<vent> Why does DH always think we'll have sex when he comes back from business trips?

[Anonymous]

This thread proves the saying about marriage: you can be right or you can be happy.

[Anonymous]

OP, I remember reading a research paper a while back on this topic. It said that a man's sperm count increases when he is away from his partner and meets her after a separation. He also has a high degree of desire. The author of that study hypothesized that men have an increased level of possessiveness when they meet their partner after a separation. The sperm count is higher to ensure their sperm defeats other sperm that may be in the woman's body.

Not kidding..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I remember reading a research paper a while back on this topic. It said that a man's sperm count increases when he is away from his partner and meets her after a separation. He also has a high degree of desire. The author of that study hypothesized that men have an increased level of possessiveness when they meet their partner after a separation. The sperm count is higher to ensure their sperm defeats other sperm that may be in the woman's body.

Not kidding..

Interesting. If only men had evolved to have actual brainpower strong enough to overpower that penis brain

[Anonymous]

High libido man here, married to a low libido woman. I don't think OP is being unreasonable.

As long as she and her DH understand when she isn't going to receptive to sex, it's fine. My wife is same as OP. Never approach her after she has been with kids all day. Never.

Solution: I take care of myself at the hotel, I leave zero sexual energy for her. I can go out, flirt with my co-workers, feel like a sexual person. By the time I get back, my DW might as well be a man to me.

I know the one day a week it will happen, and I can look forward to that day.

My DW is fantastic outside of the bedroom. It works for now, if it doesn't work in the future, it's not like I don't have other options.

[Anonymous]

Op, I cannot possibly spend time reading this entire thread, it will be so exhausting I won't want to have sex with my DH tonight. I know many business men who have left their little wives because they felt like you, it's just too much work. Get off your ass, fix your hair and show your DH some passion or someone else will, it happens everyday. If you can't get past your pity party then you perhaps you should divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't want to have sex with somebody who doesn't want to. They want to have sex with somebody who does want them. Obviously. The problem is that she doesn't.

Right... so instead of trying to find ways to increase their wife's sexual attraction to them, or, better yet, accepting the shift in her libido, they are on here berating women and trying to scare women into boning their husbands.

Sure, that adds up.

I accept that people change. You've lost interest in sex.
I've changed too. I've lost interest in monogamy.
Welcome to our Open Marriage, dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't want to have sex with somebody who doesn't want to. They want to have sex with somebody who does want them. Obviously. The problem is that she doesn't.

Right... so instead of trying to find ways to increase their wife's sexual attraction to them, or, better yet, accepting the shift in her libido, they are on here berating women and trying to scare women into boning their husbands.

Sure, that adds up.

I accept that people change. You've lost interest in sex.
I've changed too. I've lost interest in monogamy.
Welcome to our Open Marriage, dear.

Welcome to Divorce Court, dear.
Thanks for the assets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High libido man here, married to a low libido woman. I don't think OP is being unreasonable.

As long as she and her DH understand when she isn't going to receptive to sex, it's fine. My wife is same as OP. Never approach her after she has been with kids all day. Never.

Solution: I take care of myself at the hotel, I leave zero sexual energy for her. I can go out, flirt with my co-workers, feel like a sexual person. By the time I get back, my DW might as well be a man to me.

I know the one day a week it will happen, and I can look forward to that day.

My DW is fantastic outside of the bedroom. It works for now, if it doesn't work in the future, it's not like I don't have other options.

Good for you. See, guys? One man here understands how to jerk off. Now if only the rest of you duds could figure it out. You'd make your lives hell of a lot easier

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing that I don't understand after reading all of these 14 pages of posts is how in the world some of the posters are so exhausted due to handling kids and house, etc. when their spouse is on a business trip. Those things are much easier for me when mine is on one of the many business trips that are required. It's really not that hard. (DH with 4 kids here, all involved in a laundry list of sports and other activities) Either some people are not very capable, or there is some significant exaggeration going on. Guessing a bit of both.

Agree, my life is a complete circus but we have our priorities and great sex is part of it.

[Anonymous]

OP, what were your marriage vows?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DW is fantastic outside of the bedroom. It works for now, if it doesn't work in the future, it's not like I don't have other options.

Good for you. See, guys? One man here understands how to jerk off. Now if only the rest of you duds could figure it out. You'd make your lives hell of a lot easier

Uh, you may want to read that last bit again. He's working on other alternatives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't want to have sex with somebody who doesn't want to. They want to have sex with somebody who does want them. Obviously. The problem is that she doesn't.

Right... so instead of trying to find ways to increase their wife's sexual attraction to them, or, better yet, accepting the shift in her libido, they are on here berating women and trying to scare women into boning their husbands.

Sure, that adds up.

I accept that people change. You've lost interest in sex.
I've changed too. I've lost interest in monogamy.
Welcome to our Open Marriage, dear.

Welcome to Divorce Court, dear.
Thanks for the assets.

Honestly, with the level of man hating being taught to young girls these days, and the present situation for men in family courts, a man who marries is a fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DW is fantastic outside of the bedroom. It works for now, if it doesn't work in the future, it's not like I don't have other options.

Good for you. See, guys? One man here understands how to jerk off. Now if only the rest of you duds could figure it out. You'd make your lives hell of a lot easier

Uh, you may want to read that last bit again. He's working on other alternatives.

Who cares? Everyone has options, unless you're dead. I would hope my husband would have some.

The point is he's not being a nasty harassing sex pest. If he can do it, so can you. Figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High libido man here, married to a low libido woman. I don't think OP is being unreasonable.

As long as she and her DH understand when she isn't going to receptive to sex, it's fine. My wife is same as OP. Never approach her after she has been with kids all day. Never.

Solution: I take care of myself at the hotel, I leave zero sexual energy for her. I can go out, flirt with my co-workers, feel like a sexual person. By the time I get back, my DW might as well be a man to me.

I know the one day a week it will happen, and I can look forward to that day.

My DW is fantastic outside of the bedroom. It works for now, if it doesn't work in the future, it's not like I don't have other options.

Good for you. See, guys? One man here understands how to jerk off. Now if only the rest of you duds could figure it out. You'd make your lives hell of a lot easier

Honey - I hope that you haven't tricked some poor guy into marriage and that you live alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't want to have sex with somebody who doesn't want to. They want to have sex with somebody who does want them. Obviously. The problem is that she doesn't.

Right... so instead of trying to find ways to increase their wife's sexual attraction to them, or, better yet, accepting the shift in her libido, they are on here berating women and trying to scare women into boning their husbands.

Sure, that adds up.

I accept that people change. You've lost interest in sex.
I've changed too. I've lost interest in monogamy.
Welcome to our Open Marriage, dear.

Welcome to Divorce Court, dear.
Thanks for the assets.

Honestly, with the level of man hating being taught to young girls these days, and the present situation for men in family courts, a man who marries is a fool.

No man hating is taught in our household and you guys need to be smart enough to weed out the bad ones.