What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that condoms basically ensure they will get pregnant, right?

You may be on to something, but could you please explain how that works?

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Before he is having sex. Like at 10. I mentioned to my daughter too but agin long before it was even on the table. Then over the years we continued having conversations about safe sex, how I don’t think it’s a good idea to have sex young, my husband told them that he never had sex until college, we share with them data that tells them that a sizable percentage of American teens leave high school as virgins etc. I want them to have access without condoning teen sex and this is the way we have chosen. My DD is a junior and is not sexually active so I feel like the presence of the condoms has not really affected her decision making. My MS son is really just not there yet so not yet sure our approach has worked with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do realize that condoms basically ensure they will get pregnant, right?

Ensure? No.

Birth control availability + good sex ed = lower rates of pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Condoms are fine if used correctly. Plus, if you can tell the condom broke or fell off you can use emergency contraception.

I think if your kid’s school doesn’t have comprehensive sex ed an informed lecture (or book) and test for comprehension would be more effective than a box of condoms in the bathroom. Then just make it clear that if he ever has trouble procuring contraception, you’ll provide it no questions asked.

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Anonymous wrote:I never had money as a teen and it’s embarrassing for teens. I remember my embarrassment over tampons even. You don’t want that to be the reason they don’t use them.

A boyfriends mom used to buy them for him and put a note “use these every time you don’t want a pregnancy” hah

Going to buy condoms for the first time is a rite of passage for every teen boy. I remember it well even 30 years later. He won’t die of embarrassment. Frankly it would have been FAR more mortifying if my mom had bought them for me.

Just because the condoms are there doesn’t mean he needs to take them. He can buy his own condoms if that’s less embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

I would really worry about my 14 year old having sex. I don’t know any 14 year olds emotionally mature enough to make that decision and deal with the emotions that come with the act. Have you talked to gf parents? It might help to be on the same page on this, so you are both thwarting opportunity. Obviously, it could still happen and you want them prepared, but at this point delaying would be my primary goal.

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I would buy them now.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 13 year old, so it isn’t an issue yet, but he knows there is an open box of condoms in the medicine cabinet beside the soap and tampons and zit cream. I restock them all as needed.

+1. Planning to do the same when my kids are teenagers. I mentioned this in another thread, but my dad kept "his" condoms in the upstairs linen closet for years when my brother and I were teens. We'd help ourselves as needed. Many years later, we found out our dad had gotten a vasectomy when we were toddlers. I am being serious when I say I never had sex without a condom until I was engaged, not even once (I was also on the Pill from age 14 because I had terrible periods but also because my mom did NOT play).

I’m female and I never even thought to buy condoms or provide my daughter. D’oh. I don’t know why that never occurred to me. I planned on getting and IUD or such for dd when she was old enough. But yes, STDs are a thing too. For both genders.

I only slept with 2 guys. The first was a virgin and the second was the guy I married. I think dh and I used condoms until marriage (married 9 years so it’s hard to remember). I never used birth control because I had bad issues with it and was later somewhat infertile.

I know this has nothing to do with anything, and it REALLY does not matter for this thread, especially. But I guess I find it a bit curious that you don't remember what you did with your DH before marriage. IDK, I've only slept with my DH, and I've been married over 20 years, and I remember these kinds of things? Like I would assume that with only 1 or 2 partners, this would be easy to recall.

IDK just something that struck me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before he is having sex. Like at 10. I mentioned to my daughter too but agin long before it was even on the table. Then over the years we continued having conversations about safe sex, how I don’t think it’s a good idea to have sex young, my husband told them that he never had sex until college, we share with them data that tells them that a sizable percentage of American teens leave high school as virgins etc. I want them to have access without condoning teen sex and this is the way we have chosen. My DD is a junior and is not sexually active so I feel like the presence of the condoms has not really affected her decision making. My MS son is really just not there yet so not yet sure our approach has worked with him.

“Safe sex” is a myth, you should know. Call it SAFER sex.

[Anonymous]

Condom and spermicide.

[Anonymous]

They are too young if they can't figure out how to scrape some money together to buy their own.

[Anonymous]

You don't buy condoms for your son. Or daughter.

You have condoms in the house. In the linen closet. Someplace common and accessible. Like soap, shampoo, extra toothbrushes. You stock enough that it doesn't look like you'd count inventory (you make sure the expiration date is ok ... btw)

Back in the day ... when I was a teen, I would have answered differently ... I would have said, "teens/young adults who are mature enough to consider having sex need to *minimally* be mature enough to walk into a drug store, and be mature enough, to buy condoms" But now with age, I realize I might have been an usually level headed teenager myself who believed and followed that advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before he is having sex. Like at 10. I mentioned to my daughter too but agin long before it was even on the table. Then over the years we continued having conversations about safe sex, how I don’t think it’s a good idea to have sex young, my husband told them that he never had sex until college, we share with them data that tells them that a sizable percentage of American teens leave high school as virgins etc. I want them to have access without condoning teen sex and this is the way we have chosen. My DD is a junior and is not sexually active so I feel like the presence of the condoms has not really affected her decision making. My MS son is really just not there yet so not yet sure our approach has worked with him.

“Safe sex” is a myth, you should know. Call it SAFER sex.

Safe sex isn’t a myth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, answering the question: Is there some reason your kid can’t walk into CVS and buy his own?

Yes. He's 14. GF is 15.

So? If he's too damn embarrassed, that is further proof that he is too young for a girlfriend.

P.S. 14 is too young for a girlfriend anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would really worry about my 14 year old having sex. I don’t know any 14 year olds emotionally mature enough to make that decision and deal with the emotions that come with the act. Have you talked to gf parents? It might help to be on the same page on this, so you are both thwarting opportunity. Obviously, it could still happen and you want them prepared, but at this point delaying would be my primary goal.

+1. Actually, breaking them up would be my primary goal.