Christmas travel-leaving 2 year old home while whole family goes to Caribbean?
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Anonymous
Stop making excuses. Take a nanny with you. You don’t leave one child behind. |
Anonymous
This kid spends days with multiple Nannie’s, not the parents and parents now plan to leave the kid home. That’s sad. I have a sn child. If anything I was more protective at that age as they could not talk and I’d never leave my kid home. |
Going on a one week vacation without a 2 year does not call for telling someone to abort or rehome a child. "Folks" are a-holes.
Anonymous
Many of us very much wanted to do that and didn’t, for this precise reason. I don’t feel bad for you, not even for the abusive comments on this thread. You came here looking for validation for your preferred decision, and you got it from some posters. Others have voiced a lot of opposition for various reasons. You opened yourself up to that. But the reason it’s gone on this long is that you want to fight with the people who disagree with you. You have been very active in this thread, coming back with a new piece of info to explain away every valid criticism, and to play the victim when people have gotten mean. You aren’t looking for advice, you don’t genuinely want opinions. You just want DCUM to rubber stamp your choice do you can do it without guilt. That’s not how this works. Sorry, a lot of us would not do what you want to do. A few people would. Make of that what you will and give it a rest. You’ll never get what you want out of this (unless you are a troll in which case: congrats, mission accomplished). |
Anonymous
It is heartwarming to hear how this thread has provided an opportunity for you to reflect on what an incredible parent you are. Don't we all jist love finding someone we can put down so we can feel good about ourselves? Especially with the holidays coming up. |
Anonymous
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To all of the self-righteous mfs who don't have kids with SN: I bet *your* family life doesn't revolve around the needs of just *one* of its members who in this case sounds like someone whose already challenging behaviors may escalate rather than dissipate as he gets older and if so will make it impossible for his family to enjoy a vacation with or without him, as the nanny surely won't be able to handle his tantrums alone when he is bigger and stronger than he is now. And while the degree of the 2 year old's developmental issues will determine whether or not he'll understand having been left with his nanny at some undetermined point in the future should he happen to see any photos of this trip, I can guarantee that the five year old, assuming that he knows about this trip already, absolutely will remember having to cancel it in order to accommodate the needs of a sibling who already takes up the bandwidth of his parents' time and attention and with whom it probably won't be possible to have a fully reciprocal sibling relationship when, chronologically speaking, both have reached adulthood.
OP, it sounds as though having your nanny watch your 2 year-old will be a win-win for him and for her. It also sounds as though she'll be well-compensated and that in coordination with her, you've created a plan for your son's care that will allow her some respite. Enjoy your Caribbean vacation with your 5-year-old, your husband and your mom. |
Anonymous
No. A holiday beach vacation is not a necessity. Neither is Disneyland, etc. |
Anonymous
Nope. Just a parent who’s sick to everloving death of parents who whine endlessly about mask requirements, up to and including FEDERAL mandates for air travel. |
Anonymous
It’s clear from OP’s responses that she will not. Clearly she only posted here to get internet strangers to tell her how right she is for a decision she’s already made. |
Anonymous
Does your child have special needs and will you be in another country, at the whims of the airlines, during a pandemic? Good try, though. |
Anonymous
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OP, I would like to suggest that you have Jeff delete this thread. You’re not going to get any different advice than you already have received, and as we all know, it’s up to you whether you take it or not.
I can understand you feeling very defensive over some of the comments here. I would look at it holistically: the reason comments are seemingly so direct and harsh is because what you have suggested doing goes against what 99% of parents here would ever fathom to even consider. You are getting a lot of knee-jerk, emotional responses because people here, on the whole, are genuinely shocked that this isn’t a troll post. If you need more advice to work through your decision, I would respectfully recommend you do so with a therapist or clergyman. I hope you come to peace with your decision, and whatever after effects you and your family members may experience. |
Anonymous
You don’t leave one child home during the holidays. If the holidays are about family you don’t exclude one member. They can bring a nanny. |
Anonymous
My kid had serious developmental delays and at two, could not talk. Years later kid is doing great. I would never travel now with Covid but if anything vacations were good and we saw progress with doing them. My kid looks at pictures. They would notice if they were not in them. Op has three kids. You take all or none. You make it sound like these kids are burdens and they are not. I feel bad for your child if you cannot treat them as an equal member of the family. The mask mandates are there for safety. Op can take the nanny on the trip to watch the kids. Problem solved. |
Anonymous
Sorry I thought OP was abandoning her child regardless of the child's SN, great job changing the subject when your arguments can't withstand the slightest scrutiny. |
Anonymous
Well I mean obviously YOU don't do that. Clearly other people have done it. That's why they are terrible parents and you are the best parent. |
Anonymous
No sane person thought that. |