What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

How do you know this?

He is looking at some type of porn on his phone or computer. Maybe it isn’t hetero. But he’s already had erections and wet dreams and it’s sexual attraction to something.

Not at all. LOL. He barely uses his phone and I check the search history which can’t be deleted. And he doesn’t have his own computer - only an FCPS one.

Oh sweetie, not the PP but your complete delusional denial is why he hasn’t told you a thing.

The fact you think only checking his search engine helps prevent it is hilarious. And the fact you are this uptight with a high schooler’s phone just means he won’t tell you anything in the future either and just hide it better.

That all said, when he has erections, jerks off, or has wet dreams he is thinking of someone. You can’t forbid that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

I feel like the condom pushers on this thread think there is no middle ground between head-in-the-sand religious “sex is bad!” types and the “teenagers are horny so there is no possibility of them NOT behaving like uninhibited animals!” types.

Personally, I think 16-18 is probably on the spectrum of I’d rather they waited but I wouldn’t be completely shocked if it happened then. But my involvement ends at: discussing safe sex, consent, and respect for themselves and others, physically and emotionally. I am certainly not buying condoms nor *allowing* sex in my home (and I understand they will sneak around). Anyone who thinks kids UNDER 16 having sex is okay is out of their mind, IMO.

Yup! You nailed it. This is the right and logical common sense answer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

Kids making decisions to have sex in impulsive ways that you describe also cannot reliably be expected or counted upon to practice safe sex. The same impulsive, unplanned behavior you’re using to justify giving them condoms also undermines any realistic expectation that they will be responsible when engaging the behavior that you claim is inevitable.

If a guy or girl goes out with a condom in their pocket, are you saying they won’t use it because impulsive sex always equals unsafe sex?

And you think well thought out relationships won’t have sex if there is no protection? They will just choose abstinence?

Most high schoolers have sex which is why you can get contraception for free. Whether a parent offers birth control or not, isn’t going to sway a teen who wants to have sex. They will regardless.

And a teen that isn’t having sex isn’t going to see condoms in their house and go ok now let me go find someone to screw tonight.

The fact that so many of you think offering options will change teens minds is laughable.

Your post is a jumbled mess of confusion. I never claimed they would never use condoms. I said they might not use them reliably. Which means sometimes they might use them and sometimes they might not. And during the times that they don’t, pregnancy or STDs can happen.

So offering them is not really a great alternative to warning or making it clear you don’t think sex at that age is acceptable, since they’re just as likely to not use the condoms you’re giving them as they are to ignore the advice from parents who say sex at that age is inappropriate.

I mean, understand what you’re out loud: you’re giving condoms to 14 year olds and expecting them to use them consistently and with fidelity.

Do you realize there are adults who fail at that too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

How do you know this?

He is looking at some type of porn on his phone or computer. Maybe it isn’t hetero. But he’s already had erections and wet dreams and it’s sexual attraction to something.

Not at all. LOL. He barely uses his phone and I check the search history which can’t be deleted. And he doesn’t have his own computer - only an FCPS one.

Oh sweetie, not the PP but your complete delusional denial is why he hasn’t told you a thing.

The fact you think only checking his search engine helps prevent it is hilarious. And the fact you are this uptight with a high schooler’s phone just means he won’t tell you anything in the future either and just hide it better.

That all said, when he has erections, jerks off, or has wet dreams he is thinking of someone. You can’t forbid that.

That last two sentences put it in unnecessarily crude terms, which I would not have done.

However, PP describes normal and healthy aspects of pubescent sexuality. It appears some respondents in this thread believe their sons to be asexual beings who will ever remain so.

That is not reality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

How do you know this?

He is looking at some type of porn on his phone or computer. Maybe it isn’t hetero. But he’s already had erections and wet dreams and it’s sexual attraction to something.

Not at all. LOL. He barely uses his phone and I check the search history which can’t be deleted. And he doesn’t have his own computer - only an FCPS one.

Oh sweetie, not the PP but your complete delusional denial is why he hasn’t told you a thing.

The fact you think only checking his search engine helps prevent it is hilarious. And the fact you are this uptight with a high schooler’s phone just means he won’t tell you anything in the future either and just hide it better.

That all said, when he has erections, jerks off, or has wet dreams he is thinking of someone. You can’t forbid that.

That last two sentences put it in unnecessarily crude terms, which I would not have done.

However, PP describes normal and healthy aspects of pubescent sexuality. It appears some respondents in this thread believe their sons to be asexual beings who will ever remain so.

That is not reality.

It’s normal to view porn online at age 14? Maybe for some kids it is. All I know is mine is not viewing porn right now. He doesn’t use his phone at home. Literally.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

How do you know this?

He is looking at some type of porn on his phone or computer. Maybe it isn’t hetero. But he’s already had erections and wet dreams and it’s sexual attraction to something.

