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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This does not sound like a work vs not work thing.

It sounds like you are a 'sad sack'. Are you? Are you sad? Are you struggling with your new life?

I think you are, because if you are not, the comment would not bother you.

My mother use to say, if somebody calls you a duck do you think "am i a duck" no... because you know you are not.

If somebody says "you're fat, or ugly, or stupid" and you get upset, it's because you think it about yourself. [/quote]

Wow, I just said something similar to my teenagers.  If you know a description doesn't fit you, you think something is wrong with the other person's perception.  But you are not sure, that's when start perservating.[/quote]

So by this “logic,” what you two are saying is that no strong, beautiful Black woman should ever feel insulted if someone screams the N-word at her. Because after all, that word can only hurt her if that’s the way she feels about herself?

No gay couple should be hurt if someone screeches the “f-word” at them? They would only feel insulted or attacked if they secretly loathe themselves or each other for being gay?

That’s your logic? Really? [/quote]

That's like saying I said, if your boyfriend said he's gonna kill you just ignore it, that is not what was said. Word of violence are different.

It's actually sad that you can't differentiate a rude comment from a violent comment.

Did OP think her MIL was being violent towards her?[/quote]

You clearly don’t know the difference between what is LEGALLY DEFINED as distasteful speech vs. hate speech vs. threats. I doubt you are intelligent or self-aware enough to do the research you would need to do to understand those three things, so this is where I leave you.[/quote]

Sit down Karen, You compared f*g and N-word to "sad sack".

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No I didn’t, dear. The “logic” on the table was that the only way anyone can ever be insulted by anything is if they secretly believe it about themselves. “Logic” fail. Try harder.[/quote]

You were wrong, you can't admit it. There is nothing logical about your hyperbole in this situation. Google why you should never use a hyperbole in a debate... educate yourself. [/quote]

True or false: no one should ever be insulted by anything, and if they are, it shows that they overtly or secretly think that thing to be true about themselves? True or false. You can only pick one, so pick.[/quote]

True, if you feel insulted you secretly think it to be true. That is 110% true.

True or false: Everybody in your life has to be perfect every minute of every day because you are so thin skinned one comment in 20 years can send you in a tail spin and therefore, nobody should ever, ever, ever say anything rude.

You can only pick one, so pick.  [/quote]

So if your Jewish kid comes home hurt be a someone hurled a slur at them, no need to report to the school.

Got. It.[/quote]

If a Jewish kid is called a sad sack he should ignore it.

Hate language should be reported even if the Jewish kid doesn't care because he has a strong sense of self because it's hate language which is against school policy... which is very different than being called a sad sack. [/quote]

Kida can be bullied with labels that aren't technicially hate language by those labels being applied frequently and inappropriately. Adults can be bullied by the same. [/quote]

Being called a sad sack is not bullying.[/quote]

It’s disrespectful to say and at her old age she should know better than to say it even kiddingly .

[b]Maybe her son wants a mother at home for his kids because his own mother was absent [/b]. MIL wouldn’t like it if DIL said this but I bet this is the case here [/quote]

Dear Marge, 
Your son and I are in agreement about me being a SAHM. From his own experience, he appreciates a mother who can be available to her children. I am sorry you do not hold the same values as he does on this topic. [/quote]

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