Gay man who adopted a child: Ask me Anything

[Anonymous]

Is girth as important as length?

Do you do rewards for potty training?

What is your daughter's nickname?

What are your bad habits?

Did you ever date a girl before you came out?

What are did you know you were gay?

Where did you spend Thanksgiving last year?

Do you like the attention on this board?

How come you won't answer if you are hit or whether you practice safe sex always or are worried about STDs?

Do you or have you had an STD?

[Anonymous]

Do you ever get BO?

Do you have clear polish on - ever?

What do you think of a man purse?

Can you drive a stick shift?

What other websites do you post (in forums)?

Bad habits - you didn't answer that one either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, keep in mind that some families have issues with sleep overs REGARDLESS of the parents' sexual orienation. So don't take any rejection of an invite to mean anti gay.
Many families from overseas don't get the sleepover thing.

When my daughter was 7, she had a girlfriend with two moms. I explained in age appropriate terms why two moms. However, I would not allow sleepovers until she got older so I could explain her friend's parents adult relationship. I felt that way then, and I would do nothing different today at age 15.

Heterosexual relationships are complicated enough. Also, the friendship ended when they relocated, and daughter never did spend the night.

I don't understand your post. What is there to explain any differently from the heterosexual relationship?

Sorry, I wasn't clear. Adult physical relationship. While the emotional aspect is the same, the physical is not. We progressed, age appropriately, in our discussions of heterosexual intimacy. I felt and still do that it was important for my young daughter understand her parents relationship first before discussing reasons why her friends moms have the same intimacy.

However, in your household, you may feel differently because the makeup for your family is different. Count on it that your child will question her friends parents relationship in comparison to her own. Not bad, just different.

Why do you feel compelled to explain another couple's sex life to your child?

I can't answer for the PP but I know that children are very astute and ask questions when they see things differently from how they are raised. And that includes everything from why is the sky blue to how come Mary's skin is darker than mine. Did it ever occur to you , OP, that it might be confusing for a child seeing two women kiss intimately or even caught in a moment of sexual intimacy? My child has walked in on my spouse and I and, yes, it became a teaching moment.

If PP has taught her child about intimacy in one way and then she/he sees something different, the child is going to ask for explanation. I totally agree with PP. Straight intimacy is hard enough to explain and then have to explain gay intimacy IF necessary. And, yes, we no longer learn about sex from the locker room. I applaud PP for teaching her child about BOTH sides if the questionos were asked. So, I think, in answer to your response, that maybe she felt compelled to explain it. Who better to give an explanation than someone you trust?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: Why do you feel compelled to explain another couple's sex life to your child?

I can't answer for the PP but I know that children are very astute and ask questions when they see things differently from how they are raised. And that includes everything from why is the sky blue to how come Mary's skin is darker than mine. Did it ever occur to you , OP, that it might be confusing for a child seeing two women kiss intimately or even caught in a moment of sexual intimacy? My child has walked in on my spouse and I and, yes, it became a teaching moment.

If PP has taught her child about intimacy in one way and then she/he sees something different, the child is going to ask for explanation. I totally agree with PP. Straight intimacy is hard enough to explain and then have to explain gay intimacy IF necessary. And, yes, we no longer learn about sex from the locker room. I applaud PP for teaching her child about BOTH sides if the questionos were asked. So, I think, in answer to your response, that maybe she felt compelled to explain it. Who better to give an explanation than someone you trust?

I am the PP you're responding to, but not the OP.

I have never thought it was necessary to explain the sex lives of other people. To each their own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, keep in mind that some families have issues with sleep overs REGARDLESS of the parents' sexual orienation. So don't take any rejection of an invite to mean anti gay.
Many families from overseas don't get the sleepover thing.

When my daughter was 7, she had a girlfriend with two moms. I explained in age appropriate terms why two moms. However, I would not allow sleepovers until she got older so I could explain her friend's parents adult relationship. I felt that way then, and I would do nothing different today at age 15.

Heterosexual relationships are complicated enough. Also, the friendship ended when they relocated, and daughter never did spend the night.

I don't understand your post. What is there to explain any differently from the heterosexual relationship?

Sorry, I wasn't clear. Adult physical relationship. While the emotional aspect is the same, the physical is not. We progressed, age appropriately, in our discussions of heterosexual intimacy. I felt and still do that it was important for my young daughter understand her parents relationship first before discussing reasons why her friends moms have the same intimacy.

However, in your household, you may feel differently because the makeup for your family is different. Count on it that your child will question her friends parents relationship in comparison to her own. Not bad, just different.

Why do you feel compelled to explain another couple's sex life to your child?

I can't answer for the PP but I know that children are very astute and ask questions when they see things differently from how they are raised. And that includes everything from why is the sky blue to how come Mary's skin is darker than mine. Did it ever occur to you , OP, that it might be confusing for a child seeing two women kiss intimately or even caught in a moment of sexual intimacy? My child has walked in on my spouse and I and, yes, it became a teaching moment.

