What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

As an RN this is exactly what you do for drug addicts so they don’t get diseases.

The fact that you are trying to use analogies to heroin addicts and horny teens says a lot about you.
If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

I appreciate this-not because I agree- but it gives perspective for real life. I have seen some 9th graders who were sexually active and their parents were told and they steadfastly refused to make sure their kids were protected. They, like you guys, thought they could control their kids activities.

I don’t approve of sex that early but having seen some of this play out, I definitely support parents making sure their kids are protected, rather than simply thinking they can control this behavior.

Exactly! That’s why I make sure to keep our bathrooms stocked with clean needles ever since I discovered my teenage son’s heroin addiction. These parents who think they can or should try to control their kids’ behavior are living in Fantasy land.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

Haha
Denial

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

I appreciate this-not because I agree- but it gives perspective for real life. I have seen some 9th graders who were sexually active and their parents were told and they steadfastly refused to make sure their kids were protected. They, like you guys, thought they could control their kids activities.

I don’t approve of sex that early but having seen some of this play out, I definitely support parents making sure their kids are protected, rather than simply thinking they can control this behavior.

Exactly! That’s why I make sure to keep our bathrooms stocked with clean needles ever since I discovered my teenage son’s heroin addiction. These parents who think they can or should try to control their kids’ behavior are living in Fantasy land.

As an RN this is exactly what you do for heroin addicts to decrease diseases.

But the fact you are comparing heroin addicts to horny teens says a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

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Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

I appreciate this-not because I agree- but it gives perspective for real life. I have seen some 9th graders who were sexually active and their parents were told and they steadfastly refused to make sure their kids were protected. They, like you guys, thought they could control their kids activities.

I don’t approve of sex that early but having seen some of this play out, I definitely support parents making sure their kids are protected, rather than simply thinking they can control this behavior.

Exactly! That’s why I make sure to keep our bathrooms stocked with clean needles ever since I discovered my teenage son’s heroin addiction. These parents who think they can or should try to control their kids’ behavior are living in Fantasy land.

As an RN this is exactly what you do for heroin addicts to decrease diseases.

But the fact you are comparing heroin addicts to horny teens says a lot about you.

I’m sorry to hear that your grasp of analogies isn’t any better than your grasp of responsible parenting. But what, pray tell, does your (undoubtedly incorrect) understanding of the point I was making say about me? I’m EVER so curious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

I feel like the condom pushers on this thread think there is no middle ground between head-in-the-sand religious “sex is bad!” types and the “teenagers are horny so there is no possibility of them NOT behaving like uninhibited animals!” types.

Personally, I think 16-18 is probably on the spectrum of I’d rather they waited but I wouldn’t be completely shocked if it happened then. But my involvement ends at: discussing safe sex, consent, and respect for themselves and others, physically and emotionally. I am certainly not buying condoms nor *allowing* sex in my home (and I understand they will sneak around). Anyone who thinks kids UNDER 16 having sex is okay is out of their mind, IMO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

If a guy or girl goes out with a condom in their pocket, are you saying they won’t use it because impulsive sex always equals unsafe sex?

And you think well thought out relationships won’t have sex if there is no protection? They will just choose abstinence?

Most high schoolers have sex which is why you can get contraception for free. Whether a parent offers birth control or not, isn’t going to sway a teen who wants to have sex. They will regardless.

And a teen that isn’t having sex isn’t going to see condoms in their house and go ok now let me go find someone to screw tonight.

The fact that so many of you think offering options will change teens minds is laughable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician recommended it the minute I found condoms in my son’s closet. He was 14. I would say if you have any signs like that, or if your son is in a relationship, then it doesn’t really matter what the age is. Make it as safe as possible.

If I found condoms in my 14 year old sons closet he’d be on lockdown for the foreseeable future. Not receiving sexual care packages.

I agree. Cannot believe parents are fine with 13-15 yr olds having sex.

I appreciate this-not because I agree- but it gives perspective for real life. I have seen some 9th graders who were sexually active and their parents were told and they steadfastly refused to make sure their kids were protected. They, like you guys, thought they could control their kids activities.

I don’t approve of sex that early but having seen some of this play out, I definitely support parents making sure their kids are protected, rather than simply thinking they can control this behavior.

Exactly! That’s why I make sure to keep our bathrooms stocked with clean needles ever since I discovered my teenage son’s heroin addiction. These parents who think they can or should try to control their kids’ behavior are living in Fantasy land.

As an RN this is exactly what you do for heroin addicts to decrease diseases.

But the fact you are comparing heroin addicts to horny teens says a lot about you.

Different poster. It's all harm reduction. Evidence based. We can and should continually teach our moral expectations to our kids. But better safe than sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

I feel like the condom pushers on this thread think there is no middle ground between head-in-the-sand religious “sex is bad!” types and the “teenagers are horny so there is no possibility of them NOT behaving like uninhibited animals!” types.

Personally, I think 16-18 is probably on the spectrum of I’d rather they waited but I wouldn’t be completely shocked if it happened then. But my involvement ends at: discussing safe sex, consent, and respect for themselves and others, physically and emotionally. I am certainly not buying condoms nor *allowing* sex in my home (and I understand they will sneak around). Anyone who thinks kids UNDER 16 having sex is okay is out of their mind, IMO.

You lost all integrity or rational thoughts/opinions when you said condom pushers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

I feel like the condom pushers on this thread think there is no middle ground between head-in-the-sand religious “sex is bad!” types and the “teenagers are horny so there is no possibility of them NOT behaving like uninhibited animals!” types.

Personally, I think 16-18 is probably on the spectrum of I’d rather they waited but I wouldn’t be completely shocked if it happened then. But my involvement ends at: discussing safe sex, consent, and respect for themselves and others, physically and emotionally. I am certainly not buying condoms nor *allowing* sex in my home (and I understand they will sneak around). Anyone who thinks kids UNDER 16 having sex is okay is out of their mind, IMO.

+1 Finally! Some common sense!

[Anonymous]

My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

I feel like the condom pushers on this thread think there is no middle ground between head-in-the-sand religious “sex is bad!” types and the “teenagers are horny so there is no possibility of them NOT behaving like uninhibited animals!” types.

Personally, I think 16-18 is probably on the spectrum of I’d rather they waited but I wouldn’t be completely shocked if it happened then. But my involvement ends at: discussing safe sex, consent, and respect for themselves and others, physically and emotionally. I am certainly not buying condoms nor *allowing* sex in my home (and I understand they will sneak around). Anyone who thinks kids UNDER 16 having sex is okay is out of their mind, IMO.

You lost all integrity or rational thoughts/opinions when you said condom pushers.

You realize it’s the same troll over and over again?

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Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

How do you know this?

He is looking at some type of porn on his phone or computer. Maybe it isn’t hetero. But he’s already had erections and wet dreams and it’s sexual attraction to something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

How do you know this?

He is looking at some type of porn on his phone or computer. Maybe it isn’t hetero. But he’s already had erections and wet dreams and it’s sexual attraction to something.

Not at all. LOL. He barely uses his phone and I check the search history which can’t be deleted. And he doesn’t have his own computer - only an FCPS one.