Would you not reciprocate a play date if friend’s house was too big?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't reciprocate but not because I'm embarrassed of my 1500 sq ft home. Just because i probably wouldn't be friends with someone who thinks it's normal to decide to live in such an obscenely large house and tries to justify it by saying their parents sometimes stay there. That person is so clearly out of touch, has strange priorities in life, and such a skewed perspective of things I wouldn't want to hang out w them. Also, no I'm not jealous. Sure I'd love to have that kind of wealth but I'd never ever want to spend it that way. It's so showy and wasteful and just gross.

[Anonymous]

I would feel like I had nothing in common with the type of person who has a 15,000 sq ft house after finding that out. And yeah, I'd probably ghost you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't reciprocate but not because I'm embarrassed of my 1500 sq ft home. Just because i probably wouldn't be friends with someone who thinks it's normal to decide to live in such an obscenely large house and tries to justify it by saying their parents sometimes stay there. That person is so clearly out of touch, has strange priorities in life, and such a skewed perspective of things I wouldn't want to hang out w them. Also, no I'm not jealous. Sure I'd love to have that kind of wealth but I'd never ever want to spend it that way. It's so showy and wasteful and just gross.

Same here. And all of your responses, op, are just off-kilter and show that your finger is NOT in the pulse of day-to-day local : "Maybe it's just because I am an old parent with my new baby. WE ARE IN OURUPPER 30S."

I think you are passive-aggressively trying to rule a lot of people up.

[Anonymous]

Rile not rule

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't reciprocate but not because I'm embarrassed of my 1500 sq ft home. Just because i probably wouldn't be friends with someone who thinks it's normal to decide to live in such an obscenely large house and tries to justify it by saying their parents sometimes stay there. That person is so clearly out of touch, has strange priorities in life, and such a skewed perspective of things I wouldn't want to hang out w them. Also, no I'm not jealous. Sure I'd love to have that kind of wealth but I'd never ever want to spend it that way. It's so showy and wasteful and just gross.

Same here. And all of your responses, op, are just off-kilter and show that your finger is NOT in the pulse of day-to-day local : "Maybe it's just because I am an old parent with my new baby. WE ARE IN OURUPPER 30S."

I think you are passive-aggressively trying to rule a lot of people up.

I actually don’t consider myself old. I know I am not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't reciprocate but not because I'm embarrassed of my 1500 sq ft home. Just because i probably wouldn't be friends with someone who thinks it's normal to decide to live in such an obscenely large house and tries to justify it by saying their parents sometimes stay there. That person is so clearly out of touch, has strange priorities in life, and such a skewed perspective of things I wouldn't want to hang out w them. Also, no I'm not jealous. Sure I'd love to have that kind of wealth but I'd never ever want to spend it that way. It's so showy and wasteful and just gross.

Same here. And all of your responses, op, are just off-kilter and show that your finger is NOT in the pulse of day-to-day local : "Maybe it's just because I am an old parent with my new baby. WE ARE IN OURUPPER 30S."

I think you are passive-aggressively trying to rule a lot of people up.

I actually don’t consider myself old. I know I am not.

I’ll back OP up on that, because I’m the PP who questioned her age. She meant she was “too old” to deal with friendship drama, not that she was actually old.

[Anonymous]

Why such a big house, OP? Really?

Are you embarrassed of it? Or do you love it?

[Anonymous]

It’s not the wealth that would turn me off...it’s the waste. Why on earth would five people need or even want 15000 square feet? That mind set would be off-puttting. Even if I had the money I wouldn’t buy a house that big.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why such a big house, OP? Really?

Are you embarrassed of it? Or do you love it?

I love our home, every detail of it. Our old house was fine but pretty cookie cutter without much character. I am not at all embarrassed of my house. We spent much effort making it our own.

I have many friends already, just not new baby mom friends. I felt I missed out the first round because I was a full time working mom back then. I want to go on stroller walks, meet up at the playground, go grab coffee, etc.

[Anonymous]

I doubt any of this has anything to do with your house. Moms don't reciprocate for a variety of reasons, it might be that your personalities are different and they want to hang out with other people. I wouldn't worry about it, you'll find people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not the wealth that would turn me off...it’s the waste. Why on earth would five people need or even want 15000 square feet? That mind set would be off-puttting. Even if I had the money I wouldn’t buy a house that big.

kris jenner has five kids and gazzilion of grandkids (and growing) + all the money in the world and she just bought 11000 square feet house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why such a big house, OP? Really?

Are you embarrassed of it? Or do you love it?

I love our home, every detail of it. Our old house was fine but pretty cookie cutter without much character. I am not at all embarrassed of my house. We spent much effort making it our own.
I have many friends already, just not new baby mom friends. I felt I missed out the first round because I was a full time working mom back then. I want to go on stroller walks, meet up at the playground, go grab coffee, etc.

Sorry OP, any person who loves every detail of 15K ft2 would not be a friend of mine. :-/ Like PP said, even Kris Jenner has a smaller house.

[Anonymous]

I live in a 700 square feet 1 bedroom apartment with 3 people OP. I would love to be your friend. Friendship is a numbers game. Keep trying!

[Anonymous]

Who cares about house size? I live in a large house and have friends with all sizes of house. Has nothing to do with our friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why such a big house, OP? Really?

Are you embarrassed of it? Or do you love it?

I love our home, every detail of it. Our old house was fine but pretty cookie cutter without much character. I am not at all embarrassed of my house. We spent much effort making it our own.
I have many friends already, just not new baby mom friends. I felt I missed out the first round because I was a full time working mom back then. I want to go on stroller walks, meet up at the playground, go grab coffee, etc.

Sorry OP, any person who loves every detail of 15K ft2 would not be a friend of mine. :-/ Like PP said, even Kris Jenner has a smaller house.

OP you seem unwilling to engage with any person questioning your ostentatious taste (despite the fact that most on here think your house size is extreme) priorities (a massive multimillion dollar house using large amounts of energy and resources for a measly 5 people and a hired housekeeper but your kids are in public school), or how you handle yourself with less privileged women. Have you not considered these as valid reasons women may not want to be your friend? Frankly, you just sound very unrelatable.