Christmas travel-leaving 2 year old home while whole family goes to Caribbean?

[Anonymous]

I’m really glad to hear that everything went smoothly and you feel rejuvenated. Happy New Year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

We went and left the 2 yo home. It was wonderful.
DH and I had lots of good one on one time together and with our older DC.

Our youngest did well at home with the nanny. We were in touch continuously via phone.

We did sign temporary guardianship papers before we left in case anything should happen while we’re gone. I prepared a binder for her with insurance info (health, life, travel), plus relevant medical records, our will/trust, etc.

Our “nanny” really is our family. Even setting aside the trip, she’s the person who would be the guardian for both of our children if we died.

Before this trip I was very depressed. I am on meds and i do therapy and they weren’t working. Having a week away has given me my Will to live back. Life CAN be enjoyable. My life feels worth living again. I feel like a new person. Or rather, I feel more like myself again.

I am glad you are feeling better and feel like it was the right choice. If you came back with more energy and happiness to share with your youngest it probably was the right decision! Please keep taking care of yourself - the pandemic has been hell for parents of young children.

[Anonymous]

Have you talked to your husband about helping more?

[Anonymous]

I am very glad that you are seeking the help you very much need. Hoping you can start this new year in a much much better mental health space for yourself and for your children. Your posts have been very real cries for help. Good for you for realizing you need support in various ways.

[Anonymous]

OP was always going to go. The posts were very clear that she wasn’t looking for opinions but for people to co-sign her idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP was always going to go. The posts were very clear that she wasn’t looking for opinions but for people to co-sign her idea.

Agree. And it was evident in the replies that 99% of PPs thought her going without her child was jaw-droppingly unconscionable, but from all of her replies and this other thread it was so clear to see she is/was deeply, critically depressed. It sounds like she is searching for mental health help now and that will be of utmost importance for her own sanity and personal safety and that of her children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP was always going to go. The posts were very clear that she wasn’t looking for opinions but for people to co-sign her idea.

And she went and came back refreshed. Her child was safe and happy and the world did not end like some posters would have had her believe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP was always going to go. The posts were very clear that she wasn’t looking for opinions but for people to co-sign her idea.

PP, what do you have to gain with a post-script comment like this. Maybe you should take a vacation from being snide.

OP, glad it went well!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP was always going to go. The posts were very clear that she wasn’t looking for opinions but for people to co-sign her idea.

PP, what do you have to gain with a post-script comment like this. Maybe you should take a vacation from being snide.

OP, glad it went well!

You mean honest?

I don’t understand the point of starting a thread on a message board on an action you’re going to take.
And then reading everything, reporting posts you didn’t like and were mean. And then going all over the forum talking about it.


Her spouse and family supported the decision.
Just live your life and do what you want. That’s what she did.

[Anonymous]

Cancel.

[Anonymous]

Im glad you went OP. I have a 1 year old and 4 year old, both neurotypical with no developmental delays — just really rowdy and needy — and I am exhausted and depressed and also want time away from them. Sometimes you have to take care of yourself first.

[Anonymous]

spirit airlines recently got sued and lost for refusing to let an autistic 4 year old board without a mask, I'm sure they would have let your 2 year old on if you really pushed the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:spirit airlines recently got sued and lost for refusing to let an autistic 4 year old board without a mask, I'm sure they would have let your 2 year old on if you really pushed the issue.

Not true.

https://news.google.com/articles/CAIiEJnNEaWt1hb7goOW4fMyQmUqGQgEKhAIACoHCAown82oCzCR2MADMNjcuAc?hl=en-US&gl=US&ceid=US%3Aen