I think we and some elementary level teachers get to judge your reading comp, bunny. Because OP didn’t judge you. You’re here because you flinched when several other posters noted that women like you raise a-holes, and you can’t let go of it. |
You’re a type. Don’t be mad when it’s obvious. |
Again, learn to read. This sub thread is not a response to OP but the poster who insisted on the need to invite tween and teen friends’ parents on Halloween. Do keep up, you seem quite lost. |
Ummmmm... I'm the OP. The person who started this thread asking how to support my kid. How did this turn into crazy town with a side order of major culture bias? Geez...no one even responded to my last question...too busy trying to out bully others. 🙄 |
Sweetie. The reference was to your kind of mothering, where by the time your kid is in early ES, you give up on teaching anything relating to character because it requires skills you lack, and then you lurk on boards to ‘defend’ kids being inconsiderate and hurting others, which is the scenario OP’s kid faced in MS. I am sorry you’re so challenged. |
Thank you! |
Wait, wasn’t this thread about friends who had plans, but one child at the last minute left his friend high and dry? |
lol. Well, OP, this thread might’ve given you an answer. The world is full of all kinds including crazy-town. My kid experienced one very painful exclusion. I told my kid not to think too much about it. Think of it as a basketball ball shot to the head. It might’ve been on purpose. It might’ve been on accident. Either way, who cares? Get a hug, get some ice cream, when the hurt goes away, try playing basketball again. Over time you might find you need to join a new team or play a different bracket to become a better player. But eventually, if you keep trying, you will. Turns out basketball isn’t even my kid’s sport. My kid found his place though and is so happy. The silver lining of the exclusion experience: whenever he’s tempted to exclude, I ask him if he remembers what that felt like. It made him a kinder person. |
OP, my DD had a version of this experience yesterday. Halloween is not her favorite holiday, so she didn't make plans with friends, but then ended up reaching out last-minute and drawing a blank. It sucked, but she'll get over it. It's too early to read into it. But it never hurts to branch out and make new friends! |
Can’t believe they still came to your door. Wow! Similar experience when my kid was excluded from a pre-something else party and the whole group arrived together to find me volunteering at the event. Everyone froze. Clear indication they knew they’d pulled an ugly. It gets better. But it’s awful now. Hope your weekend has some cheer. |
Yeah we have a house like that on our street too. It’s annoying. And the mom of the couple is a teacher at the elementary school my kids attend. FORTUNATELY, they had only one kid who is now a teen and seems to have his own friends so the “block parties” are smaller and just some adults now. But yeah, that was real awkward during Covid when they’d be outside with their fire pit and half the neighborhood families around and my older kid was asking why we weren’t at Mrs. Smith’s from school’s party. |
Yeah, my neighborhood is fully of some catty witches but if moms were still intervening in middle school - that would be insane!! |
They would never dream of asking their kids what the plan was bc as long as they have a plan it’s cool to randomly disinvite others and be jerks. Because that’s not their problem. |
NP, but did you read this back to yourself before you posted? Did you wait after typing this out before hitting submit? This is so ugly. You say you don't live through your DC and then list how your DC are better than an anonymous poster's kids, brag about self-perceived attributes and call names. How would you feel if your kid read what you wrote? You should self-reflect here. I would honestly be so disappointed in myself if I posted something like this. |
Anyone have any additional helpful thoughts about this? |