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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, keep in mind that some families have issues with sleep overs REGARDLESS of the parents' sexual orienation. So don't take any rejection of an invite to mean anti gay.
Many families from overseas don't get the sleepover thing. [/quote]When my daughter was 7, she had a girlfriend with two moms.  I explained in age appropriate terms why two moms.  However, I would not allow sleepovers until she got older so I could explain her friend's parents adult relationship.  I felt that way then, and I would do nothing different today at age 15.

Heterosexual relationships are complicated enough.  Also, the friendship ended when they relocated, and daughter never did spend the night.[/quote]

I don't understand your post. What is there to explain any differently from the heterosexual relationship?[/quote]Sorry, I wasn't clear.  Adult physical relationship.  While the emotional aspect is the same, the physical is not.  We progressed, age appropriately, in our discussions of heterosexual intimacy.  I felt and still do that it was important for my young daughter understand her parents relationship first before discussing reasons why her friends moms have the same intimacy.

However, in your household, you may feel differently because the makeup for your family is different.  Count on it that your child will question her friends parents relationship in comparison to her own.  Not bad, just different.[/quote]

Why do you feel compelled to explain another couple's sex life to your child? [/quote]I can't answer for the PP but I know that children are very astute and ask questions when they see things differently from how they are raised.  And that includes everything from why is the sky blue to how come Mary's skin is darker than mine.  Did it ever occur to you , OP, that it might be confusing for a child seeing two women kiss intimately or even caught in a moment of sexual intimacy?  My child has walked in on my spouse and I and, yes, it became a teaching moment.

If PP has taught her child about intimacy in one way and then she/he sees something different, the child is going to ask for explanation.  I totally agree with PP.  Straight intimacy is hard enough to explain and then have to explain gay intimacy IF necessary.  And, yes, we no longer learn about sex from the locker room.  I applaud PP for teaching her child about BOTH sides if the questionos were asked.  So, I think, in answer to your response, that maybe she felt compelled to explain it.  Who better to give an explanation than someone you trust?[/quote]

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