Discrepancy between you want vs what you can get

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OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Arranged marriage works best in your situation

Arranged marriages are a tough deal for fat people.
Unless you’re fat in the US and willing to marry someone overseas and bring them here. Then someone may be willing to marry a fat person in exchange for a life in the US.
Fat/dark skin/too short/any physical imperfection at all is an issue.

I don’t think a woman being too short is an issue. Unless we are talking something extreme like 4’6. Even very petite women 5’0 and slightly under can be considered highly attractive.

Yes. But, for procreating the mother's height has a big influence on height of children. Sons can be short.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

I suppose you look in the mirror and see a supermodel too. I certainly hope for the sake of your and the other PP’s enlarged egos that your reality comes within ten degrees of your self image.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Arranged marriage works best in your situation

Arranged marriages are a tough deal for fat people.
Unless you’re fat in the US and willing to marry someone overseas and bring them here. Then someone may be willing to marry a fat person in exchange for a life in the US.
Fat/dark skin/too short/any physical imperfection at all is an issue.

I don’t think a woman being too short is an issue. Unless we are talking something extreme like 4’6. Even very petite women 5’0 and slightly under can be considered highly attractive.

Yes. But, for procreating the mother's height has a big influence on height of children. Sons can be short.

Like Shaq’s sons? Lol.

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30s is just too old. No successful guy wants to date 30s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:30s is just too old. No successful guy wants to date 30s

Literally every couple I know married in their 30s. Both husband and wife. All white collar professionals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:30s is just too old. No successful guy wants to date 30s

This is absurd and you know it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Seriously this, I am from NYC and so many people waited till their 30s (most people actually) because they were getting serious careers off the ground and NYC is an expensive place to launch a new family. It would have been so, so easy to marry a wealthy ho-hum guy under 30. I got married at 37 instead after graduate school and with a $170K income on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:30s is just too old. No successful guy wants to date 30s

This is spectacularly false, although it is geographically bound. The further inland you go, and the more provincial you are, the truer this is. Big city and coastal people have zero problem with it, most women are at their hottest from 28-42.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

It is much easier to marry young and then launch your career, with all the support. The only advantage you had over other women is good looks which attracted the right guy. Many girls like you also marry young and they end up divorced with kids by their 40s.

You are not in any way better, or more positive example! I married myself at 25, divorced at 43. I was thin, tall and modeled part time. It was extremely easy for me to marry a rich guy (much easier than studies and career)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

It is much easier to marry young and then launch your career, with all the support. The only advantage you had over other women is good looks which attracted the right guy. Many girls like you also marry young and they end up divorced with kids by their 40s.

You are not in any way better, or more positive example! I married myself at 25, divorced at 43. I was thin, tall and modeled part time. It was extremely easy for me to marry a rich guy (much easier than studies and career)

You are just feeding PP’s gigantic ego by assuming that she is good looking. I’ve seen many examples of young, handsome wealthy guys marrying plainer women than you might expect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

It is much easier to marry young and then launch your career, with all the support. The only advantage you had over other women is good looks which attracted the right guy. Many girls like you also marry young and they end up divorced with kids by their 40s.

You are not in any way better, or more positive example! I married myself at 25, divorced at 43. I was thin, tall and modeled part time. It was extremely easy for me to marry a rich guy (much easier than studies and career)

You are just feeding PP’s gigantic ego by assuming that she is good looking. I’ve seen many examples of young, handsome wealthy guys marrying plainer women than you might expect.

She's probably good looking but also stupid if this is feeding her ego. Beauty attracts all kids of wrong guys /cheaters etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

It is much easier to marry young and then launch your career, with all the support. The only advantage you had over other women is good looks which attracted the right guy. Many girls like you also marry young and they end up divorced with kids by their 40s.

You are not in any way better, or more positive example! I married myself at 25, divorced at 43. I was thin, tall and modeled part time. It was extremely easy for me to marry a rich guy (much easier than studies and career)

Married him at 25 or married him at 43 after divorce? Getting married in your 40s is harder, no matter how thin and pretty you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

It is much easier to marry young and then launch your career, with all the support. The only advantage you had over other women is good looks which attracted the right guy. Many girls like you also marry young and they end up divorced with kids by their 40s.

You are not in any way better, or more positive example! I married myself at 25, divorced at 43. I was thin, tall and modeled part time. It was extremely easy for me to marry a rich guy (much easier than studies and career)

Married him at 25 or married him at 43 after divorce? Getting married in your 40s is harder, no matter how thin and pretty you are.

I married my eX at 25, we divorced at 43. Not sure what's so confusing there. I am not looking to remarry, checked all marriage boxes by now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

I loathe this smug attitude by women who married young. They think it is some grand personal achievement and that it is some symbol that they are special or superior to other women, that they are better at life. You didn’t cure cancer or negotiate world peace, you walked down an aisle. So get over yourselves.

Not PP and I don’t see a hint of smugness. You’re just mad because it’s a hard truth.

But I guess you have me with that last part. I do think I’m better at life. The proof is in the pudding.

Ugh. Really? Gross. No, not “a hint of smugness at all.”

Well I got married young (DH was also mid 20s, not some gross old man) had kids young while launching two successful careers and now we are happy and rich. I’m quite smug. But I’m also not the PP who told you nicely.

It is much easier to marry young and then launch your career, with all the support. The only advantage you had over other women is good looks which attracted the right guy. Many girls like you also marry young and they end up divorced with kids by their 40s.

You are not in any way better, or more positive example! I married myself at 25, divorced at 43. I was thin, tall and modeled part time. It was extremely easy for me to marry a rich guy (much easier than studies and career)

You are just feeding PP’s gigantic ego by assuming that she is good looking. I’ve seen many examples of young, handsome wealthy guys marrying plainer women than you might expect.

She's probably good looking but also stupid if this is feeding her ego. Beauty attracts all kids of wrong guys /cheaters etc

This. And not every handsome wealthy guy is a Prince Charming. Many are spoiled, selfish, arrogant, cold, and narcissistic and they can never love anyone as much as they love themselves. Stop putting them on pedestals.