Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

But he won't take him on a vacation? Which one is it, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

But he won't take him on a vacation? Which one is it, OP?

He’s not perfect, nobody is perfect. He’s trying to punish us this year by not letting us go on vacation, because we’re upset that he’s going away for theee weeks with his ex-wife. OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are the three kids of his ex also his as well??

OP, no it is NOT the norm for exes to go on vacation together >> most especially when the kids are of age!!?

Your husband still has feelings for his ex to want to even participate in this trip.

I cannot believe that he wants you + your son at home while he vacations.

His priorities are messed up and I personally think if he actually partakes in this trip you should speak to a divorce attorney while he is gone.

Lucky you are still young and have many solid, good years left.

Him?
Not so much.
Haha!

Clearly he regrets marrying a girl the age of one of his own older kids. What do they talk about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

But he won't take him on a vacation? Which one is it, OP?

He’s not perfect, nobody is perfect. He’s trying to punish us this year by not letting us go on vacation, because we’re upset that he’s going away for theee weeks with his ex-wife. OP

Any marriage where one partner spends 3 weeks on vacation with his ex and then “punishes” his spouse for their feelings is extremely unhealthy and manipulative. Exactly the likely outcome you would expect of a 40 year old marrying a pregnant teenager. How else does he punish you for being a bad little girl?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can think whatever you want about my husband—that he’s a creeper or whatever (which is harsh, he’s my child’s father)—but you can’t make me think that I’m a victim. He didn’t know my age until long after we started dating. And not all 18 year olds are the same and have lived the same experiences. I’ve never been a victim, and I’ve never been taken of and I’m not being taken advantage of now. He might be a little mean sometimes, but he’s not exploiting me. I don’t have any trauma, and I’m not emotionally stunted. I also don’t understand why it’s hard to believe that a young woman can genuinely like men aged 40–60 for normal reasons, not just for money. About the pregnancy: I didn’t use birth control, but we were already planning to get married, and he wanted a child anyway. So it worked out—we weren’t very careful and just went with the flow. He took care of me a lot; pregnancy was a new experience, but he made sure I was supported. OP

Cool.

Have a good summer vacation Op.

[Anonymous]

OP, Do you regularly welcome his kids in your home? If not, this may be the only time he gets to see his kids.

[Anonymous]

OP, my girlfriend, the second wife, vacationed with her husband, husbands kids and first wife in the mountains of North Carolina

Husband and first wife wanted the kids to have "normalcy" as they had vacationed for years in the mountains of North Carolina with other families in their neighborhood.

Second wife went along but felt very awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, Do you regularly welcome his kids in your home? If not, this may be the only time he gets to see his kids.

Yes, they come and go as they please. Since we got married when they were teenagers, they obviously spent half their time here due to the custody arrangement. OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

But he won't take him on a vacation? Which one is it, OP?

He’s not perfect, nobody is perfect. He’s trying to punish us this year by not letting us go on vacation, because we’re upset that he’s going away for theee weeks with his ex-wife. OP

A wonderful husband would not do that ever. He's a bad husband and it isn't normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

You sound like a petulant and defensive teenager writing this now. I’m sorry your husband won’t pay for your vacation

How? My husband truly didn’t know my age, he thought I was 24. I just wasn’t a teenager anyway when I was 18, I think I stopped being a teenager at 15. And I wasn’t a pregnant teen either. OP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

Again, extremely childish for an 18 year old and no excuse for a 40 year old father of 3. My kids learned a lot about birth control in middle school.

It’s not extremely childish. I just hadn’t thought of birth control or knew what it’s use was before we started dating. OP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Again, My husband wasn’t at a teen club; it was a 25+ venue, and he didn’t know my age. I never liked older men for financial reasons, I just liked three because they were older—that’s all. Also, I wasn’t a teenager when I was 18. While many 18 year olds who get pregnant by 40 year olds might be considered victims, that wasn’t the case for me. OP

You sound like a petulant and defensive teenager writing this now. I’m sorry your husband won’t pay for your vacation

How? My husband truly didn’t know my age, he thought I was 24. I just wasn’t a teenager anyway when I was 18, I think I stopped being a teenager at 15. And I wasn’t a pregnant teen either. OP

Keep digging that hole deeper. You sound just so uneducated for 27. Why can’t you plan a vacation? You’re a bad troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

Again, extremely childish for an 18 year old and no excuse for a 40 year old father of 3. My kids learned a lot about birth control in middle school.

It’s not extremely childish. I just hadn’t thought of birth control or knew what it’s use was before we started dating. OP

That is exactly what childishness is. I'm sorry that you had no sex ed and no adult to protect you from this awful, exploitative man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

But he won't take him on a vacation? Which one is it, OP?

He’s not perfect, nobody is perfect. He’s trying to punish us this year by not letting us go on vacation, because we’re upset that he’s going away for theee weeks with his ex-wife. OP

You don't see a problem with this, sex slave?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you get pregnant and meet?

We met a weeks before my high school graduation. We dated for a few months, and then I got pregnant, and then we got married.

Whose idea was it not to use birth control?

I didn’t really know anything about birth control, but we did sometimes use protection.

Again, extremely childish for an 18 year old and no excuse for a 40 year old father of 3. My kids learned a lot about birth control in middle school.

It’s not extremely childish. I just hadn’t thought of birth control or knew what it’s use was before we started dating. OP

Did you grow up in a religious cult? Were you Amish? How does any teenager, ESPECIALLY one who was so mature you categorize her as "not a teenager when I was 18", not know the "use" of birth control? Every American high school, barring the religious extremist ones, perhaps, would ensure you knew the "use" of birth control. And even if it didn't, just living in the world and being exposed to movies/media/peers would instill this knowledge in you.