I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA

[Anonymous]

Why does this define you and your relationship?

[Anonymous]

How frequently do you get tested for STDs?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a child of divorce (no cheating, just didn't work out) and the two homes thing was cool. I had two rooms that I got to decorate as I liked, friends at both places and so on. It was not earthshattering or whatever as people here state.

Also, I think it's effed up to gloat that you played a role in breaking up a marriage, but all the outrage and vitriol here is a bit much. It's not your marriage, your kid(s), your life, so dial it down people.

Finally my question to the OP: What has your husband learned from the experience that would make him a better husband to you?

OP wrote this!!

Nope. You people have a hard time believing that not everyone is outraged by other people's lives. All the vitriol here is silly to me. I don't know this woman, and don't care enough to call her a whore and all that as others have done here. It's crazy to me. The only people who should be this mad is the ex-wife.

Please. It's the most obvious example of displacement. They can't be mad at the person who actually wronged them, so they lash out (with extra vitriol because anonymity breeds contempt) at someone who embodies some of the same characteristics as the person who wronged them.

There are also just some people who do not see this as an issue with any nuance. If you cheat on someone or are involved with someone who is cheating on someone, you are a bad person and deserve horrible things for that, full stop.

Oh, God - you again. Nobody has cheated on me. But I still condemn cheating because I value honor and integrity. It's not a question of "nuance" when you are a cheater. It's a question of lacking character. You are not a good person by definition. Doesn't mean I wish "horrible things" on the OP. But frankly, she is in for a rude awakening when her DH decides she isn't meeting his "needs" any more.

[Anonymous]

that is so sad that your step child has to express, and you so easily accept (because it is convenient for you) that she loves having two hones. if thats even true.

[Anonymous]

Funny how folks with most "honor and integrity" get cheated on most often, or better yet, cheat themselves. Is this some kind of reverse karma to teach them not to judge?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny how folks with most "honor and integrity" get cheated on most often, or better yet, cheat themselves. Is this some kind of reverse karma to teach them not to judge?

You just made that up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 40 year old ex-loser cheated on me with a 24 year old. When she turned 27 her cheated on her with a 21 year old. Haha good luck, OP!!

He's not a loser if he can find all these women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Funny how folks with most "honor and integrity" get cheated on most often, or better yet, cheat themselves. Is this some kind of reverse karma to teach them not to judge?

You just made that up.

Anecdotal doesn't equal made-up

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how folks with most "honor and integrity" get cheated on most often, or better yet, cheat themselves. Is this some kind of reverse karma to teach them not to judge?

You just made that up.

Anecdotal doesn't equal made-up

But it still equals a logical fallacy.

You can look up what that means.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how folks with most "honor and integrity" get cheated on most often, or better yet, cheat themselves. Is this some kind of reverse karma to teach them not to judge?

You just made that up.

Anecdotal doesn't equal made-up

But it still equals a logical fallacy.

You can look up what that means.

You need to look up what boring means. Not everything is logical, my friend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 40 year old ex-loser cheated on me with a 24 year old. When she turned 27 her cheated on her with a 21 year old. Haha good luck, OP!!

He's not a loser if he can find all these women.

He's a regressed loser obviously who is probably controlling, why younger naive people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 40 year old ex-loser cheated on me with a 24 year old. When she turned 27 her cheated on her with a 21 year old. Haha good luck, OP!!

He's not a loser if he can find all these women.

IDK, some women are losers themselves or they have issues and will jump at the first guy that shows them attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My 40 year old ex-loser cheated on me with a 24 year old. When she turned 27 her cheated on her with a 21 year old. Haha good luck, OP!!

He's not a loser if he can find all these women.

He's a regressed loser obviously who is probably controlling, why younger naive people.

You know that how? It sounds more like she is a dried-up bitter 40-something unable to find a decent date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how folks with most "honor and integrity" get cheated on most often, or better yet, cheat themselves. Is this some kind of reverse karma to teach them not to judge?

You just made that up.

Anecdotal doesn't equal made-up

But it still equals a logical fallacy.

You can look up what that means.

You need to look up what boring means. Not everything is logical, my friend.

Yeah, you should definitely Google logical fallacy, "friend" - since you clearly don't even understand why I said that. (Hint: it's a logical fallacy because anecdotal evidence is meaningless).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny how folks with most "honor and integrity" get cheated on most often, or better yet, cheat themselves. Is this some kind of reverse karma to teach them not to judge?

You just made that up.

Anecdotal doesn't equal made-up

But it still equals a logical fallacy.

You can look up what that means.

You need to look up what boring means. Not everything is logical, my friend.

Yeah, you should definitely Google logical fallacy, "friend" - since you clearly don't even understand why I said that. (Hint: it's a logical fallacy because anecdotal evidence is meaningless).

If you think this is a logical statement, you're in a world of your own...