S/O How do you justify having an affair?

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Anonymous wrote:ABC cared because their employees and America cared. I mean if you don’t care what others think just keep doing you without trying to justify lying and sneaking around. I mean if you don’t care, why are you hiding in the shadows? Is it because whoever you are banging doesn’t want anyone to see you? Are you that hideous? I mean, why not just tell the guy’s wife? It doesn’t matter right? Or are you afraid to do that because he will dump you and call you a psycho? I guess I don’t understand people that can’t find D that is available.

Its often about the lifestyle and money, as PP noted. My exH AP was his direct subordinate at work, dependent on him with her salary, consulting contracts and so on. It happens more often than you think: married men don't get laid for free

I can assure you they get laid for free.

Then why do so many men pay for sex? Paying to be able to leave, as the comedy joke says?

Yes. They want someone who won’t cause problems or have emotional entanglements. Many men see this as more ethical than an affair.

They're also less likely to get caught. A professional is much more likely to keep her mouth shut and not have any contact with your social or work circle.

Honestly I agree with this perspective. Much better a pro than a love affair.

Agree. But the men that don't want to pay (because it ain't cheap) and don't want spouse to find out--settle for a married woman thinking she has too much to lose to tell. But--that is where it gets messy. They are looking for exit affairs and think it means more, then he has to lie to keep it going--kick the can down the road. Then-they wish they had just paid in the first place as it gets way too complicated to easily get out of. The fear of her getting mad and telling the wife.

No, using a sex worker is insane. You have a MUCH, MUCH higher chance of passing along a serious disease this way.

Wow. When you are being used because someone did the calculation and came to the conclusion that you might be 'safer' than a sex worker, and of course it's free.

Why do you assume someone is always being "used" and "discarded" etc etc? It's a mutually beneficial exchange for those people. Doesn't make it right, but it's downright misogynist to always assume the female AP is being used like a piece of trash.

She HAS to assume that. She was humiliated and will never get over that.

How is she being humiliated if she knows what she is getting into and the risk.

She’s being used, not humiliated because that would imply she had class and self-awareness. Instead, she glamorizes blowing married guys. 98% of Americans consider her trash and being in an affair wrong- but she owns it man and claims misogyny anytime people suggest that being part of an a affair on either side is wrong.

All women who call some “classy” and others “trashy” are without exception drooling idiots, and are frankly very unlikely to have satisfying relationships with their husbands. It speaks to a grimy and stupid personality, and that kind of person doesn’t tend to be good to be around, let alone to be good in bed or able to roll with life’s challenges.

Queen wrote a song about you, it goes: I like to ride my bicycle ….

I mean, no, but the person singing that song in your life isn’t Freddie Mercury. It’s every man who has ever had to spend time with you.

[Anonymous]

The poster spewing misogyny all over this thread is insanely disgusting. Whoever you are, I hope you get help.

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Anonymous wrote:ABC cared because their employees and America cared. I mean if you don’t care what others think just keep doing you without trying to justify lying and sneaking around. I mean if you don’t care, why are you hiding in the shadows? Is it because whoever you are banging doesn’t want anyone to see you? Are you that hideous? I mean, why not just tell the guy’s wife? It doesn’t matter right? Or are you afraid to do that because he will dump you and call you a psycho? I guess I don’t understand people that can’t find D that is available.

Its often about the lifestyle and money, as PP noted. My exH AP was his direct subordinate at work, dependent on him with her salary, consulting contracts and so on. It happens more often than you think: married men don't get laid for free

I can assure you they get laid for free.

Then why do so many men pay for sex? Paying to be able to leave, as the comedy joke says?

Yes. They want someone who won’t cause problems or have emotional entanglements. Many men see this as more ethical than an affair.

They're also less likely to get caught. A professional is much more likely to keep her mouth shut and not have any contact with your social or work circle.

Honestly I agree with this perspective. Much better a pro than a love affair.

Agree. But the men that don't want to pay (because it ain't cheap) and don't want spouse to find out--settle for a married woman thinking she has too much to lose to tell. But--that is where it gets messy. They are looking for exit affairs and think it means more, then he has to lie to keep it going--kick the can down the road. Then-they wish they had just paid in the first place as it gets way too complicated to easily get out of. The fear of her getting mad and telling the wife.

