Gay man who adopted a child: Ask me Anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, keep in mind that some families have issues with sleep overs REGARDLESS of the parents' sexual orienation. So don't take any rejection of an invite to mean anti gay.
Many families from overseas don't get the sleepover thing.

When my daughter was 7, she had a girlfriend with two moms. I explained in age appropriate terms why two moms. However, I would not allow sleepovers until she got older so I could explain her friend's parents adult relationship. I felt that way then, and I would do nothing different today at age 15.

Heterosexual relationships are complicated enough. Also, the friendship ended when they relocated, and daughter never did spend the night.

PP here. Daughter had numerous day playdates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are homosexual men more promiscuous than heterosexual men?

Ohhh good one. I think straight men feel free to hook up for their entire lives, mostly. Whereas gay men are not, and then there's often a breaking free period where they go wild a bit before settling down. So my guess is that over the course of a lifetime it evens out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you pray?

yes sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think that once you go gay you can never go back (ie, if you are a heterosexual man and have a homosexual encounter, you always crave it)?

Lol, I don't even know where to start with this one!

A person doesn't "go gay." Not to get all Lady Gaga on you, but "Baby, I was born this way." I didn't go gay. I didn't like, stumble into gay sex and get sucked into the underworld of gayness.
Trying out sex with someone the same gender you are doesn't mean you went gay. It means you experimented. You can try all sorts of things once, enjoy them, and still feel like once was enough. Gay sex doesn't involve putting a spell on a person.

[Anonymous]

PP here...here's how I picture you:

tall (over 6 feet), slender (you work to keep weight on), full head of dark, curly hair, artistic glasses, conservative/preppy dresser (bow ties, bucks, seersucker) and boyishly handsome. You have a shy smile.

I'll bet you are more introverted than extroverted (although with close friends, you are super chatty and silly and snarky), cautious and thoughtful and responsible.

If only polygamy were legal (sigh). My husband would be very angry with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does size matter?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, keep in mind that some families have issues with sleep overs REGARDLESS of the parents' sexual orienation. So don't take any rejection of an invite to mean anti gay.
Many families from overseas don't get the sleepover thing.

When my daughter was 7, she had a girlfriend with two moms. I explained in age appropriate terms why two moms. However, I would not allow sleepovers until she got older so I could explain her friend's parents adult relationship. I felt that way then, and I would do nothing different today at age 15.

Heterosexual relationships are complicated enough. Also, the friendship ended when they relocated, and daughter never did spend the night.

I don't understand your post. What is there to explain any differently from the heterosexual relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of dog do you have? What's its name?

She's a brown puggle. Her name is Rudy. Like Rudy Huxtable.

Hey, I'm the one who asked what kind of dog, and I have a puggle too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here...here's how I picture you:

tall (over 6 feet), slender (you work to keep weight on), full head of dark, curly hair, artistic glasses, conservative/preppy dresser (bow ties, bucks, seersucker) and boyishly handsome. You have a shy smile.

I'll bet you are more introverted than extroverted (although with close friends, you are super chatty and silly and snarky), cautious and thoughtful and responsible.

If only polygamy were legal (sigh). My husband would be very angry with me.

You want a ... sister-husband? So a brother-husband?
I'm 6'1" and 175. I have to be careful about the wine and working out to stay at that weight. Dark hair yes, but more wavy than curly. No glasses. I do have bucks, don't wear seersucker except for a pair of shorts, and don't do bow ties. Been told I have a good smile. I am pretty close to the fence on introverted and extroverted, but am more extroverted. There's definitely some snark. I didn't think I was silly but then got a daughter and found out it's in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of dog do you have? What's its name?

She's a brown puggle. Her name is Rudy. Like Rudy Huxtable.

Hey, I'm the one who asked what kind of dog, and I have a puggle too!

Aren't they great?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of dog do you have? What's its name?

She's a brown puggle. Her name is Rudy. Like Rudy Huxtable.

