If you are divorced and will never remarry

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:53, recently separated, hopefully divorced within the year. Will never remarry because I just don't see the need for it. Would love a long term partner who lives separately and we go on trips together and have great sex. No commitments. No pressure.

Being married to a depressed person has sucked the entire life out of me.

Wow, could have written exactly this. My soon to be ex wife is a wonderful person but so depressed and depressing and I am going to be out. I just want some carefree time with another person, great trips, fun, sex and all that life has to offer. Will never, ever marry again and so happy to see other like minded women.

Hmm.

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Anonymous wrote:The responses here are a great reminder why marriage is a bad deal for BOTH sexes when you aren't raising kids together.

As a man, I totally agree that living together is what breeds resentment. Who is doing what chores, who isn't living up to whose expectation of cleanliness, privacy, etc.

Right now, I take my girlfriend out on date nights, go on great vacations, have amazing sex and intimacy and we go back to our own places. Perfect. If we lived together, it would kill the mystery and longing. No thanks.

I’ma woman, and what you described currently sounds ideal, for both parties.

Basically a sham. He's getting sex and she would be better off getting a pet for companionship. Enjoying her kids, friends, etc.

Enjoying your kids? My son is 20, and isn't hanging around his divorced, fat, mostly comatose mom. He's at school, or working, or with the guys, of chasing girls. Mom is priority #98. I'm proud of that kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:53, recently separated, hopefully divorced within the year. Will never remarry because I just don't see the need for it. Would love a long term partner who lives separately and we go on trips together and have great sex. No commitments. No pressure.

Being married to a depressed person has sucked the entire life out of me.

Wow, could have written exactly this. My soon to be ex wife is a wonderful person but so depressed and depressing and I am going to be out. I just want some carefree time with another person, great trips, fun, sex and all that life has to offer. Will never, ever marry again and so happy to see other like minded women.

Hmm.

Men who leave sick wives do extra well on the dating market!!! Talk the whole time about what a stupid depressed cow your ex was, then ask for carefree sex and trips with ew women......will go great!

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Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

Single woman who is in touch enough with reality to promise you this:

I’d rather pay $25 to get the terribly “hot dirty dangerous” job of moving my measly 1/3 acre- for all of eternity- rather than listen to this mansplain nonsense. Plus, they’re younger and hotter and now shirtless all summer.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

Your reply shows how out of touch with reality you are. Three years ago my mower was broken so I hired a company to mow. It was $60 then, and it's probably $90 now. The Guatemalans who did the job were 5'4" and wore long sleeves.

Find a company that will mow my lawn for $25 in Great Falls and I will outsource.

I live in a different state, closer to Mexico. My labor is cheaper. That's what I pay for a mow weekly. Even if it was $60, or $90, it would be worth it to not listed to you complain and tell me your tiny violin story about short foreign mowers and OH! The terrible heat. So hot, so hard............. so don't care.

This is why women with money intimidate many men. Like whiney pants man here. I must be out of touch because I can replace all his efforts with one call on the phone, and no noticeable change to my bank account.

Go fold some laundry.

When I read what you wrote I'm picturing a fat woman who has unnaturally-colored hair, and lots of cats.

I love that! I'm fit, with dogs, but thank you for playing.

I swear this site makes me want to upload W2's and photos to Jeff, its so old being called a liar about money, and whatever shade of ugly men like to call women who aren't cowtowing to them.

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I was widowed in my forties, now in my early fifties. Won’t marry again. I had an incredible marriage and husband. Feel really lucky for that but don’t see any reason to remarry. I am all set, enjoy my job, go out with friends, love being with my older kids. If someone knocks me off my feet it would make me happy, but I don’t see that happening, and not really into dating lots of random dudes.

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Anonymous wrote:For all the people saying that men are too much work and only worth it if wealthy, do you not miss having an adult to love? Or sex with love?

I do miss it. But I haven’t found any men that love me, at least not in a way that feels like love and respect. Every single one has been controlling, manipulative, untrustworthy, and/or unfaithful. After my last LTR cheated, I decided it just wasn’t worth the pain anymore.

But I also don’t go after wealthy men. BTDT, not worth it.

If one man is like that, it's him.

If every man is like that, it's you.

At the very least, your man-picker is totally broken.

Not true.

My best friend is a widow. Everybody is on the hunt to find her a good man to date. Can’t find one.

You have a list of good men? I’d love to help her find one.

Is she picking "bad" man after "bad" man? Then the problem is definitely her.

The usual problem with "unable to find a good man" is her exaggerated idea of what quality of man she "deserves".

Nope. Everybody is looking not a good guy in sight. They are still married to their wives.

[Anonymous]

I'm still laughing at the guy in Great Falls who said that mowing his 1/3 of an acre is dangerous. HAHA! What a wuss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pretend to give a s##t about your wife's incessant nagging, demanding, and complaining just so that she will grudgingly have s#x with you as infrequently as she can get away with. Now, it's just a couple of dates and you're in bed with someone who actually wants to have s#x with you! So refreshing. And relatively cheap.

This is why women with money intimidate many men.

LOL nobody is intimidated by your stupid money. Men are repelled by your attitude not intimidated by you.