Not at all. LOL. He barely uses his phone and I check the search history which can’t be deleted. And he doesn’t have his own computer - only an FCPS one.

Oh sweetie, not the PP but your complete delusional denial is why he hasn’t told you a thing.

The fact you think only checking his search engine helps prevent it is hilarious. And the fact you are this uptight with a high schooler’s phone just means he won’t tell you anything in the future either and just hide it better.

That all said, when he has erections, jerks off, or has wet dreams he is thinking of someone. You can’t forbid that.

I think you have serious reading comprehension issues. I didn’t say checking his phone could prevent anything. It simply just allows me to see what he has viewed on his phone - and it’s not porn. I didn’t mention forbidding anything either. My son is not interested in girls yet. I don’t know why that’s hard for you to believe. He’s not in high school yet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

You realize only 20% of teens are having sex before 15? The majority of these are troubled kids, have terrible parents, or both.m

[Anonymous]

With 16 being the average age of sex, and that is only on surveys where we think the teens aren’t lying, I would be supplying condoms by 13 just in case. Because oral and anal sex seems to be much more casual now than when I was growing up. And you need protection from that too. My kids are still young but I am not naive that it might not happen sooner than I am ready no matter how much I parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With 16 being the average age of sex, and that is only on surveys where we think the teens aren’t lying, I would be supplying condoms by 13 just in case. Because oral and anal sex seems to be much more casual now than when I was growing up. And you need protection from that too. My kids are still young but I am not naive that it might not happen sooner than I am ready no matter how much I parent.

Pervert.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

You realize only 20% of teens are having sex before 15? The majority of these are troubled kids, have terrible parents, or both.m

So 20% of all teens are “troubled?” LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old son isn’t even interested in girls yet. Lol.

How do you know this?

He is looking at some type of porn on his phone or computer. Maybe it isn’t hetero. But he’s already had erections and wet dreams and it’s sexual attraction to something.

Not at all. LOL. He barely uses his phone and I check the search history which can’t be deleted. And he doesn’t have his own computer - only an FCPS one.

Oh sweetie, not the PP but your complete delusional denial is why he hasn’t told you a thing.

The fact you think only checking his search engine helps prevent it is hilarious. And the fact you are this uptight with a high schooler’s phone just means he won’t tell you anything in the future either and just hide it better.

That all said, when he has erections, jerks off, or has wet dreams he is thinking of someone. You can’t forbid that.

I think you have serious reading comprehension issues. I didn’t say checking his phone could prevent anything. It simply just allows me to see what he has viewed on his phone - and it’s not porn. I didn’t mention forbidding anything either. My son is not interested in girls yet. I don’t know why that’s hard for you to believe. He’s not in high school yet.

He might be looking at porn on his friend's devices. I found out years later when my son was in high school that his friend was showing him pornhub on his phone while they rode to and from school on the bus.

I think it's pretty normal for most 14-year-old boys to have been exposed to some kind of porn. Now whether it SHOULD be normal is another question, but I would assume almost all 14 year old boys have seen porn of some kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably 16. At 13-15, there would be no girlfriend. They wouldn’t have the opportunity to have sex

You realize 57% of teens lose their virginity outside of relationships. Most aren’t well thought out with people they love. It’s a quickie at a gathering, after school, or at a party. Some are even under the influence. Not ideal, but be realistic. Do you want your kid protected or not

You realize only 20% of teens are having sex before 15? The majority of these are troubled kids, have terrible parents, or both.m

So 20% of all teens are “troubled?” LOL

Did you skip over the word "majority"? The PP is right: Most kids who engage in sex before 15 do come from troubled backgrounds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With 16 being the average age of sex, and that is only on surveys where we think the teens aren’t lying, I would be supplying condoms by 13 just in case. Because oral and anal sex seems to be much more casual now than when I was growing up. And you need protection from that too. My kids are still young but I am not naive that it might not happen sooner than I am ready no matter how much I parent.

Again: Why are you all trusting that 13 year olds are going to reliably and consistently use condoms when engaging in any form of sex?

Do y'all have 13 different 13 year olds than I do? Cause I still have to harass my 16 year old son to tie his shoe laces when they come undone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:With 16 being the average age of sex, and that is only on surveys where we think the teens aren’t lying, I would be supplying condoms by 13 just in case. Because oral and anal sex seems to be much more casual now than when I was growing up. And you need protection from that too. My kids are still young but I am not naive that it might not happen sooner than I am ready no matter how much I parent.

Pervert.

How is this mom a pervert? Look at the posts of middle school teachers who say kids are talking about oral sex like kissing. It’s happening

[Anonymous]

Are these boy moms thinking their sons are perfect little asexual teens - are they the same moms that say all the girls are aggressive, dress slutty, and are just ruining their sons.