No, using a sex worker is insane. You have a MUCH, MUCH higher chance of passing along a serious disease this way.

Wow. When you are being used because someone did the calculation and came to the conclusion that you might be 'safer' than a sex worker, and of course it's free.

Why do you assume someone is always being "used" and "discarded" etc etc? It's a mutually beneficial exchange for those people. Doesn't make it right, but it's downright misogynist to always assume the female AP is being used like a piece of trash.

She HAS to assume that. She was humiliated and will never get over that.

How is she being humiliated if she knows what she is getting into and the risk.

She’s being used, not humiliated because that would imply she had class and self-awareness. Instead, she glamorizes blowing married guys. 98% of Americans consider her trash and being in an affair wrong- but she owns it man and claims misogyny anytime people suggest that being part of an a affair on either side is wrong.

All women who call some “classy” and others “trashy” are without exception drooling idiots, and are frankly very unlikely to have satisfying relationships with their husbands. It speaks to a grimy and stupid personality, and that kind of person doesn’t tend to be good to be around, let alone to be good in bed or able to roll with life’s challenges.

Queen wrote a song about you, it goes: I like to ride my bicycle ….

I mean, no, but the person singing that song in your life isn’t Freddie Mercury. It’s every man who has ever had to spend time with you.

That makes zero sense in the context of the jokes on this thread, but nobody claimed wit was needed for the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The poster spewing misogyny all over this thread is insanely disgusting. Whoever you are, I hope you get help.

Oh right, (palm in face), you only like it on the bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The poster spewing misogyny all over this thread is insanely disgusting. Whoever you are, I hope you get help.

My hand to god, I think she just started a wistful thread about how do you know if you’ve met your soulmate?

These threads always have two superstars: the crazy lady who found out her DH was on Ashley Madison during the pandemic and talked all of this smack about women in general - including blaming her DH’s mom for having been cheated on (!). She stayed and comes on in these flurries with several cheating threads, and then as punishment her DH posts his regrets. It’s amazing. The other is the cracked-out misogynistic chick sliming this thread. She’s never been married, and uses that as a defense when people recoil at her bitterness. It’s super hard to figure out how her charms haven’t worked.

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Anonymous wrote:ABC cared because their employees and America cared. I mean if you don’t care what others think just keep doing you without trying to justify lying and sneaking around. I mean if you don’t care, why are you hiding in the shadows? Is it because whoever you are banging doesn’t want anyone to see you? Are you that hideous? I mean, why not just tell the guy’s wife? It doesn’t matter right? Or are you afraid to do that because he will dump you and call you a psycho? I guess I don’t understand people that can’t find D that is available.

Its often about the lifestyle and money, as PP noted. My exH AP was his direct subordinate at work, dependent on him with her salary, consulting contracts and so on. It happens more often than you think: married men don't get laid for free

I can assure you they get laid for free.

Then why do so many men pay for sex? Paying to be able to leave, as the comedy joke says?

Yes. They want someone who won’t cause problems or have emotional entanglements. Many men see this as more ethical than an affair.

They're also less likely to get caught. A professional is much more likely to keep her mouth shut and not have any contact with your social or work circle.

Honestly I agree with this perspective. Much better a pro than a love affair.

Agree. But the men that don't want to pay (because it ain't cheap) and don't want spouse to find out--settle for a married woman thinking she has too much to lose to tell. But--that is where it gets messy. They are looking for exit affairs and think it means more, then he has to lie to keep it going--kick the can down the road. Then-they wish they had just paid in the first place as it gets way too complicated to easily get out of. The fear of her getting mad and telling the wife.

No, using a sex worker is insane. You have a MUCH, MUCH higher chance of passing along a serious disease this way.

Wow. When you are being used because someone did the calculation and came to the conclusion that you might be 'safer' than a sex worker, and of course it's free.

Why do you assume someone is always being "used" and "discarded" etc etc? It's a mutually beneficial exchange for those people. Doesn't make it right, but it's downright misogynist to always assume the female AP is being used like a piece of trash.

She HAS to assume that. She was humiliated and will never get over that.

