My mother-in-law called me a "sadsack"
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Anonymous
| Meant “she” shouldn’t have said it. |
Anonymous
Just curious - when do WOHMs get housework and chores done? Cooking and grocery shopping? While my kids are in school, I get these things done then they have my full attention when they come home, and they are never stuck running errands with me in the car. I think back on all the volunteering and organizing I’ve done in the community and at my kids’ schools and it’s the SAHMs getting it done. And NO I don’t think you can be a 5 star mom and a 5 star employee - something has to give. You end up prioritizing one over the other. Some people choose their kids and then they are just ok at their job. Some people choose their job and leave it to others to take care of their kids. So many working moms ask me to take their kid to practice. They call it a carpool but they don’t drive. No, go find another WOHM and figure it out. |
Anonymous
5:30-9pm with the kids and house. Like Hello Fresh Walmart free delivery for perishables each week Costco every other month- freeze proteins Weekends for kids games, parties, some chores, a family outing, planning a trip or vacation We have had cleaners 2x a month, then we moved and didn’t get one. Had a full time nanny years 0-5 kids.s then afternoon housekeeper/nanny years 5-9. Now just have sports car pools or drivers. Both my spouse and I have work travel 1-3x a month. Kids are 8 and 10. Maybe fly in grandparents if a lot of travel |
Anonymous
Dear Marge, Your son and I are in agreement about me being a SAHM. From his own experience, he appreciates a mother who can be available to her children. I am sorry you do not hold the same values as he does on this topic. |
Anonymous
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No
Just drop it. Funny how Op never circled back to saw MIL response or not |
Anonymous
It’s amazing how being a SAHM is now a social taboo. I am sure her son does have the luxury of staying home if he wanted to if he has disposable income . Most men these days who have stay at home wives can greatly afford it . There was a time where men with zero college or high school education would work like pack mules making minimum wage and somehow still be the only breadwinner. It’s still doable . Most men lie to their wives about how much money they really have . They can afford a household on one income but don’t want to because of MIL’s like OP’s |
Anonymous
Come up with a secret nickname for her—one that is mean—but on the money. Like “Tankle” or “frownline” or “BusyBee .” If it starts with her first name that is the best. Nothing too mean like “punch face” or “Saggy.” Then when she comes over, after you say something to her … follow it by the secret word in your head. It works like a charm. The point is to amuse yourself. Do not tell anyone of these nicknames. |
Anonymous
If you can’t work and be a mom, you’re just not very good at what you do. How long does it take you to shop for groceries? Have you heard of grocery delivery services? Had it occurred to you that some kids like to go grocery shopping and choose their own snacks etc? Does your DH have the capability to occasionally shop for groceries? Could you go later in the evening when something is needed urgently? I mean, come on. The fact that you can’t fathom how to grocery shop as a WOHM shows us that you don’t have fully developed life skills and probably wouldn’t be good at your job even if you didn’t have kids. |
Anonymous
| I cook quick and healthy meals - eg: put salmon in the oven (literally no work), boil some broccoli (healthy, also no work), and steam some rice. Prep time: 3 minutes, cooks by itself. |
Anonymous
This isn’t even a creative or subtle trolling attempt. Do better. Trolling is so much more enjoyable for everyone when a little effort is put into it. |
Anonymous
I would like to pin this post for us to all refer back to the next time there’s a debate about whether working moms or stay at home moms are working harder. Somehow when the topic is “who has to cram more in one 24 hour day,” the SAHM claim to have just as much to do as the WOHM. |
Anonymous
| Many of us think you don’t just get to take time off work (like months) to rest and recover, unless you’re seriously physically ill. Like, it’s not allowed. That sounds lazy and self-indulgent to me. And yes, I know what I’m saying is judgmental. I would never say this out loud. Out loud I would say, “good for you!” But there you have it. |
Anonymous
I’m this PP. And there’s a gender issue too because how often does a man get to take 6 months or a year or 4 years off work, unpaid, just because his last job was a real grind or whatever and he needs a break? It irks me that many women apparently consider their careers optional in a way that men do not. I’m not telling you to do something different, OP. Im just saying that you’re making a choice that some people will judge but most will have the tact not to say out loud. I make choices other people judge quite regularly. But we need to own it and deal with the uncomfortable feelings that brings up for us, I think, rather than acting like it’s such a mystery that anyone would judge. |
Anonymous
| Alot of people really struggle with executive functioning. I have seen women and men take 10 minutes at the self checkout for scanning 5 items so it doesn’t surprise me some people are wondering when grocery shopping is done. |
Anonymous
If you aren't working why would you need a babysitter? |