If PP has taught her child about intimacy in one way and then she/he sees something different, the child is going to ask for explanation. I totally agree with PP. Straight intimacy is hard enough to explain and then have to explain gay intimacy IF necessary. And, yes, we no longer learn about sex from the locker room. I applaud PP for teaching her child about BOTH sides if the questionos were asked. So, I think, in answer to your response, that maybe she felt compelled to explain it. Who better to give an explanation than someone you trust?

Excellent post. Well said and truthful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Why do you feel compelled to explain another couple's sex life to your child?

I can't answer for the PP but I know that children are very astute and ask questions when they see things differently from how they are raised. And that includes everything from why is the sky blue to how come Mary's skin is darker than mine. Did it ever occur to you , OP, that it might be confusing for a child seeing two women kiss intimately or even caught in a moment of sexual intimacy? My child has walked in on my spouse and I and, yes, it became a teaching moment.

If PP has taught her child about intimacy in one way and then she/he sees something different, the child is going to ask for explanation. I totally agree with PP. Straight intimacy is hard enough to explain and then have to explain gay intimacy IF necessary. And, yes, we no longer learn about sex from the locker room. I applaud PP for teaching her child about BOTH sides if the questionos were asked. So, I think, in answer to your response, that maybe she felt compelled to explain it. Who better to give an explanation than someone you trust?

I am the PP you're responding to, but not the OP.

I have never thought it was necessary to explain the sex lives of other people. To each their own.

What you think and what the PP may have found necessary to do are two different things. It's not about you.

[Anonymous]

Is girth as important as length? they're both important. i think every man hopes to win the all-around title

Do you do rewards for potty training? no.

What is your daughter's nickname? multiple variations on her name, plus Shorty.

What are your bad habits? too much coffee, too much wine

Did you ever date a girl before you came out? no

What are did you know you were gay? same time you knew you were straight.

Where did you spend Thanksgiving last year? Friend's house. Daughter fell asleep on a pile of coats.

Do you like the attention on this board? I'm surprised by it

How come you won't answer if you are hit or whether you practice safe sex always or are worried about STDs? I've been hit (?), I do practice safe sex, and I think everyone single worries a little about STD's, but I'm not worried due to reckless behavior.

Do you or have you had an STD? no

[Anonymous]

Do you ever get BO? sure, after working out. doesn't everyone?

Do you have clear polish on - ever? yes, I went through that phase.

What do you think of a man purse? it's not for me but it's fine if it's for others.

Can you drive a stick shift? sure

What other websites do you post (in forums)? i read a couple of parenting ones, but rarely post

Bad habits - you didn't answer that one either. see above.

[Anonymous]

Are you hit is are you hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you hit is are you hot.

That one did get answered.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you hit is are you hot.

That one did get answered.

What was answer?

Also - who does he judge?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Why do you feel compelled to explain another couple's sex life to your child?

I can't answer for the PP but I know that children are very astute and ask questions when they see things differently from how they are raised. And that includes everything from why is the sky blue to how come Mary's skin is darker than mine. Did it ever occur to you , OP, that it might be confusing for a child seeing two women kiss intimately or even caught in a moment of sexual intimacy? My child has walked in on my spouse and I and, yes, it became a teaching moment.

If PP has taught her child about intimacy in one way and then she/he sees something different, the child is going to ask for explanation. I totally agree with PP. Straight intimacy is hard enough to explain and then have to explain gay intimacy IF necessary. And, yes, we no longer learn about sex from the locker room. I applaud PP for teaching her child about BOTH sides if the questionos were asked. So, I think, in answer to your response, that maybe she felt compelled to explain it. Who better to give an explanation than someone you trust?

I am the PP you're responding to, but not the OP.

I have never thought it was necessary to explain the sex lives of other people. To each their own.

What you think and what the PP may have found necessary to do are two different things. It's not about you.

I think you missed an important sentence.

[Anonymous]

Wow...NP lurker here. I finally got through 19 pages (!) of this and I'm fascinated. Thanks OP for being so forthright. You sound like you've done very well in transitioning into parenthood. Good luck.

So, curious, are you top, bottom, versatile?

Regarding your Fridays and Saturdays:
- About how long are the evening playdates? (e.g. how long do you and the neighbors stay out)
- Do the kids end up staying up past their normal bedtimes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow...NP lurker here. I finally got through 19 pages (!) of this and I'm fascinated. Thanks OP for being so forthright. You sound like you've done very well in transitioning into parenthood. Good luck.

So, curious, are you top, bottom, versatile?

Regarding your Fridays and Saturdays:
- About how long are the evening playdates? (e.g. how long do you and the neighbors stay out)
- Do the kids end up staying up past their normal bedtimes?

Can be versatile, depends on the other guy too.

The kids get put to sleep at bedtime. We'll stay out however long. If they're out an hour longer than I was out the night before, we don't sweat it. It all evens out over time. In the beginning we were more careful about being exact, but it loosened over time. Generally it's probably 6 or 6:30 to around midnight.

[Anonymous]

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