S/O How do you justify having an affair?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Self reflection can help with those delusions actually. I held up a mirror for these people in those "10 pages". They will close their eyes and fight looking at it, but they got a glimpse, and they notice that the image is not as high and mighty as they built it in their heads.

Again, they are welcome.

Projection

Anything to avoid admitting she was humiliated and betrayed. By the husband she chose and stuck with, waiting for the other shoes to drop.

Could you please bump up the PP you are referring to? This conversation is really confusing otherwise.

The entire conversation is a mess.

I am a happily married woman and I agree with the other woman daring to point out that betrayed wives who scream insults at their husband’s girlfriends-affair partners-side pieces etc are totally and completely delusional, where they don’t direct that same fire to the husband. Cue the insults and a million lying replies about how of course they blame the men equally. It’s all lies.

But why can't you have a conversation that includes nuance and thoughtfulness? If you've been cheated on you're not allowed to have an opinion on the rando woman who slept with your husband? Doing so is some kind of failure of feminism, or self-esteem, or intelligence? That is just silly.

Frankly it's super weird to be this passionate about not allowing people to have opinions of the woman who slept with their husband. And therefore I suspect you are the same poster just pretending to be someone else to give yourself a +1.

Those opinions say as much about you as they say about those APs.

It's super weird to think that there can be only one person questioning your characterization of your DH's AP.

And by the way, the woman is rando to you. Your DH would say otherwise. He knows her...intimately.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Self reflection can help with those delusions actually. I held up a mirror for these people in those "10 pages". They will close their eyes and fight looking at it, but they got a glimpse, and they notice that the image is not as high and mighty as they built it in their heads.

Again, they are welcome.

Projection

Anything to avoid admitting she was humiliated and betrayed. By the husband she chose and stuck with, waiting for the other shoes to drop.

Could you please bump up the PP you are referring to? This conversation is really confusing otherwise.

The entire conversation is a mess.

I am a happily married woman and I agree with the other woman daring to point out that betrayed wives who scream insults at their husband’s girlfriends-affair partners-side pieces etc are totally and completely delusional, where they don’t direct that same fire to the husband. Cue the insults and a million lying replies about how of course they blame the men equally. It’s all lies.

Finally!

Somebody who shares my opinion! Refreshing!

Please read all "10 pages" to appreciate how truly ridiculous these women can be.These women are something else. From calling the APs dumb, to calling me an AP, to accusing me of lacking empathy, to calling me bipolar. It's been something!


I will type it again: it makes no sense at all to insult a woman for sleeping with a man you are STILL sleeping with. You are just insulting yourself.

Translation:

Anger at someone who slept with your husband . . . absurd!

Anger at people who post about being angry that someone slept with their husbands . . . totally rational!

You should divert that anger at your husband. That is who " betrayed" you( not you in particular, but you get what I mean).

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for sleeping with your husband? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for having an opinion you think is dumb? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

No my friend. I don't know you.

I don't run around calling my husband names.

You are calling yours names by calling his sidepieces trash for sleeping with him. If trash is good enough for your husband to sleep with, he is trash.

I don't know how you do call him trash and sleep with him. Because that makes you trash too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Self reflection can help with those delusions actually. I held up a mirror for these people in those "10 pages". They will close their eyes and fight looking at it, but they got a glimpse, and they notice that the image is not as high and mighty as they built it in their heads.

Again, they are welcome.

Projection

Anything to avoid admitting she was humiliated and betrayed. By the husband she chose and stuck with, waiting for the other shoes to drop.

Could you please bump up the PP you are referring to? This conversation is really confusing otherwise.

The entire conversation is a mess.

I am a happily married woman and I agree with the other woman daring to point out that betrayed wives who scream insults at their husband’s girlfriends-affair partners-side pieces etc are totally and completely delusional, where they don’t direct that same fire to the husband. Cue the insults and a million lying replies about how of course they blame the men equally. It’s all lies.

Finally!

Somebody who shares my opinion! Refreshing!

Please read all "10 pages" to appreciate how truly ridiculous these women can be.These women are something else. From calling the APs dumb, to calling me an AP, to accusing me of lacking empathy, to calling me bipolar. It's been something!


I will type it again: it makes no sense at all to insult a woman for sleeping with a man you are STILL sleeping with. You are just insulting yourself.

Translation:

Anger at someone who slept with your husband . . . absurd!

Anger at people who post about being angry that someone slept with their husbands . . . totally rational!

You should divert that anger at your husband. That is who " betrayed" you( not you in particular, but you get what I mean).