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NP and not divorced. PP, you sound bitter. I do think some men may be intimidated by the independence that money engenders and so in that sense money does intimidate men. I mean your response is such a reaction. Some men haven't adapted to the reality of this new world where women have a voice that comes from being financially independent and so don't have to put up with behaviors that were accepted in the past. Your reaction is a case in point from my perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still laughing at the guy in Great Falls who said that mowing his 1/3 of an acre is dangerous. HAHA! What a wuss.

35,000 people are injured each year mowing their lawn (and close to 100 are killed each year). It's one of the most dangerous activities you can undertake at home. A friend of mine did die while mowing on a hot day. I don't let my kids operate a mower.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It should be required reading for ANYONE contemplating marriage.
Men seem to feel entitled to maybe mow the lawn on Saturday morning then spend the rest of the weekend on the couch with a beer watching football while the wife takes care of the kids, the laundry, the meals, shopping, dishes.... The unfairness breeds resentment and that is poison to a relationship.

Man here. I'd rather do the laundry for a year, rather than mow the lawn once (I have 1/3 of an acre). This is an example of women being out of touch with reality. Mowing is hot, dirty, loud, and dangerous. And it's not just the mowing, it's the maintenance and repair of the mower.

I've been doing laundry as a 50-50 dad for nearly a decade. It's about the easiest household chore. Yes, I fold all the laundry, and iron a few things.

Single woman who is in touch enough with reality to promise you this:

I’d rather pay $25 to get the terribly “hot dirty dangerous” job of moving my measly 1/3 acre- for all of eternity- rather than listen to this mansplain nonsense. Plus, they’re younger and hotter and now shirtless all summer.

The beauty of divorce is not having to pay you on the back and say “great job warrior!!” For something that took 2 seconds and barely any cost to outsource.

Your reply shows how out of touch with reality you are. Three years ago my mower was broken so I hired a company to mow. It was $60 then, and it's probably $90 now. The Guatemalans who did the job were 5'4" and wore long sleeves.

Find a company that will mow my lawn for $25 in Great Falls and I will outsource.

I live in a different state, closer to Mexico. My labor is cheaper. That's what I pay for a mow weekly. Even if it was $60, or $90, it would be worth it to not listed to you complain and tell me your tiny violin story about short foreign mowers and OH! The terrible heat. So hot, so hard............. so don't care.

This is why women with money intimidate many men. Like whiney pants man here. I must be out of touch because I can replace all his efforts with one call on the phone, and no noticeable change to my bank account.

Go fold some laundry.

When I read what you wrote I'm picturing a fat woman who has unnaturally-colored hair, and lots of cats.

I love that! I'm fit, with dogs, but thank you for playing.

I swear this site makes me want to upload W2's and photos to Jeff, its so old being called a liar about money, and whatever shade of ugly men like to call women who aren't cowtowing to them.

This would be great. Your posts could have little tags, CERTIFIED 8/10 HOT BABE $5 MILLION NET WORTH and then you could run around totally crushing the egos of DCUM men!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You folks who “have your own retirement” and will never remarry, just curious what is your income and net worth?

Why does that matter? If they’re comfortable that’s all that matters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still laughing at the guy in Great Falls who said that mowing his 1/3 of an acre is dangerous. HAHA! What a wuss.

35,000 people are injured each year mowing their lawn (and close to 100 are killed each year). It's one of the most dangerous activities you can undertake at home. A friend of mine did die while mowing on a hot day. I don't let my kids operate a mower.

Ha! Stop, dude. How do you get out of bed in the morning if you are this irrationally fearful? This has to be a joke. I am cracking up thinking about you shaking in your white sneakers as you go out to mow your vast 1/3 acre estate in Great Falls. Too funny.... No wonder your wife didn't want to sleep with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is so depressing.

Why?! I'm happily married, I love my husband and we have a good marriage but, if something happens, I will not get married again. I'm an extrovert who likes light, easy relationships. I don't think i have it in me to start again and develop a deep bond with someone new, nurture, become vulnerable, open and honest. Way too much draining work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still laughing at the guy in Great Falls who said that mowing his 1/3 of an acre is dangerous. HAHA! What a wuss.

35,000 people are injured each year mowing their lawn (and close to 100 are killed each year). It's one of the most dangerous activities you can undertake at home. A friend of mine did die while mowing on a hot day. I don't let my kids operate a mower.

My dad had a horrible lawn mowing accident. Multiple surgeries. He was in his 50s. My brother told him to wait to do it. He didn't. He flipped over it going down a hill. It is more dangerous than people think.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still laughing at the guy in Great Falls who said that mowing his 1/3 of an acre is dangerous. HAHA! What a wuss.

35,000 people are injured each year mowing their lawn (and close to 100 are killed each year). It's one of the most dangerous activities you can undertake at home. A friend of mine did die while mowing on a hot day. I don't let my kids operate a mower.

My dad had a horrible lawn mowing accident. Multiple surgeries. He was in his 50s. My brother told him to wait to do it. He didn't. He flipped over it going down a hill. It is more dangerous than people think.

Was it a riding mower or a push mower? And how big was his yard if he had a hill?