're setting yourselves up for some massive falls. The most superior toddler parents have the worst behaved middle schoolers. Enjoy that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and people - it would be embarrassing if I didn't call you out when you're being hateful and unkind to my innocent disabled child for being odd. That's what would be embarrassing. You are all so determined to be able to correct and judge others that you can't bear the idea of extenuating circumstances and you're setting yourselves up for some massive falls. The most superior toddler parents have the worst behaved middle schoolers. Enjoy that.

Whut?

[Anonymous]

13:30 here. I don't live in DC, and I don't know who the OP is. I don't agree with how this conversation has taken place, and I hoped to add a different perspective. I would think that the difference in syntax and diction between myself and the op would make it clear that we are different people.
To the 'fascinating' comment or, if a client was displaying aggressive behavior (spitting on a person, growling at a person,etc.) I would most likely address it, give them an opportunity to try an alternative coping mechanism and then remove them from the situation if necessary. However, I do question what is aggressive behavior and the intent. I have been growled at and spit near by NT children playing pretend or simply getting overexcited at the playground. It is also not uncommon for older children to invade a smaller child's play area without repercussions--that's fine. Honestly, unless it is causing harm (like biting) I ignore it and let their caregivers handle it. No the behaviors are not acceptable, but what does it cost me to police someone else 's child whom I don't know be giving someone the benefit of believing that they are doing the best the can in that moment. I don't consider a child snatching a toy, apologizing, and giving it back a problem. Kids suck at sharing and it is something that can really only be learned through practice. To be sure, it doesn't feel great to have something snatched away from you, but barring extreme trauma, it won't do irreversible damage.