Gay man who adopted a child: Ask me Anything

[Anonymous]

Did he say what type of law he practices and whether he works in Biglaw?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he say what type of law he practices and whether he works in Biglaw?

Don't remember about the biglaw question (think answer is no), but yes he did answer type of law. I think it was corporate real estate. He also said that his salary was 200k recently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Will your daughter be immunized with Giardia when she is a teen?

We have a 'family secret' that we are not broadcasting to the world for obvious (to us) reasons. We are concerned because our child is asking about this person in our family and we are resistant to telling her a version of the truth (child friendly version) because she won't be able to discern who to tell and not tell...because she wouldn't see the shame in the story. I imagine it is similar to your situation...NOT that your situation is shameful but I imagine you don't want her innocently telling other kids and then SHE is judged or misjudged or talked about, etc. Does this concern you?

Not the OP, but I assume you mean Gardasil.

As for your second paragraph, you guys sound like bigots. You are not doing your child any favors.

I'm glad to not have to decide now. Will re-evaluate when she's closer to the age it's done. In response to your second paragraph, I won''t mind if she tells people I'm gay. I am. It's true. I can't really see her being judged for my sexuality. But if it happens, I'd feel bad for the person doing the judging. They're the ones with the problem, not my girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he say what type of law he practices and whether he works in Biglaw?

Commercial real estate. I used to do Biglaw. Got laid off in the recession, opened my own practice.

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Anonymous wrote:Do gay guys feel about blow jobs like married women do?

When Elton John, Fairy Godfather to all The Gays, indoctrinates us, he doesn't tell us how to feel in the orientation literature.

There's a lot more oral going on among us than any other kind of sex though.

I don't get your answer. Married women don't really like giving head.. Heck single women don't either but tolerate it during courting. Do you really like giving blow jobs?

Speak for yourself, lady! Some married women very much enjoy giving head.

[Anonymous]

OP: Are you watching The Bachelorette this season? If so, which of the three remaining guys is best for Des? Also, what do you think of Drew? Straight or gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will your daughter be immunized with Giardia when she is a teen?

We have a 'family secret' that we are not broadcasting to the world for obvious (to us) reasons. We are concerned because our child is asking about this person in our family and we are resistant to telling her a version of the truth (child friendly version) because she won't be able to discern who to tell and not tell...because she wouldn't see the shame in the story. I imagine it is similar to your situation...NOT that your situation is shameful but I imagine you don't want her innocently telling other kids and then SHE is judged or misjudged or talked about, etc. Does this concern you?

What's the family secret?

Is being gay seriously a "family secret". What the hell is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Did you know the sex of your baby when you adopted her?

Did you have a preference for boy or girl?

Did you always know that you wanted to be a father?

[Anonymous]

Why are there questions on here about bjs when it is supposed to be about adoption???

[Anonymous]

I am totally ok with single gay dudes adopting. But, I know a straight single guy that adopted a little girl and I think it is kid of weird. Am I being overly judgmental?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am totally ok with single gay dudes adopting. But, I know a straight single guy that adopted a little girl and I think it is kid of weird. Am I being overly judgmental?

*kind of

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Anonymous wrote:OP: Are you watching The Bachelorette this season? If so, which of the three remaining guys is best for Des? Also, what do you think of Drew? Straight or gay?

Sorry, not watching. I watched the first few seasons - I remember Trista and Ryan - and stopped watching when I was getting drunk from playing drinking games while watching (drink every time someone says soulmate, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Why are you doing delayed immunizations? I liked everything about you until that bit. You seem so sensible and smart, so what kind of a decision is delayed immunizations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you know the sex of your baby when you adopted her?

Did you have a preference for boy or girl?

Did you always know that you wanted to be a father?

1. yes.
2. before it all got close to happening, i always saw myself as a dad to a son. but when paperwork was signed, and my grandmother and I were sitting across from the attorney, I just wanted a healthy baby and stopped caring about getting a son.
3. always assumed i would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you doing delayed immunizations? I liked everything about you until that bit. You seem so sensible and smart, so what kind of a decision is delayed immunizations?

My daughter's birth mother would not, or could not, provide much medical history. We know nothing of the birth father's side except that he's abusive and his brother has an eating disorder. My daughter's pediatrician suggested a delayed schedule, spreading out the immunizations.