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for sleeping with your husband? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for having an opinion you think is dumb? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

No my friend. I don't know you.

I don't run around calling my husband names.

You are calling yours names by calling his sidepieces trash for sleeping with him. If trash is good enough for your husband to sleep with, he is trash.

I don't know how you do call him trash and sleep with him. Because that makes you trash too.

I never called anyone trash. I don't believe any human beings are trash, though some are so disordered or broken that they can't function correctly or avoid harming others.

Again, you are having an argument with precisely no one, over nothing that matters. I don't understand your drive to insult people who have suffered trauma because they wrote brief comments about their real life experiences in a way that displeased you, but it's very sad.

Have you considered trying to get positive attention for contributing something of value?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Self reflection can help with those delusions actually. I held up a mirror for these people in those "10 pages". They will close their eyes and fight looking at it, but they got a glimpse, and they notice that the image is not as high and mighty as they built it in their heads.

Again, they are welcome.

Projection

Anything to avoid admitting she was humiliated and betrayed. By the husband she chose and stuck with, waiting for the other shoes to drop.

Could you please bump up the PP you are referring to? This conversation is really confusing otherwise.

The entire conversation is a mess.

I am a happily married woman and I agree with the other woman daring to point out that betrayed wives who scream insults at their husband’s girlfriends-affair partners-side pieces etc are totally and completely delusional, where they don’t direct that same fire to the husband. Cue the insults and a million lying replies about how of course they blame the men equally. It’s all lies.

Finally!

Somebody who shares my opinion! Refreshing!

Please read all "10 pages" to appreciate how truly ridiculous these women can be.These women are something else. From calling the APs dumb, to calling me an AP, to accusing me of lacking empathy, to calling me bipolar. It's been something!


I will type it again: it makes no sense at all to insult a woman for sleeping with a man you are STILL sleeping with. You are just insulting yourself.

Translation:

Anger at someone who slept with your husband . . . absurd!

Anger at people who post about being angry that someone slept with their husbands . . . totally rational!

You should divert that anger at your husband. That is who " betrayed" you( not you in particular, but you get what I mean).

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for sleeping with your husband? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for having an opinion you think is dumb? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

No my friend. I don't know you.

I don't run around calling my husband names.

You are calling yours names by calling his sidepieces trash for sleeping with him. If trash is good enough for your husband to sleep with, he is trash.

I don't know how you do call him trash and sleep with him. Because that makes you trash too.

I never called anyone trash. I don't believe any human beings are trash, though some are so disordered or broken that they can't function correctly or avoid harming others.

Again, you are having an argument with precisely no one, over nothing that matters. I don't understand your drive to insult people who have suffered trauma because they wrote brief comments about their real life experiences in a way that displeased you, but it's very sad.

Have you considered trying to get positive attention for contributing something of value?

Interesting that you are responding to this argument about no one over nothing that matters.

Go back to contributing value.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Knock it off!!

Hell, no! Don’t fire off crap at people, accuse them of posting repeatedly or as someone where they haven’t, insult them for a different opinion, name call, and then whine. Be a woman.

Again responding in the singular. As if everyone that disagrees is the same poster. Time to put the iPhone down and go enjoy the sunshine. Deep breaths.

You don’t understand grammar, or anything else. I’m having a good day and will have an even better evening. 😘

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ Self reflection can help with those delusions actually. I held up a mirror for these people in those "10 pages". They will close their eyes and fight looking at it, but they got a glimpse, and they notice that the image is not as high and mighty as they built it in their heads.

Again, they are welcome.

Projection

Anything to avoid admitting she was humiliated and betrayed. By the husband she chose and stuck with, waiting for the other shoes to drop.

Could you please bump up the PP you are referring to? This conversation is really confusing otherwise.

The entire conversation is a mess.

I am a happily married woman and I agree with the other woman daring to point out that betrayed wives who scream insults at their husband’s girlfriends-affair partners-side pieces etc are totally and completely delusional, where they don’t direct that same fire to the husband. Cue the insults and a million lying replies about how of course they blame the men equally. It’s all lies.

But they do. Both parties in an affair are responsible. I haven’t met a single betrayed person who didn’t hold their spouse’s feet to the fire. None. Not the ones that left or the ones that decided to reconcile after waiting much time and getting protections in place.

I think what is objectionable are the few on here taunting and demanding respect for being part of an affair. That’s sick. Nobody should be proud if themselves that they are having sex with someone else’s spouse and lacking empathy. It’s 2023, people don’t like either party that does this and as others have points out, the majority of time around here both people are married.

