So tired of MIL acting like she’s the hostess in my home

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Everyone is welcome to help themselves with the exception of MIL.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

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Anonymous wrote:MIL is stepping in because of OP’s weird, stringent food rules. If you have house guests, feed them. “We eat at 5” and not allowing food and drink otherwise is being a bad host.

Are you really unable to read? I have said numerous times that I am hosting houseguests for multiple days. We serve breakfast, lunch, cocktail hour with appetizers and dinner, and the kitchen is open any time someone wants anything. But you tried it!

Oh yes, I see now that you posted almost this same exact comment earlier! There is no way that someone like you is the easy-going hostess you’re trying to portray yourself as. You’re being too controlling with what and when your houseguests can eat/drink. Your MIL feels the need to step in, apparently with good reason.

Nope. It’s not he house, she’s not the hostess and she is RUDE.

It's normal for several female family members to pitch in to help on a holiday. Your "rude" is other people's normal. If you really want all guests to stay away from handling any food or beverages, then hire a catering team. That serves food and beverages to guests the entire time. And dinner at a normal time. Then it's all solved rather than just blame everybody for starving or being thirsty or for offering those folks items.

Who are you people that don’t think eating breakfast around 7, lunch around noon, cocktails around 5, dinner around 6 and an open kitchen where anyone can help themselves is somehow eating at “abnormal” times or not providing enough food? Even my literal linebacker brother doesn’t need someone to bring him a sandwich every 45 seconds.

Not everyone eats 3 square meals, some skip breakfast and eat smaller meals during the day. I also don’t like people telling me when i can eat.

So then OP’s open kitchen all day would work well for you.

Except for when it’s 3, and no not that wine. But otherwise sure, wide open, help yourself.

Tell me you buy cheap wine with no thought to food pairings without telling me you buy cheap wine with no thought to food pairings.

Hey hey hey. PP likes her box wine and there’s plenty to go around!

Hey Op has one precious bottle of wine and it has to serve many guests at dinner. One sip each.

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Anonymous wrote:I got invited to a 4pm mom gathering once of about 10 people that had 1 lonely appetizer - a small few frozen TJ's taquitos. And no beverages. We talked about how awful a host it was and how we starved. She did have an already eaten cake displayed, but nobody wanted it.

Cool story, bro. OP and her husband host frequently and stock up and have an open kitchen policy. She said their meals get compliments and the family gathers at their central location time and again. If someone finds their hospitality lacking, they need to step up and host for once.

Dude the kitchen isn’t open if you cannot have snacks at 3.

A “snack” is get yourself some chips or make yourself a sandwich, not take it upon yourself to put out the specialty items your host had planned for cocktail hour.

If any persons butt hits a chair in my house, some snacks are put out for them, even if it's just nuts, and I offer a beverage. This is common courtesy. Didn't everyone's parents teach you all these things?

It has been said over and over that OP is taking about overnight houseguests are staying with her multiple days. She serves three full meals plus cocktail hour *and has an open kitchen policy.* If you are staying in someone’s home for several days and expect snacks to be formally set out for you “every time your butt hits a chair,” I bet your butt won’t fit into a chair.

One of the guests for the snacks. Isn’t that the point? Open kitchen, guests help themselves. What do you think an open kitchen means?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

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Anonymous wrote:I got invited to a 4pm mom gathering once of about 10 people that had 1 lonely appetizer - a small few frozen TJ's taquitos. And no beverages. We talked about how awful a host it was and how we starved. She did have an already eaten cake displayed, but nobody wanted it.

Cool story, bro. OP and her husband host frequently and stock up and have an open kitchen policy. She said their meals get compliments and the family gathers at their central location time and again. If someone finds their hospitality lacking, they need to step up and host for once.

Dude the kitchen isn’t open if you cannot have snacks at 3.

A “snack” is get yourself some chips or make yourself a sandwich, not take it upon yourself to put out the specialty items your host had planned for cocktail hour.

If any persons butt hits a chair in my house, some snacks are put out for them, even if it's just nuts, and I offer a beverage. This is common courtesy. Didn't everyone's parents teach you all these things?

It has been said over and over that OP is taking about overnight houseguests are staying with her multiple days. She serves three full meals plus cocktail hour *and has an open kitchen policy.* If you are staying in someone’s home for several days and expect snacks to be formally set out for you “every time your butt hits a chair,” I bet your butt won’t fit into a chair.

Her original post clearly indicated she was speaking of a holiday dinner.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

Where did any of that happen? She’s whining about a bottle of wine. No one served dinner at 3.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

Where did any of that happen? She’s whining about a bottle of wine. No one served dinner at 3.