How is she being humiliated if she knows what she is getting into and the risk.

She’s being used, not humiliated because that would imply she had class and self-awareness. Instead, she glamorizes blowing married guys. 98% of Americans consider her trash and being in an affair wrong- but she owns it man and claims misogyny anytime people suggest that being part of an a affair on either side is wrong.

All women who call some “classy” and others “trashy” are without exception drooling idiots, and are frankly very unlikely to have satisfying relationships with their husbands. It speaks to a grimy and stupid personality, and that kind of person doesn’t tend to be good to be around, let alone to be good in bed or able to roll with life’s challenges.

Queen wrote a song about you, it goes: I like to ride my bicycle ….

I mean, no, but the person singing that song in your life isn’t Freddie Mercury. It’s every man who has ever had to spend time with you.

That makes zero sense in the context of the jokes on this thread, but nobody claimed wit was needed for the job.

There, there. We can get you a reading specialist if you’re still school age.

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Anonymous wrote:ABC cared because their employees and America cared. I mean if you don’t care what others think just keep doing you without trying to justify lying and sneaking around. I mean if you don’t care, why are you hiding in the shadows? Is it because whoever you are banging doesn’t want anyone to see you? Are you that hideous? I mean, why not just tell the guy’s wife? It doesn’t matter right? Or are you afraid to do that because he will dump you and call you a psycho? I guess I don’t understand people that can’t find D that is available.

Its often about the lifestyle and money, as PP noted. My exH AP was his direct subordinate at work, dependent on him with her salary, consulting contracts and so on. It happens more often than you think: married men don't get laid for free

I can assure you they get laid for free.

Then why do so many men pay for sex? Paying to be able to leave, as the comedy joke says?

Ho say “what”?
Yes. They want someone who won’t cause problems or have emotional entanglements. Many men see this as more ethical than an affair.

They're also less likely to get caught. A professional is much more likely to keep her mouth shut and not have any contact with your social or work circle.

Honestly I agree with this perspective. Much better a pro than a love affair.

Agree. But the men that don't want to pay (because it ain't cheap) and don't want spouse to find out--settle for a married woman thinking she has too much to lose to tell. But--that is where it gets messy. They are looking for exit affairs and think it means more, then he has to lie to keep it going--kick the can down the road. Then-they wish they had just paid in the first place as it gets way too complicated to easily get out of. The fear of her getting mad and telling the wife.

No, using a sex worker is insane. You have a MUCH, MUCH higher chance of passing along a serious disease this way.

Wow. When you are being used because someone did the calculation and came to the conclusion that you might be 'safer' than a sex worker, and of course it's free.

Why do you assume someone is always being "used" and "discarded" etc etc? It's a mutually beneficial exchange for those people. Doesn't make it right, but it's downright misogynist to always assume the female AP is being used like a piece of trash.

She HAS to assume that. She was humiliated and will never get over that.

How is she being humiliated if she knows what she is getting into and the risk.

She’s being used, not humiliated because that would imply she had class and self-awareness. Instead, she glamorizes blowing married guys. 98% of Americans consider her trash and being in an affair wrong- but she owns it man and claims misogyny anytime people suggest that being part of an a affair on either side is wrong.

All women who call some “classy” and others “trashy” are without exception drooling idiots, and are frankly very unlikely to have satisfying relationships with their husbands. It speaks to a grimy and stupid personality, and that kind of person doesn’t tend to be good to be around, let alone to be good in bed or able to roll with life’s challenges.

Queen wrote a song about you, it goes: I like to ride my bicycle ….

I mean, no, but the person singing that song in your life isn’t Freddie Mercury. It’s every man who has ever had to spend time with you.

That makes zero sense in the context of the jokes on this thread, but nobody claimed wit was needed for the job.

There, there. We can get you a reading specialist if you’re still school age.

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Anonymous wrote:ABC cared because their employees and America cared. I mean if you don’t care what others think just keep doing you without trying to justify lying and sneaking around. I mean if you don’t care, why are you hiding in the shadows? Is it because whoever you are banging doesn’t want anyone to see you? Are you that hideous? I mean, why not just tell the guy’s wife? It doesn’t matter right? Or are you afraid to do that because he will dump you and call you a psycho? I guess I don’t understand people that can’t find D that is available.

