If you are divorced and will never remarry

[Anonymous]

43 currently. Was 27 when got divorced. Had a child by myself at 39. Don’t see why reason to ever marry now.

[Anonymous]

*any reason

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The responses here are a great reminder why marriage is a bad deal for BOTH sexes when you aren't raising kids together.

As a man, I totally agree that living together is what breeds resentment. Who is doing what chores, who isn't living up to whose expectation of cleanliness, privacy, etc.

Right now, I take my girlfriend out on date nights, go on great vacations, have amazing sex and intimacy and we go back to our own places. Perfect. If we lived together, it would kill the mystery and longing. No thanks.

I’ma woman, and what you described currently sounds ideal, for both parties.

Exactly. I am a woman and this has been what all of my post divorce relationships have been like. It’s great.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are a great reminder why marriage is a bad deal for BOTH sexes when you aren't raising kids together.

As a man, I totally agree that living together is what breeds resentment. Who is doing what chores, who isn't living up to whose expectation of cleanliness, privacy, etc.

Right now, I take my girlfriend out on date nights, go on great vacations, have amazing sex and intimacy and we go back to our own places. Perfect. If we lived together, it would kill the mystery and longing. No thanks.

I’ma woman, and what you described currently sounds ideal, for both parties.

Basically a sham. He's getting sex and she would be better off getting a pet for companionship. Enjoying her kids, friends, etc.

I’m/ if we are talking single, consensual sex, IM “getting sex” too.

It’s only married sad that’s the chore you seem to be talking about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are a great reminder why marriage is a bad deal for BOTH sexes when you aren't raising kids together.

As a man, I totally agree that living together is what breeds resentment. Who is doing what chores, who isn't living up to whose expectation of cleanliness, privacy, etc.

Right now, I take my girlfriend out on date nights, go on great vacations, have amazing sex and intimacy and we go back to our own places. Perfect. If we lived together, it would kill the mystery and longing. No thanks.

I’ma woman, and what you described currently sounds ideal, for both parties.

Basically a sham. He's getting sex and she would be better off getting a pet for companionship. Enjoying her kids, friends, etc.

I’m/ if we are talking single, consensual sex, IM “getting sex” too.

It’s only married sad that’s the chore you seem to be talking about.

I think she wants you to have sex with your dog

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The responses here are a great reminder why marriage is a bad deal for BOTH sexes when you aren't raising kids together.

As a man, I totally agree that living together is what breeds resentment. Who is doing what chores, who isn't living up to whose expectation of cleanliness, privacy, etc.

Right now, I take my girlfriend out on date nights, go on great vacations, have amazing sex and intimacy and we go back to our own places. Perfect. If we lived together, it would kill the mystery and longing. No thanks.

I’ma woman, and what you described currently sounds ideal, for both parties.

Basically a sham. He's getting sex and she would be better off getting a pet for companionship. Enjoying her kids, friends, etc.

I’m/ if we are talking single, consensual sex, IM “getting sex” too.

It’s only married sad that’s the chore you seem to be talking about.

I think she wants you to have sex with your dog

I guess that’s one way to make men seem more attractive……

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I do miss it. But I haven’t found any men that love me, at least not in a way that feels like love and respect. Every single one has been controlling, manipulative, untrustworthy, and/or unfaithful. After my last LTR cheated, I decided it just wasn’t worth the pain anymore.

But I also don’t go after wealthy men. BTDT, not worth it.

If one man is like that, it's him.

If every man is like that, it's you.

At the very least, your man-picker is totally broken.

Not true.

My best friend is a widow. Everybody is on the hunt to find her a good man to date. Can’t find one.

You have a list of good men? I’d love to help her find one.

Is she picking "bad" man after "bad" man? Then the problem is definitely her.

The usual problem with "unable to find a good man" is her exaggerated idea of what quality of man she "deserves".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are a great reminder why marriage is a bad deal for BOTH sexes when you aren't raising kids together.

As a man, I totally agree that living together is what breeds resentment. Who is doing what chores, who isn't living up to whose expectation of cleanliness, privacy, etc.

Right now, I take my girlfriend out on date nights, go on great vacations, have amazing sex and intimacy and we go back to our own places. Perfect. If we lived together, it would kill the mystery and longing. No thanks.

I’ma woman, and what you described currently sounds ideal, for both parties.

Basically a sham. He's getting sex and she would be better off getting a pet for companionship. Enjoying her kids, friends, etc.

I’m/ if we are talking single, consensual sex, IM “getting sex” too.

It’s only married sad that’s the chore you seem to be talking about.