If an expensive wine was selected to be paired with dinner, a host absolutely has the right to be miffed if someone randomly breaks it out in the afternoon. I regularly am a host to my family and DH’s family, both for short visits and overnight; I am also frequently a guest at my family’s homes and at DH’s family’s homes. We all enjoy wine, but would honestly never dream of going breaking out alcohol in each other’s homes without asking. At my family’s summer house, there is a specific fridge where sodas, beer, etc., are available all day. But granddad’s liquor cabinet is not up for grabs; granddad makes cocktails at 5, it’s a tradition and I would never go help myself to his Bombay Sapphire without asking.

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Anonymous wrote:I got invited to a 4pm mom gathering once of about 10 people that had 1 lonely appetizer - a small few frozen TJ's taquitos. And no beverages. We talked about how awful a host it was and how we starved. She did have an already eaten cake displayed, but nobody wanted it.

Cool story, bro. OP and her husband host frequently and stock up and have an open kitchen policy. She said their meals get compliments and the family gathers at their central location time and again. If someone finds their hospitality lacking, they need to step up and host for once.

Dude the kitchen isn’t open if you cannot have snacks at 3.

A “snack” is get yourself some chips or make yourself a sandwich, not take it upon yourself to put out the specialty items your host had planned for cocktail hour.

If any persons butt hits a chair in my house, some snacks are put out for them, even if it's just nuts, and I offer a beverage. This is common courtesy. Didn't everyone's parents teach you all these things?

It has been said over and over that OP is taking about overnight houseguests are staying with her multiple days. She serves three full meals plus cocktail hour *and has an open kitchen policy.* If you are staying in someone’s home for several days and expect snacks to be formally set out for you “every time your butt hits a chair,” I bet your butt won’t fit into a chair.

Her original post clearly indicated she was speaking of a holiday dinner.

Yes, and? Do you not get that you can host people for several days, and that visit includes a holiday dinner? We often have my parents stay with us, and then my local cousins come over as well. Why are you acting like this is unheard of?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

Where did any of that happen? She’s whining about a bottle of wine. No one served dinner at 3.

If an expensive wine was selected to be paired with dinner, a host absolutely has the right to be miffed if someone randomly breaks it out in the afternoon. I regularly am a host to my family and DH’s family, both for short visits and overnight; I am also frequently a guest at my family’s homes and at DH’s family’s homes. We all enjoy wine, but would honestly never dream of going breaking out alcohol in each other’s homes without asking. At my family’s summer house, there is a specific fridge where sodas, beer, etc., are available all day. But granddad’s liquor cabinet is not up for grabs; granddad makes cocktails at 5, it’s a tradition and I would never go help myself to his Bombay Sapphire without asking.

She’s hosting multiple people. She better have more than one anyway. She sounded woefully underprepared.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

Where did any of that happen? She’s whining about a bottle of wine. No one served dinner at 3.

If an expensive wine was selected to be paired with dinner, a host absolutely has the right to be miffed if someone randomly breaks it out in the afternoon. I regularly am a host to my family and DH’s family, both for short visits and overnight; I am also frequently a guest at my family’s homes and at DH’s family’s homes. We all enjoy wine, but would honestly never dream of going breaking out alcohol in each other’s homes without asking. At my family’s summer house, there is a specific fridge where sodas, beer, etc., are available all day. But granddad’s liquor cabinet is not up for grabs; granddad makes cocktails at 5, it’s a tradition and I would never go help myself to his Bombay Sapphire without asking.

She’s hosting multiple people. She better have more than one anyway. She sounded woefully underprepared.

Just because one or two posters MAKE UP the scenario where OP literally had one bottle of wine for dinner does not make it true. Grasping at straws.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

Where did any of that happen? She’s whining about a bottle of wine. No one served dinner at 3.

If an expensive wine was selected to be paired with dinner, a host absolutely has the right to be miffed if someone randomly breaks it out in the afternoon. I regularly am a host to my family and DH’s family, both for short visits and overnight; I am also frequently a guest at my family’s homes and at DH’s family’s homes. We all enjoy wine, but would honestly never dream of going breaking out alcohol in each other’s homes without asking. At my family’s summer house, there is a specific fridge where sodas, beer, etc., are available all day. But granddad’s liquor cabinet is not up for grabs; granddad makes cocktails at 5, it’s a tradition and I would never go help myself to his Bombay Sapphire without asking.