Its often about the lifestyle and money, as PP noted. My exH AP was his direct subordinate at work, dependent on him with her salary, consulting contracts and so on. It happens more often than you think: married men don't get laid for free

I can assure you they get laid for free.

Then why do so many men pay for sex? Paying to be able to leave, as the comedy joke says?

Ho say “what”?
Yes. They want someone who won’t cause problems or have emotional entanglements. Many men see this as more ethical than an affair.

They're also less likely to get caught. A professional is much more likely to keep her mouth shut and not have any contact with your social or work circle.

Honestly I agree with this perspective. Much better a pro than a love affair.

Agree. But the men that don't want to pay (because it ain't cheap) and don't want spouse to find out--settle for a married woman thinking she has too much to lose to tell. But--that is where it gets messy. They are looking for exit affairs and think it means more, then he has to lie to keep it going--kick the can down the road. Then-they wish they had just paid in the first place as it gets way too complicated to easily get out of. The fear of her getting mad and telling the wife.

No, using a sex worker is insane. You have a MUCH, MUCH higher chance of passing along a serious disease this way.

Wow. When you are being used because someone did the calculation and came to the conclusion that you might be 'safer' than a sex worker, and of course it's free.

Why do you assume someone is always being "used" and "discarded" etc etc? It's a mutually beneficial exchange for those people. Doesn't make it right, but it's downright misogynist to always assume the female AP is being used like a piece of trash.

She HAS to assume that. She was humiliated and will never get over that.

How is she being humiliated if she knows what she is getting into and the risk.

She’s being used, not humiliated because that would imply she had class and self-awareness. Instead, she glamorizes blowing married guys. 98% of Americans consider her trash and being in an affair wrong- but she owns it man and claims misogyny anytime people suggest that being part of an a affair on either side is wrong.

All women who call some “classy” and others “trashy” are without exception drooling idiots, and are frankly very unlikely to have satisfying relationships with their husbands. It speaks to a grimy and stupid personality, and that kind of person doesn’t tend to be good to be around, let alone to be good in bed or able to roll with life’s challenges.

Queen wrote a song about you, it goes: I like to ride my bicycle ….

I mean, no, but the person singing that song in your life isn’t Freddie Mercury. It’s every man who has ever had to spend time with you.

That makes zero sense in the context of the jokes on this thread, but nobody claimed wit was needed for the job.

There, there. We can get you a reading specialist if you’re still school age.

Ho say “what” ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The poster spewing misogyny all over this thread is insanely disgusting. Whoever you are, I hope you get help.

Oh right, (palm in face), you only like it on the bedroom.

Go do your homework, incel.

[Anonymous]

Soooo….how realistic is frequent sex at home if DH has an AP? The ones I’ve heard of have little to no sex at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Soooo….how realistic is frequent sex at home if DH has an AP? The ones I’ve heard of have little to no sex at home.

Very. It’s usually the alpha male with a good looking wife at home who can still get whatever he wants on the side. And, attractiveness is directly related to greater chance of man stepping out.

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Anonymous wrote:The best thing you can do as an AP is go on with your life too and turn HIM into YOUR side piece. That way if he leaves you it’s not like you wasted time.

GROSSSSSSSSSSSSS. These poor betrayed spouses. Yes--let’s all bang around so there can be even more risk to the betrayed spouse. Is there any honor among you nasty thieves?

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the umpteenth post in the past 24 hours regarding cheating. I don't know if you've been burned recently, are ruminating about cheating or if you are a prolific cheating posts troll, but please give it a rest.

Not np, I personally know six couples suddenly announcing their respective divorces. Honestly, pretty shocked about each and every one, but as my husband said the other evening, we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. We have both observed a rather obvious uptick in divorces all of a sudden. Perhaps Op is one of those.

[Anonymous]

Attractiveness is not necessarily a factor. Plenty of mid men getting it on in the workplace etc.

[Anonymous]

I know a single guy that wears a fake wedding ring (not married) when he hits the bars. He said it’s crazy how many women he can bring home then when he isn’t wearing it.