Hey, I'm the one who asked what kind of dog, and I have a puggle too!

Aren't they great?!

<3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you think that once you go gay you can never go back (ie, if you are a heterosexual man and have a homosexual encounter, you always crave it)?

Lol, I don't even know where to start with this one!

A person doesn't "go gay." Not to get all Lady Gaga on you, but "Baby, I was born this way." I didn't go gay. I didn't like, stumble into gay sex and get sucked into the underworld of gayness.
Trying out sex with someone the same gender you are doesn't mean you went gay. It means you experimented. You can try all sorts of things once, enjoy them, and still feel like once was enough. Gay sex doesn't involve putting a spell on a person.

Sorry, didn't mean to criticize you. Meant that more men would have sex with men if they had experienced it. Society keeps men from this kind of experimenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, keep in mind that some families have issues with sleep overs REGARDLESS of the parents' sexual orienation. So don't take any rejection of an invite to mean anti gay.
Many families from overseas don't get the sleepover thing.

When my daughter was 7, she had a girlfriend with two moms. I explained in age appropriate terms why two moms. However, I would not allow sleepovers until she got older so I could explain her friend's parents adult relationship. I felt that way then, and I would do nothing different today at age 15.

Heterosexual relationships are complicated enough. Also, the friendship ended when they relocated, and daughter never did spend the night.

I don't understand your post. What is there to explain any differently from the heterosexual relationship?

Sorry, I wasn't clear. Adult physical relationship. While the emotional aspect is the same, the physical is not. We progressed, age appropriately, in our discussions of heterosexual intimacy. I felt and still do that it was important for my young daughter understand her parents relationship first before discussing reasons why her friends moms have the same intimacy.

However, in your household, you may feel differently because the makeup for your family is different. Count on it that your child will question her friends parents relationship in comparison to her own. Not bad, just different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here...here's how I picture you:

tall (over 6 feet), slender (you work to keep weight on), full head of dark, curly hair, artistic glasses, conservative/preppy dresser (bow ties, bucks, seersucker) and boyishly handsome. You have a shy smile.

I'll bet you are more introverted than extroverted (although with close friends, you are super chatty and silly and snarky), cautious and thoughtful and responsible.

If only polygamy were legal (sigh). My husband would be very angry with me.

You want a ... sister-husband? So a brother-husband?
I'm 6'1" and 175. I have to be careful about the wine and working out to stay at that weight. Dark hair yes, but more wavy than curly. No glasses. I do have bucks, don't wear seersucker except for a pair of shorts, and don't do bow ties. Been told I have a good smile. I am pretty close to the fence on introverted and extroverted, but am more extroverted. There's definitely some snark. I didn't think I was silly but then got a

daughter and found out it's in there.

PP here... Anyway, gotta admit that I was pretty accurate. I can pick out the tall dark and handsome guys even over the internets. I've been told that I have great taste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, keep in mind that some families have issues with sleep overs REGARDLESS of the parents' sexual orienation. So don't take any rejection of an invite to mean anti gay.
Many families from overseas don't get the sleepover thing.

When my daughter was 7, she had a girlfriend with two moms. I explained in age appropriate terms why two moms. However, I would not allow sleepovers until she got older so I could explain her friend's parents adult relationship. I felt that way then, and I would do nothing different today at age 15.

Heterosexual relationships are complicated enough. Also, the friendship ended when they relocated, and daughter never did spend the night.

I don't understand your post. What is there to explain any differently from the heterosexual relationship?

Sorry, I wasn't clear. Adult physical relationship. While the emotional aspect is the same, the physical is not. We progressed, age appropriately, in our discussions of heterosexual intimacy. I felt and still do that it was important for my young daughter understand her parents relationship first before discussing reasons why her friends moms have the same intimacy.

However, in your household, you may feel differently because the makeup for your family is different. Count on it that your child will question her friends parents relationship in comparison to her own. Not bad, just different.

Why do you feel compelled to explain another couple's sex life to your child?