She’s hosting multiple people. She better have more than one anyway. She sounded woefully underprepared.

Just because one or two posters MAKE UP the scenario where OP literally had one bottle of wine for dinner does not make it true. Grasping at straws.

Then why was she put out that the wine was for dinner? Who has such limited quantities available? Makes no sense. She sounds like she’s putting on airs but not able to actually pull it off. I have a wine cellar, there’s plenty of wine. This would never be an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

Where did any of that happen? She’s whining about a bottle of wine. No one served dinner at 3.

If an expensive wine was selected to be paired with dinner, a host absolutely has the right to be miffed if someone randomly breaks it out in the afternoon. I regularly am a host to my family and DH’s family, both for short visits and overnight; I am also frequently a guest at my family’s homes and at DH’s family’s homes. We all enjoy wine, but would honestly never dream of going breaking out alcohol in each other’s homes without asking. At my family’s summer house, there is a specific fridge where sodas, beer, etc., are available all day. But granddad’s liquor cabinet is not up for grabs; granddad makes cocktails at 5, it’s a tradition and I would never go help myself to his Bombay Sapphire without asking.

She’s hosting multiple people. She better have more than one anyway. She sounded woefully underprepared.

Just because one or two posters MAKE UP the scenario where OP literally had one bottle of wine for dinner does not make it true. Grasping at straws.

Then why was she put out that the wine was for dinner? Who has such limited quantities available? Makes no sense. She sounds like she’s putting on airs but not able to actually pull it off. I have a wine cellar, there’s plenty of wine. This would never be an issue.

I like how you magically know that OP puts wine out on the counter vs. having a wine fridge vs. having a big wine rack in the dining room vs. having an entire wine cellar or whatever. It is so magic that you know all about OP’s house and how much wine is in her house!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a bad host. You obviously refuse to take responsibility as to why your MIL feels compelled to offer guests food. BECAUSE THEY ARE STARVING!!!!!!!!!!!@

You really need to take some medication. No one is starving at 3pm and requires wine and snacks. But go on with your crazy self. It’s amusing.

You're gaslighting. This hostess needs the meds for her severe OCD and rigid meal restrictions.

I’m gaslighting someone who posted in all caps that at 3pm, people are starving followed by 10 exclamation marks when none of that was true? Really? Yeah, no. Please enlighten us to the post where OP has rigid meal restrictions and where she says no one can eat outside of the regular meal times. What page and time stamp?

Un read the OP its right there. Not at 3. Only at 5 when the host will serve those things.

OP has also said several times she has an OPEN KITCHEN POLICY.

Then stfu a time snacks at 3.

You people are honestly animals. I’ve been an overnight house guest at my ILs plenty of times. They have an open kitchen policy. But I know full well that some of the special items are meant to be special and communal for cocktail hour or special wine for Easter dinner. I do not scoop a portion of the artichoke dip MIL made for Thanksgiving appetizers, nuke it and eat it the night before Thanksgiving. I do not break into the carrot cake DH’s cousin made for Easter dinner at 11 a.m. because it looks good and I’m peckish. I know if I’m hungry I can always go get a snack, but I know that special foods are for everyone to enjoy together, not for me personally to dig into whenever.

Where did any of that happen? She’s whining about a bottle of wine. No one served dinner at 3.

If an expensive wine was selected to be paired with dinner, a host absolutely has the right to be miffed if someone randomly breaks it out in the afternoon. I regularly am a host to my family and DH’s family, both for short visits and overnight; I am also frequently a guest at my family’s homes and at DH’s family’s homes. We all enjoy wine, but would honestly never dream of going breaking out alcohol in each other’s homes without asking. At my family’s summer house, there is a specific fridge where sodas, beer, etc., are available all day. But granddad’s liquor cabinet is not up for grabs; granddad makes cocktails at 5, it’s a tradition and I would never go help myself to his Bombay Sapphire without asking.

She’s hosting multiple people. She better have more than one anyway. She sounded woefully underprepared.

Just because one or two posters MAKE UP the scenario where OP literally had one bottle of wine for dinner does not make it true. Grasping at straws.

Then why was she put out that the wine was for dinner? Who has such limited quantities available? Makes no sense. She sounds like she’s putting on airs but not able to actually pull it off. I have a wine cellar, there’s plenty of wine. This would never be an issue.

I like how you magically know that OP puts wine out on the counter vs. having a wine fridge vs. having a big wine rack in the dining room vs. having an entire wine cellar or whatever. It is so magic that you know all about OP’s house and how much wine is in her house!

It’s common sense.