DD 16 is involved in a sexual relationship

[Anonymous]

PP the science says you're wrong. These youthful relationships (sex or not) help teens with their developing sexuality, their identity, and are building blocks for more adult relationships. Just like every other thing kids do. They are playing, practicing, and learning....and hopefully mastering. It's our responsibility to guide them in healthy ways.

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OP has not been back, possibly because this thread is fiction.

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If I recall in Germany, girls as young as 14 are legally able to go to the OBGYN without adult accompaniment and get the pill prescription. An enlightened culture with a far lower teen pregnancy birth rate.

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Anonymous wrote:OP has not been back, possibly because this thread is fiction.

What ever you say, Super Sleuth (with clearly too much time on her hands!).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has not been back, possibly because this thread is fiction.

What ever you say, Super Sleuth (with clearly too much time on her hands!).

She has been back. One page before this.

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Anonymous wrote:If I recall in Germany, girls as young as 14 are legally able to go to the OBGYN without adult accompaniment and get the pill prescription. An enlightened culture with a far lower teen pregnancy birth rate.

This is also the case in the United States with varying levels of complexity due to state legislation, HIPAA, and the Affordable Care Act. But as a general statement- teens can get birth control without parental consent in the US.

http://www.guttmacher.org/statecenter/spibs/spib_OMCL.pdf

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Anonymous wrote:To those of you suggest that they not have sex in her room, where do you suggest they go? All things aside, at least they're in a safe environment in her room.

I suggest they wait until the parents are out to dinner.

THIS! They are in school, presumably home before parents. Or parents will be gone at some point. I don't think its necessarily super disrespectful but I do think its odd and that its reasonable that others might feel disrespected if you say, had to be aware of when your relatives are having sex while you are in the same home. I don't really think this changes for adults either. I couldn't imagine having sex at my siblings or parents homes other than before bed or in the morning before leaving the bedroom because I just think its odd to be banging it out while my dad is sitting upstairs eating a sandwich.

I'd be proud of her for being responsible and ask that she keep something she wants to stay private for a time when they have privacy in the home.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are 16 and 18 and aren't allowed to have friends upstairs in the bedrooms. Friends stay downstairs in the living room, family room, or basement rec room. If they're going to have sex, let them work for it.

That's okay. They can do it at my house.

Signed,

your daughter's boyfriend's mother

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has not been back, possibly because this thread is fiction.

What ever you say, Super Sleuth (with clearly too much time on her hands!).

She has been back. One page before this.

No she hasn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP the science says you're wrong. These youthful relationships (sex or not) help teens with their developing sexuality, their identity, and are building blocks for more adult relationships. Just like every other thing kids do. They are playing, practicing, and learning....and hopefully mastering. It's our responsibility to guide them in healthy ways.

I'd argue that our society demonstrates that the "science" is wrong. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Women abort 20% of all pregnancies. Just two sobering statistics, not to mention all the tremendous suffering, heartache and abuse which occurs in "adult" relationships. No, I'm certainly not placing the blame entirely on teenage sexual relationships, but in my opinion they do not help the situation. Instead, serious teenage sexual relationships teach us to rely more heavily on the bond of sex (ie, the good feelings of sex) and dissociate that from the very real responsibilities and sacrifices of adult relationships. Then we wonder why men treat women like sex objects and are often incapable of commitment and supporting women emotionally.

[Anonymous]

Personally I would kick her out. I'd call cps and say my child needs to go to foster care I don't approve of the choices she made and no apology will help. Then I'd sign over all rights and never speak to her again.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I would kick her out. I'd call cps and say my child needs to go to foster care I don't approve of the choices she made and no apology will help. Then I'd sign over all rights and never speak to her again.

Model "parent." Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I would kick her out. I'd call cps and say my child needs to go to foster care I don't approve of the choices she made and no apology will help. Then I'd sign over all rights and never speak to her again.

Your poor children. I hope someone tells them that their mother is a narcissist and batshit crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP the science says you're wrong. These youthful relationships (sex or not) help teens with their developing sexuality, their identity, and are building blocks for more adult relationships. Just like every other thing kids do. They are playing, practicing, and learning....and hopefully mastering. It's our responsibility to guide them in healthy ways.

I'd argue that our society demonstrates that the "science" is wrong. Half of all marriages end in divorce. Women abort 20% of all pregnancies. Just two sobering statistics, not to mention all the tremendous suffering, heartache and abuse which occurs in "adult" relationships. No, I'm certainly not placing the blame entirely on teenage sexual relationships, but in my opinion they do not help the situation. Instead, serious teenage sexual relationships teach us to rely more heavily on the bond of sex (ie, the good feelings of sex) and dissociate that from the very real responsibilities and sacrifices of adult relationships. Then we wonder why men treat women like sex objects and are often incapable of commitment and supporting women emotionally.

Half of all marriages do not end in divorce.

Not all teen romantic relationships involve sex.

With any luck a teen's parents have been modeling a good marriage for years. That's critical, but I'm sure it's not the majority.

But guidance along the way is critical, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I would kick her out. I'd call cps and say my child needs to go to foster care I don't approve of the choices she made and no apology will help. Then I'd sign over all rights and never speak to her again.

Your poor children. I hope someone tells them that their mother is a narcissist and batshit crazy.

It's the kind of parent who drives girls to get pregnant to have someone to love. No love at home.