I think she wants you to have sex with your dog

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A big reason not to remarry in your 50's is your kids and grand-kids. My dad remarried in his early 50's. Yes he had his will/trust in place. However, those can be changed at anytime. She was younger and as his health changed he ended up putting her on all titles. I'm sure pressure from her, and again she was his only caretaker since we lived out of state. A major asset that was suppose to go to the kids all ended up with her after he died. In fact everything did except for a small life insurance policy she didn't know about. As in very small. I feel like a lot of people need to put their blood first before a outsider. She ended up with assets that were our mother's and father which is very sad, but quite common with second marriages.

What do you think she was entitled to?

Not inheritance that was suppose to go to the kids, or assets that were earned long before her obviously. He had those set aside, but all that can change with second marriages.

She was entitled to what they earn during their marriage.

That's crazy. 1) It's my money, if I want to spend it on my new wife, I'm going to. 2) My ex-wife got all kinds of assets from me that were from before the marriage, including assets earned by my parents long before the marriage that were given to us. The biggest asset she got was my income, which derived from my degrees, which were earned long before the marriage.

First wives are just as greedy as second wives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

Single woman who is in touch enough with reality to promise you this:

I’d rather pay $25 to get the terribly “hot dirty dangerous” job of moving my measly 1/3 acre- for all of eternity- rather than listen to this mansplain nonsense. Plus, they’re younger and hotter and now shirtless all summer.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

Your reply shows how out of touch with reality you are. Three years ago my mower was broken so I hired a company to mow. It was $60 then, and it's probably $90 now. The Guatemalans who did the job were 5'4" and wore long sleeves.

Find a company that will mow my lawn for $25 in Great Falls and I will outsource.

I live in a different state, closer to Mexico. My labor is cheaper. That's what I pay for a mow weekly. Even if it was $60, or $90, it would be worth it to not listed to you complain and tell me your tiny violin story about short foreign mowers and OH! The terrible heat. So hot, so hard............. so don't care.

This is why women with money intimidate many men. Like whiney pants man here. I must be out of touch because I can replace all his efforts with one call on the phone, and no noticeable change to my bank account.

Go fold some laundry.

When I read what you wrote I'm picturing a fat woman who has unnaturally-colored hair, and lots of cats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The responses here are a great reminder why marriage is a bad deal for BOTH sexes when you aren't raising kids together.

As a man, I totally agree that living together is what breeds resentment. Who is doing what chores, who isn't living up to whose expectation of cleanliness, privacy, etc.

Right now, I take my girlfriend out on date nights, go on great vacations, have amazing sex and intimacy and we go back to our own places. Perfect. If we lived together, it would kill the mystery and longing. No thanks.

I’ma woman, and what you described currently sounds ideal, for both parties.

Basically a sham. He's getting sex and she would be better off getting a pet for companionship. Enjoying her kids, friends, etc.

She is not getting sex???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pretend to give a s##t about your wife's incessant nagging, demanding, and complaining just so that she will grudgingly have s#x with you as infrequently as she can get away with. Now, it's just a couple of dates and you're in bed with someone who actually wants to have s#x with you! So refreshing. And relatively cheap.

This is why women with money intimidate many men.

LOL nobody is intimidated by your stupid money. Men are repelled by your attitude not intimidated by you.

[Anonymous]

53, recently separated, hopefully divorced within the year. Will never remarry because I just don't see the need for it. Would love a long term partner who lives separately and we go on trips together and have great sex. No commitments. No pressure.

Being married to a depressed person has sucked the entire life out of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:53, recently separated, hopefully divorced within the year. Will never remarry because I just don't see the need for it. Would love a long term partner who lives separately and we go on trips together and have great sex. No commitments. No pressure.

Being married to a depressed person has sucked the entire life out of me.

Wow, could have written exactly this. My soon to be ex wife is a wonderful person but so depressed and depressing and I am going to be out. I just want some carefree time with another person, great trips, fun, sex and all that life has to offer. Will never, ever marry again and so happy to see other like minded women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pretend to give a s##t about your wife's incessant nagging, demanding, and complaining just so that she will grudgingly have s#x with you as infrequently as she can get away with. Now, it's just a couple of dates and you're in bed with someone who actually wants to have s#x with you! So refreshing. And relatively cheap.

This is why women with money intimidate many men.

LOL nobody is intimidated by your stupid money. Men are repelled by your attitude not intimidated by you.

Certainly did a great job of getting under your skin, its pretty easy with the insecure/little men/MC middle aged dudes who have been financially decimated by divorce.

But, men who need "cheap sex" wouldn't raise my eyes anyway, so we can part mutually uninterested friends.