Discrepancy between you want vs what you can get

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Hey kid, find something else to do for summer break, you are trolling to obviously. Get some finesse.

Also, if you were really in the know, the only people still in think tanks and NGOs in their late 30s have family money, and end up marrying some one from their families circle as a setup.

[Anonymous]

I am a doctor and so are a lot of my female friends. I have many gorgeous, intelligent, well-educated, high-earning friends with serious careers who were all looking to marry in their mid to late thirties. Just so you know these women were not average looking. They were brilliant, knockouts and all-around amazing people. Here is who they married:
1. divorced veterinarian with divorced parents and 6 year old son, joint custody in inland FL (not Miami/Palm Beach), where she had to move. He stays home with their twins and works part time while she makes like $400-500K.
2. DO (not MD) trauma surgeon and Trump / Republican voter with a VERY sedate personality, who helps not at all with their 3 kids, very irritating mother in law who lives minutes away
3. Plastic surgeon who serially cheated during the first 5-7 years of marriage while they were having multiple miscarriages trying for a second baby that they did not achieve; they moved to a medium town in a western state for his job thereby severely limiting her career
4. freelance screenwriter who is intermittently employed
5. real estate developer who cheated on her (she got paged in the OR WHILE OPERATING by the guy's AP's DH); she then hastily remarried someone else and they have several kids now.
6. Very good looking nice guy who has been long term unemployed and is a SAHD.

All of these women made it work and are still married with children.

You have to be realistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

OP here. How did you meet them? Are you hot?

[Anonymous]

How heavy are you?

[Anonymous]

I wasn’t blonde or skinny when I married my husband, but I was 27. I would say that’s your bigger problem. The available matches are more picked over than the toilet paper aisle during a hurricane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple of girlfriends and I have been having some honest discussions about this. We are still single into our late 30s and have good DC type jobs. (Non profits/think tanks). We are well educated and relatively successful and we each had a certain ideas about our future husbands. We wanted a go-getter professionally successful types but those guys never seemed particularly interested in us. I can say objectively that although bright and hardworking, neither of us is particularly conventionally attractive. Those guys seem to date and marry the pretty unassuming skinny type of girls.

So here we are in a dilemma. Marry someone we do not think is "worthy" of us or stay single, as the guys we want never wanted us anyway.

WWYD?

Ew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

These are two things you can fix.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Lol you are a female average Joe making $100k/year or less. Adjust your expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

OP here. How did you meet them? Are you hot?

Non-hot women get married every day, but they are likely better people than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Please define who it is exactly who owes you his company. Is he aware he owes you this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a doctor and so are a lot of my female friends. I have many gorgeous, intelligent, well-educated, high-earning friends with serious careers who were all looking to marry in their mid to late thirties. Just so you know these women were not average looking. They were brilliant, knockouts and all-around amazing people. Here is who they married:
1. divorced veterinarian with divorced parents and 6 year old son, joint custody in inland FL (not Miami/Palm Beach), where she had to move. He stays home with their twins and works part time while she makes like $400-500K.
2. DO (not MD) trauma surgeon and Trump / Republican voter with a VERY sedate personality, who helps not at all with their 3 kids, very irritating mother in law who lives minutes away
3. Plastic surgeon who serially cheated during the first 5-7 years of marriage while they were having multiple miscarriages trying for a second baby that they did not achieve; they moved to a medium town in a western state for his job thereby severely limiting her career
4. freelance screenwriter who is intermittently employed
5. real estate developer who cheated on her (she got paged in the OR WHILE OPERATING by the guy's AP's DH); she then hastily remarried someone else and they have several kids now.
6. Very good looking nice guy who has been long term unemployed and is a SAHD.

All of these women made it work and are still married with children.

You have to be realistic.

Not being snarky -- I love these posts. I feel like every marriage I know could be described in similarly disastrous ways. Most men are truly awful and useless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

OP- you waited too long. Those of us met those guys and married them by 30.

I have a Master’s Degree and work in similar field. I have the life/husband you are looking for. Almost all of my girlfriends do as well and the lady of us married at 33.

+1, I also have the life you are describing and married just before 30, as did many of our friends.

Fair or not, if you want to get attention from the type of man you are describing you need to work on your figure and put some effort into your appearance. They're looking for a smart and fun wife who ALSO has a great body - you're saying they marry unassuming skinny women but in our social circle most of the wives are both attractive and successful in their own right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Male here. With a SHF in Chevy Chase. Private school for my kids. You sound dull and materialistic. What do you bring to the table?

x10000000

Woman here. Exactly my thought. NP. I see so many of these shallow women where I live, I would feel bad for them, if they weren't so ......pathetic.

OP, why would someone want to marry you just because you NEED to have an S class before a certain birthday - are those life goals? Listen to yourself. GEESUS, people, get a grip. I knew a group that would go to Dewey every summer, rent a group house, and all they would talk about is marrying a man like that. Marriage is a business transaction to them, like the oldest profession in the world. I read this all the time on these boards, and see it IRL, it makes women look bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Male here. With a SHF in Chevy Chase. Private school for my kids. You sound dull and materialistic. What do you bring to the table?

x10000000

Woman here. Exactly my thought. NP. I see so many of these shallow women where I live, I would feel bad for them, if they weren't so ......pathetic.

OP, why would someone want to marry you just because you NEED to have an S class before a certain birthday - are those life goals? Listen to yourself. GEESUS, people, get a grip. I knew a group that would go to Dewey every summer, rent a group house, and all they would talk about is marrying a man like that. Marriage is a business transaction to them, like the oldest profession in the world. I read this all the time on these boards, and see it IRL, it makes women look bad.

To add they could never buy a car like that for themselves, yet think that is what they deserve?? GTFOH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you looking for romantic partners or business partners?

OP here. After putting myself through college and graduate school and acquiring a fulfilling and interesting policy job, I really do not want to marry some average joe making 100k a year so we can squeeze into a 500k townhouse in Vienna and take yearly vacations to OBX.

I want a SHF in Chevy Chase, private school for my kids and international vacations.

Why NOT me? Only because I am not blonde and skinny?

Its depressing.

Male here. With a SHF in Chevy Chase. Private school for my kids. You sound dull and materialistic. What do you bring to the table?

x10000000

Woman here. Exactly my thought. NP. I see so many of these shallow women where I live, I would feel bad for them, if they weren't so ......pathetic.

OP, why would someone want to marry you just because you NEED to have an S class before a certain birthday - are those life goals? Listen to yourself. GEESUS, people, get a grip. I knew a group that would go to Dewey every summer, rent a group house, and all they would talk about is marrying a man like that. Marriage is a business transaction to them, like the oldest profession in the world. I read this all the time on these boards, and see it IRL, it makes women look bad.

Oh please. Every single one of these smug married women posting above about how their lives are just like this, wanted exactly these things and found it. OP and her friends are just saying the quiet part out loud. If you don't believe me try taking one of these snotty affluent married women and have them change places with OP (sounds like a great premise for a movie). You will immediately see them completely lose their sh*t.