Where are the APs responding and taunting? Show us those posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ Self reflection can help with those delusions actually. I held up a mirror for these people in those "10 pages". They will close their eyes and fight looking at it, but they got a glimpse, and they notice that the image is not as high and mighty as they built it in their heads.

Again, they are welcome.

Projection

Anything to avoid admitting she was humiliated and betrayed. By the husband she chose and stuck with, waiting for the other shoes to drop.

Could you please bump up the PP you are referring to? This conversation is really confusing otherwise.

The entire conversation is a mess.

I am a happily married woman and I agree with the other woman daring to point out that betrayed wives who scream insults at their husband’s girlfriends-affair partners-side pieces etc are totally and completely delusional, where they don’t direct that same fire to the husband. Cue the insults and a million lying replies about how of course they blame the men equally. It’s all lies.

But they do. Both parties in an affair are responsible. I haven’t met a single betrayed person who didn’t hold their spouse’s feet to the fire. None. Not the ones that left or the ones that decided to reconcile after waiting much time and getting protections in place.

I think what is objectionable are the few on here taunting and demanding respect for being part of an affair. That’s sick. Nobody should be proud if themselves that they are having sex with someone else’s spouse and lacking empathy. It’s 2023, people don’t like either party that does this and as others have points out, the majority of time around here both people are married.

Where are the APs responding and taunting? Show us those posts.

That poster is making a logical assumption that someone this obsessed with BW bashing would be an AP herself. But we have no way of knowing for sure. It may just be someone without other social or intellectual outlets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Self reflection can help with those delusions actually. I held up a mirror for these people in those "10 pages". They will close their eyes and fight looking at it, but they got a glimpse, and they notice that the image is not as high and mighty as they built it in their heads.

Again, they are welcome.

Projection

Anything to avoid admitting she was humiliated and betrayed. By the husband she chose and stuck with, waiting for the other shoes to drop.

Could you please bump up the PP you are referring to? This conversation is really confusing otherwise.

The entire conversation is a mess.

I am a happily married woman and I agree with the other woman daring to point out that betrayed wives who scream insults at their husband’s girlfriends-affair partners-side pieces etc are totally and completely delusional, where they don’t direct that same fire to the husband. Cue the insults and a million lying replies about how of course they blame the men equally. It’s all lies.

Finally!

Somebody who shares my opinion! Refreshing!

Please read all "10 pages" to appreciate how truly ridiculous these women can be.These women are something else. From calling the APs dumb, to calling me an AP, to accusing me of lacking empathy, to calling me bipolar. It's been something!


I will type it again: it makes no sense at all to insult a woman for sleeping with a man you are STILL sleeping with. You are just insulting yourself.

Translation:

Anger at someone who slept with your husband . . . absurd!

Anger at people who post about being angry that someone slept with their husbands . . . totally rational!

You should divert that anger at your husband. That is who " betrayed" you( not you in particular, but you get what I mean).

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for sleeping with your husband? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

So you would rub excrement on your body because you are angry at someone for having an opinion you think is dumb? That's exactly what you are doing. It does not make sense.

No my friend. I don't know you.

I don't run around calling my husband names.

You are calling yours names by calling his sidepieces trash for sleeping with him. If trash is good enough for your husband to sleep with, he is trash.

I don't know how you do call him trash and sleep with him. Because that makes you trash too.

I don't know you! But you're definitely trash!

[Pats self on back for amazing feats of persuasive reasoning and #winningtheinternet]

[Anonymous]

I'm a BW and I just have to say that if I had a choice between being marooned a dessert island with my husband's OW or with the "haha I spent 10 pages telling BW they are trash!" poster, I would pick . . . the OW.

And that's the total truth. At least she knew when to keep quiet and when to walk away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a BW and I just have to say that if I had a choice between being marooned a dessert island with my husband's OW or with the "haha I spent 10 pages telling BW they are trash!" poster, I would pick . . . the OW.

And that's the total truth. At least she knew when to keep quiet and when to walk away.

Did you know when to walk away? Are you still sleeping with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a BW and I just have to say that if I had a choice between being marooned a dessert island with my husband's OW or with the "haha I spent 10 pages telling BW they are trash!" poster, I would pick . . . the OW.

And that's the total truth. At least she knew when to keep quiet and when to walk away.

Color me shocked!

You already have a lot in common...your DH.

[Anonymous]

Keep his belly full and his balls empty, ladies.

It's delusional to believe that if you deny your partner of sex and affection regularly and over an extended period, there wont be a strong temptation to get midnight take-out.

I have never cheated in anyone, but if I found myself trapped in a marriage with a frigid harpy I would have to say never say never.