Yeah, any inconvenience to their guests isn't a concern for them. |
The AH here is actually your MIL because she’s the one who thinks it’s reasonable to treat you like BILs help.
This wedding invitation doesn’t work for you, so you decline. It’s not a summons, and if it was supremely important that you participate then your cousins would have either found a local childcare provider or invited children. And that doesn’t mean cousins are TAH either! Just send regrets and enjoy the weekend. |
1) OP never actually said it was a child free wedding
2) why does anyone have to spend the night? If OP’s DH and BIL want to go to the wedding, they could drive there leaving home at noon and leave the wedding at 6-7pm and be home by 8-9pm that night…wouldn’t be that hard for OP’s DH to drive there and back solo if he wants to attend this wedding. No one needs overnight childcare |
I don’t think it was overnight childcare. I think the kids would just need to stay at OP’s house overnight. Presumably her BIL would stay there too. Alternatively, they could all stay near the wedding venue overnight and get a babysitter for the evening. |
What is the probability these people know a trusted care provider? Where do you peoples live that there is easy access to trusted care providers? I and about 1 million other moms who live in this area will pay to know. |
What??? |
Are you the poster from a year or so ago with the biking dh who wouldn’t take vacations or do anything that would take him away from his biking. I recall the dh felt compelled to do long mileage trips and the wife had spent at least a decade of loneliness because he was always out riding. If so, that’s different. Your dh had something else going on like an addiction and wasn’t committed to you. This marathon may be a one time thing for sil or a once a year thing. We don’t know. |
I would have assumed a mom with young kids would have returned to work first before training for a marathon. Just makes more sense based on my circles. So training for a marathon would have serious trade offs, just like it would for any full time working parent with very young kids. |
Do. Not. Use. Care.com. The sitters who are registered on that site have not been properly vetted at all. Anyone can go online & call themselves a “professional” Nanny. And lie about their education + experience. |
Gag. |
Weird how all these drama llama mommas keep ignoring this every time it’s posted, instead continuing to shriek about “Care.com internet randos!!!” |
It wasn’t “the obvious.” It was a stupid opinion. |
![]() ![]() ![]() Cool story, martyr. |
Nope. |
OP, don’t take advice from someone who advocates leaving your kids with an internet stranger. |